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  • One day last year, I was in the elevator of my condo building with fifteen-year-old Aisha and an older Pakistani woman. I had just returned from work, so was still dressed in a corporate skirt suit. I noticed the woman giving me the once-over.

Finally in Urdu, she said, "How come I never see your husband around?" "Oh, Aunty," I replied, "I'm divorced."
She smirked at me. "Ah, no wonder," she said, her voice dripping with disapproval. "Well, you never know when men will get their fill and leave their women. I guess it's just your bad luck." Instead of letting it go, as I would have just a few years ago, I gave her a sweet smile. "Oh, Aunty," I said, "actually I got my fill and left. He just couldn't satisfy me anymore." With that, Aisha and I sauntered out of the elevator. I could see the woman flabbergasted expression out of the corner of my eye, Aisha was laughing. "Mom, you're such a badass!"
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This passage is an excerpt from 'A Good Wife - Escaping the Life I Never Chose'
~ @samra.zafar01
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Check out Samra Zafar's book at  https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/a-good-wife-escaping-the/9781443454865-item.html?ikwid=Samra+Zafar&ikwsec=Home&ikwidx=0
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'Superhereos of the 6ix' is a series illustrating real people and telling real stories. We believe in the saying that the greatest story never told is that of ordinary people growing old. The series finds beauty in the ordinary heorism of people around us. .
Tune in every Sunday for a new illustration and a new story. DM or email if you want to tell your story and/or get illustrated.
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#wife #abuse #abusiverelationship #escapeabuse #womenshelter #womeninsuits #womenempowerment #empowerment #educatewomen #abusiverelationshipsurvivor #survivor #metoomovement #couragequotes #fearless #badass #skydivingposts #adrenalinejunkies #fighter #shecanfight #brownaunties #stopslutshaming #illustratorlife
  • One day last year, I was in the elevator of my condo building with fifteen-year-old Aisha and an older Pakistani woman. I had just returned from work, so was still dressed in a corporate skirt suit. I noticed the woman giving me the once-over.

    Finally in Urdu, she said, "How come I never see your husband around?" "Oh, Aunty," I replied, "I'm divorced."
    She smirked at me. "Ah, no wonder," she said, her voice dripping with disapproval. "Well, you never know when men will get their fill and leave their women. I guess it's just your bad luck." Instead of letting it go, as I would have just a few years ago, I gave her a sweet smile. "Oh, Aunty," I said, "actually I got my fill and left. He just couldn't satisfy me anymore." With that, Aisha and I sauntered out of the elevator. I could see the woman flabbergasted expression out of the corner of my eye, Aisha was laughing. "Mom, you're such a badass!"
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    This passage is an excerpt from 'A Good Wife - Escaping the Life I Never Chose'
    ~ @samra.zafar01
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    Check out Samra Zafar's book at https://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/a-good-wife-escaping-the/9781443454865-item.html?ikwid=Samra+Zafar&ikwsec=Home&ikwidx=0
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    'Superhereos of the 6ix' is a series illustrating real people and telling real stories. We believe in the saying that the greatest story never told is that of ordinary people growing old. The series finds beauty in the ordinary heorism of people around us. .
    Tune in every Sunday for a new illustration and a new story. DM or email if you want to tell your story and/or get illustrated.
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    #wife #abuse #abusiverelationship #escapeabuse #womenshelter #womeninsuits #womenempowerment #empowerment #educatewomen #abusiverelationshipsurvivor #survivor #metoomovement #couragequotes #fearless #badass #skydivingposts #adrenalinejunkies #fighter #shecanfight #brownaunties #stopslutshaming #illustratorlife
  • 44 5 10 March, 2019
  • For #internationalwomensday I dedicate this post to my daughter, and to all ladies.
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👏🏽My father taught my sister and I to be the strongest ladies ever known to man. Never to depend on a man, and to never doubt our capabilities. If we want to do it, do it. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t. My dad had a plan raising strong willed and minded daughters.
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👏🏽 now as adults, my sister is probably the strongest ladies I know. No one will tell her no, and she will accomplish everything her mind is set on. She has made me the proudest sister ever! I’m so honored to have this gal in my life @aymeekim. .
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👏🏽 life hasn’t also been rainbows for me. Having my daughter at 19 and being single from day 1 meant life was going to be tough. But I knew the 1 thing I needed to show her was STRENGTH! I put myself through college, graduating at the top of my class with a bachelors in psychology, all the whole working full-time and parenting 100% alone. I did shed some tears, but in the end if you ask her, her mom’s the strongest person she knows. I taught her that if you want it, do it. Never give up. .
👏🏽 NOW 13 years later. My little girl is another one of the strongest gals I know. She often amazes me with her drive, her steadfast attitude and the “don’t worry I got it” mindset.
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👏🏽 on internationalwomensday (and frankly everyday) I want all women to know your worth and your value.
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#knowyourworth #knowyourworthladies #imalady #womensday #womenshistorymonth #nationalwomensday #singlemom #singlemomlife #singlemombychoice #abusiverelationshipsurvivor
  • For #internationalwomensday I dedicate this post to my daughter, and to all ladies.
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    👏🏽My father taught my sister and I to be the strongest ladies ever known to man. Never to depend on a man, and to never doubt our capabilities. If we want to do it, do it. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t. My dad had a plan raising strong willed and minded daughters.
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    👏🏽 now as adults, my sister is probably the strongest ladies I know. No one will tell her no, and she will accomplish everything her mind is set on. She has made me the proudest sister ever! I’m so honored to have this gal in my life @aymeekim. .
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    👏🏽 life hasn’t also been rainbows for me. Having my daughter at 19 and being single from day 1 meant life was going to be tough. But I knew the 1 thing I needed to show her was STRENGTH! I put myself through college, graduating at the top of my class with a bachelors in psychology, all the whole working full-time and parenting 100% alone. I did shed some tears, but in the end if you ask her, her mom’s the strongest person she knows. I taught her that if you want it, do it. Never give up. .
    👏🏽 NOW 13 years later. My little girl is another one of the strongest gals I know. She often amazes me with her drive, her steadfast attitude and the “don’t worry I got it” mindset.
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    👏🏽 on internationalwomensday (and frankly everyday) I want all women to know your worth and your value.
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    #knowyourworth #knowyourworthladies #imalady #womensday #womenshistorymonth #nationalwomensday #singlemom #singlemomlife #singlemombychoice #abusiverelationshipsurvivor
  • 36 4 8 March, 2019
  • We are the bearers of our own torch and we cannot rely on others to light or carry that torch for us. This reminds me that in the end I am the decider of my future. Because I can decide how brightly the flame burns.

When you let others diminish your flame you are handing them your power. You’re telling yourself that you are incapable of handling things on your own, that in order for you to survive you must rely on the good will of others.

Each and every one of us is more than capable of pulling ourselves out of the mud, patting ourselves on the back, and motivating ourselves to move forward. It’s doesn’t make it easy to do, but that makes it rewarding. A personal success.

These personal successes are our light in the darkness. They guide us down the path we’re on whether through our own doing or opportunities that present themselves to us.
  • We are the bearers of our own torch and we cannot rely on others to light or carry that torch for us. This reminds me that in the end I am the decider of my future. Because I can decide how brightly the flame burns.

    When you let others diminish your flame you are handing them your power. You’re telling yourself that you are incapable of handling things on your own, that in order for you to survive you must rely on the good will of others.

    Each and every one of us is more than capable of pulling ourselves out of the mud, patting ourselves on the back, and motivating ourselves to move forward. It’s doesn’t make it easy to do, but that makes it rewarding. A personal success.

    These personal successes are our light in the darkness. They guide us down the path we’re on whether through our own doing or opportunities that present themselves to us.
  • 36 3 2 March, 2019
  • 🔆SURVIVOR POST🔆
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🔸️Today marks 5 years that I left a very abusive relationship.🔸️Today marks the day that I took my life back.🔸️Today marks the day I put myself & my children first.🔸️Today marks the day that I started to find my voice again.🔸️Today marks the day that I was no longer someone's puppet.🔸️Today marks the day that I left & stayed gone! .🔸️Today marks the day when I made the best decision I ever could for my family. 🔸️Today marks the day I said NO MORE!
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And today can mark the day YOU DO TOO. It's hard. It's scary. It's will hurt. You will be terrified but you do not deserve to be abused. You do not deserve to be hurt, ignored, unheard, belittled, broken down or dehumanized. YOU my beautiful beautiful soul, deserve MORE. You deserve the BEST & you can have that. You don't need this person. You don't need them to suceed. You don't even need them to be YOU. You were incredible before they came into your life & you are just as incredible (if not more - you're a fighter) now. Reach out to someone that can help. TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK. FIND YOUR VOICE AGAIN. I promise you it's in there. I love you. I'm here for you & you don't have to sit in silence any more. Break free!❤
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This morning as I shed a few tears, I shed them not from what I lost, but from what I gained. From what I created for MYSELF.❤ For being brave enough to say NO MORE.
  • 🔆SURVIVOR POST🔆
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    🔸️Today marks 5 years that I left a very abusive relationship.🔸️Today marks the day that I took my life back.🔸️Today marks the day I put myself & my children first.🔸️Today marks the day that I started to find my voice again.🔸️Today marks the day that I was no longer someone's puppet.🔸️Today marks the day that I left & stayed gone! .🔸️Today marks the day when I made the best decision I ever could for my family. 🔸️Today marks the day I said NO MORE!
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    And today can mark the day YOU DO TOO. It's hard. It's scary. It's will hurt. You will be terrified but you do not deserve to be abused. You do not deserve to be hurt, ignored, unheard, belittled, broken down or dehumanized. YOU my beautiful beautiful soul, deserve MORE. You deserve the BEST & you can have that. You don't need this person. You don't need them to suceed. You don't even need them to be YOU. You were incredible before they came into your life & you are just as incredible (if not more - you're a fighter) now. Reach out to someone that can help. TAKE YOUR LIFE BACK. FIND YOUR VOICE AGAIN. I promise you it's in there. I love you. I'm here for you & you don't have to sit in silence any more. Break free!❤
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    This morning as I shed a few tears, I shed them not from what I lost, but from what I gained. From what I created for MYSELF.❤ For being brave enough to say NO MORE.
  • 44 3 22 February, 2019
  • Death of the true self. This illustration I created portrays the perception of deception. How many different faces can you see in one?
  • Death of the true self. This illustration I created portrays the perception of deception. How many different faces can you see in one?
  • 73 2 19 February, 2019
  • "How did you get to a point where you don't care what people think of you?". Someone asked me this question yesterday. At one point in my life, I only saw myself through one person's eyes. Just one. And the rest, I hid my agony from. Because that's what strong people do, right? I was ashamed to admit to anyone around me that I was caught up in an abusive, manipulative (relationship? I can't even call it that). I didn't understand it. All I knew was this bloodsucking dependency that caused me to lose myself bit by bit. From hitting a weight below 100 pounds to losing my sense of who I was. To looking grey unless I put a ton of makeup on. To sleeping to the same thoughts that I woke up to. To putting my body through what felt like the hell of medications that were meant to "calm" me down. All of it. All. Of. It.
Driving not knowing where I'm going. Sitting in my car for hours in random parking lots waiting for my anxiety & my panic to go away before I showed my "brave" face wherever I had to be next. Breaking down into tears not knowing when it will end. Not seeing a light. Not seeing hope.
All. Of. It. Every bit of it.
That's just one of many experiences. And this one in particular, I've come so far from that I barely talk or write or think about it anymore. It's faded in my mind because I've put it under my feet & rose above.
What I'm trying to say is... I'm not here preaching healing to you from a place of theory. I was there. And when I tell you I get it, trust me... I actually do. - Copied. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________

#abusiverelationship #abusive #abusiverelationships #abusivecycle #abusiveparents #abusiverelationshipsurvivor #abusivepower #abusivemen #AbusiveFather #abusivebehavior #abusivehusband #abusivemom #abusiveofpower #abusivehome #abusivechildhood #abusiveanimals #abusivewomen
  • "How did you get to a point where you don't care what people think of you?". Someone asked me this question yesterday. At one point in my life, I only saw myself through one person's eyes. Just one. And the rest, I hid my agony from. Because that's what strong people do, right? I was ashamed to admit to anyone around me that I was caught up in an abusive, manipulative (relationship? I can't even call it that). I didn't understand it. All I knew was this bloodsucking dependency that caused me to lose myself bit by bit. From hitting a weight below 100 pounds to losing my sense of who I was. To looking grey unless I put a ton of makeup on. To sleeping to the same thoughts that I woke up to. To putting my body through what felt like the hell of medications that were meant to "calm" me down. All of it. All. Of. It.
    Driving not knowing where I'm going. Sitting in my car for hours in random parking lots waiting for my anxiety & my panic to go away before I showed my "brave" face wherever I had to be next. Breaking down into tears not knowing when it will end. Not seeing a light. Not seeing hope.
    All. Of. It. Every bit of it.
    That's just one of many experiences. And this one in particular, I've come so far from that I barely talk or write or think about it anymore. It's faded in my mind because I've put it under my feet & rose above.
    What I'm trying to say is... I'm not here preaching healing to you from a place of theory. I was there. And when I tell you I get it, trust me... I actually do. - Copied. ______________________________________________________________________________________________________

    #abusiverelationship #abusive #abusiverelationships #abusivecycle #abusiveparents #abusiverelationshipsurvivor #abusivepower #abusivemen #AbusiveFather #abusivebehavior #abusivehusband #abusivemom #abusiveofpower #abusivehome #abusivechildhood #abusiveanimals #abusivewomen
  • 8 0 19 February, 2019
  • valentines day is coming up and this design I created is made for those people out there that have survived with darker memories of a relationship, for those who have been through emotional/physical abuse. I send my love and support too all of you, your winners and your stronger than you think, speak up and stay true to your wants, needs and yourselfs and what you believe in.
  • valentines day is coming up and this design I created is made for those people out there that have survived with darker memories of a relationship, for those who have been through emotional/physical abuse. I send my love and support too all of you, your winners and your stronger than you think, speak up and stay true to your wants, needs and yourselfs and what you believe in.
  • 85 16 13 February, 2019
  • Today used to be an important day. I would make some eloquent speech about death, and the world, and how I needed a father. But I refuse this year. For years my worth and who I was, was seen to certain “family” members as who I was to a dead man. You had ZERO to do with my upbringing and who I am as a person. My mother and experience raised me. Trial and error taught me to be as bold and kind and brave and caring as I am. My friends (who I’m lucky enough to not have enough digits to count them on) helped, and still are helping me through the hardest parts of my life. I was not raised by a man. I will never need a man. A man did not make me who I am. So after today, he will get honorable mention for giving me my curls and skin tone, but my experiences without his help gave me true life. Thank you to my mother Veronica Call who did the best she could given her own traumas and demons. Thank you to my siblings Alexandrea Mae Call, Wesley Charlie Hobbes and Kenny for allowing me to have a hand in raising you and teaching me young how to be responsible. Thank you to my ex husband who taught me to laugh and helped me realize I could have, and deserved more. Thank you to my friends for holding me at my lowest parts of depression and still sticking by me regardless. Thank you to every ex boyfriend for teaching me what I will NOT tolerate from a “man.” Thank you to the lovers over the years, male, female, non binary, who have taught me trust. And to my father: I did not need you. I needed you to love my mother. You did and I came from it. So the only thing I will say about the man who helped give me my genes, is thank you for loving her. But Past that, I did not need you.
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#art #artistsoninstagram #wip #artoftheday #mixedmedia #mixedmediaart #mixedmediaartist #painting #acrylicpainting #oilpainting #ink
#biracial #biracialbabe #curls #curlyhair #girlswithpiercings #girlswithtattoos #bowngirlsdoitwell #browngirlmagic #blackandwhite #bossbabe #wisdom #healing #metoo #survivor #childhoodtraumasurvivor #abusiverelationshipsurvivor
  • Today used to be an important day. I would make some eloquent speech about death, and the world, and how I needed a father. But I refuse this year. For years my worth and who I was, was seen to certain “family” members as who I was to a dead man. You had ZERO to do with my upbringing and who I am as a person. My mother and experience raised me. Trial and error taught me to be as bold and kind and brave and caring as I am. My friends (who I’m lucky enough to not have enough digits to count them on) helped, and still are helping me through the hardest parts of my life. I was not raised by a man. I will never need a man. A man did not make me who I am. So after today, he will get honorable mention for giving me my curls and skin tone, but my experiences without his help gave me true life. Thank you to my mother Veronica Call who did the best she could given her own traumas and demons. Thank you to my siblings Alexandrea Mae Call, Wesley Charlie Hobbes and Kenny for allowing me to have a hand in raising you and teaching me young how to be responsible. Thank you to my ex husband who taught me to laugh and helped me realize I could have, and deserved more. Thank you to my friends for holding me at my lowest parts of depression and still sticking by me regardless. Thank you to every ex boyfriend for teaching me what I will NOT tolerate from a “man.” Thank you to the lovers over the years, male, female, non binary, who have taught me trust. And to my father: I did not need you. I needed you to love my mother. You did and I came from it. So the only thing I will say about the man who helped give me my genes, is thank you for loving her. But Past that, I did not need you.
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    #art #artistsoninstagram #wip #artoftheday #mixedmedia #mixedmediaart #mixedmediaartist #painting #acrylicpainting #oilpainting #ink
    #biracial #biracialbabe #curls #curlyhair #girlswithpiercings #girlswithtattoos #bowngirlsdoitwell #browngirlmagic #blackandwhite #bossbabe #wisdom #healing #metoo #survivor #childhoodtraumasurvivor #abusiverelationshipsurvivor
  • 49 7 13 February, 2019
  • UNTOLD STORY OF 2018:
She was used for her money, which she doesn't have many.
"Help!" she whispered

Choked and pushed around, Dragged by the hair till sun goes down.
"Help!" she whimpered

She was physically abused,
Body full of scars,bites and bruises.
"Help!" she whispered .

She was held in a cage,
With a knife on her. neck,hostage.
"Help!" she whimpered

And

Nobody helped her. "What does not kill you make you stronger" -Friedrich Nietzsche  #abusiverelationships #abusiverelationshipsurvivor
#thickwomen 
#thickandcurvy
#instalove 
#strongwomen 
#womenempowerment
  • UNTOLD STORY OF 2018:
    She was used for her money, which she doesn't have many.
    "Help!" she whispered

    Choked and pushed around, Dragged by the hair till sun goes down.
    "Help!" she whimpered

    She was physically abused,
    Body full of scars,bites and bruises.
    "Help!" she whispered .

    She was held in a cage,
    With a knife on her. neck,hostage.
    "Help!" she whimpered

    And

    Nobody helped her. "What does not kill you make you stronger" -Friedrich Nietzsche #abusiverelationships #abusiverelationshipsurvivor
    #thickwomen
    #thickandcurvy
    #instalove
    #strongwomen
    #womenempowerment
  • 185 5 13 February, 2019