Dear ladies, pick dresses that hug you. Not hide you. #OwnYourShape #Repost@ttt_official
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My birthday dresses have switched sizes more times than Ranbir Kapoor has changed girlfriends. I have spent days avoiding carbs before a party, exercising to the point of passing out, still having to buy shapewear to hide parts of me and then wriggling my way out of them sooner than it took me to get it on in the first place.
You see, it doesn't make much sense to me to dress up for boys with gym bods when bad breakups and tubs of ice cream are what my extra pounds are made of. I hate to let societal notions of the perfect figure to dictate everything, our idea of fun, eating habits, the way we dress-up, prioritizing appearance over inner happiness.
Saturday night doesn't have to be about forcing yourselves into body-hugging dresses in hopes of impressing guys at a bar. They can be about sliding into a good fitting dress and having a pizza with someone. Or looking for stars in cloudy night skies. Or staying in with Netflix and nachos.
The joy of finding a new dress that embraces me more than it suffocates me while making me look and feel like myself is pristine. And I would never give it up for a dress that is clearly suitable for someone half my size.
I know our ultimate goal for each OOTD is to get the perfect picture that makes us look like a celebrity. But I assure you — you would pick a candid shot where you are having a good time over one where you are adjusting your dress because it fell out of place the one time you got up to dance.
So call that younger cousin of yours, who hasn't had her heartbroken by good looking college boys yet and tell her that she can have the dress you wore to your fresher's party.
And then drag your best friend down to your favorite store and get a dress that hugs you, not hide you.
~Damini Gulati (@damini.gulati)