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  • Sharing @justine_intuitive_coaching ⁣
post and caption entirely because of what I am experiencing currently.⁣
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Just because you don’t understand it, it doesn’t mean that it’s not important. Try to listen with empathy and understanding rather than dismissal and invalidation. People who invalidate someone else’s experience only shows they haven’t dealt with their pain. ⁣
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Repost from @justine_intuitive_coaching - What does it mean to actually emotionally validate someone’s feelings? ⁣
First, let’s break down invalidation. The invalidating of someone’s feelings is to reject, ignore, or judge their feelings as opposed to validation; to accept, understand, and nurture. ⁣
When we emotionally invalidate others we are saying without saying; your feelings do not matter. ⁣
Everyone, especially highly sensitive and empathic people, want to be loved and understood. A good way to provide that to a loved one is to hold space empathetically and if words need to be said; pick an emotionally valid response.⁣
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You can see by this chart that an emotionally valid response allows great empathy to be shared. The invalidating responses are sympathetic, which is completely different from being empathetic. ⁣
Invalidating someone’s feelings on a regular basis can create a lot of emotional distance and can absolutely be categorized as emotional abuse- even if our intentions are not malicious. ⁣
The world needs a lot of emotional healing and this is definitely a small step in that direction if we can use our consciousness in emotional situations. ⁣
#validation #emotionalvalidation #befree #emotionalfreedom #emotions #feelings #invalidation #empathetic #empathy #spiritualrelationships
  • Sharing @justine_intuitive_coaching
    post and caption entirely because of what I am experiencing currently.⁣

    Just because you don’t understand it, it doesn’t mean that it’s not important. Try to listen with empathy and understanding rather than dismissal and invalidation. People who invalidate someone else’s experience only shows they haven’t dealt with their pain. ⁣

    Repost from @justine_intuitive_coaching - What does it mean to actually emotionally validate someone’s feelings? ⁣
    First, let’s break down invalidation. The invalidating of someone’s feelings is to reject, ignore, or judge their feelings as opposed to validation; to accept, understand, and nurture. ⁣
    When we emotionally invalidate others we are saying without saying; your feelings do not matter. ⁣
    Everyone, especially highly sensitive and empathic people, want to be loved and understood. A good way to provide that to a loved one is to hold space empathetically and if words need to be said; pick an emotionally valid response.⁣
    ✨⁣
    You can see by this chart that an emotionally valid response allows great empathy to be shared. The invalidating responses are sympathetic, which is completely different from being empathetic. ⁣
    Invalidating someone’s feelings on a regular basis can create a lot of emotional distance and can absolutely be categorized as emotional abuse- even if our intentions are not malicious. ⁣
    The world needs a lot of emotional healing and this is definitely a small step in that direction if we can use our consciousness in emotional situations. ⁣
    #validation #emotionalvalidation #befree #emotionalfreedom #emotions #feelings #invalidation #empathetic #empathy #spiritualrelationships
  • 1,453 48 4 March, 2019

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  • Check out my Blog post:
Setting Boundaries With Toxic People
Boundaries are a healthy tool for knowing where you end, and another begins. They helps us know what we are willing to do, and what we are not willing to do, and convey these limits with those around us.... If you need help navigating a toxic person in your life, PM me.  I offer a free consultation, and then only $30 for an hour-  if you find you need further help.

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  • Check out my Blog post:
    Setting Boundaries With Toxic People
    Boundaries are a healthy tool for knowing where you end, and another begins. They helps us know what we are willing to do, and what we are not willing to do, and convey these limits with those around us.... If you need help navigating a toxic person in your life, PM me. I offer a free consultation, and then only $30 for an hour- if you find you need further help.

    Link to website in Profile
  • 5 2 55 minutes ago
  • This same concept applies to, "Ghosting" as well. Ghosting is when a toxic person disappears. No call, no show, no contact..nothing. It's as if you never existed. 
This differs from stopping all contact with a toxic person for the purpose of self-preservation. Though it can be painful, there are times when maintaining contact with another person can compromise our mental/emotional health, and the healthiest course of action is to greatly reduce or even stop contact (No contact). If you are needing help navigating interactions with a person who displays toxic behavior, I can help. I have over a decade of experience in the field, and can help you with the confusion and stress of dealing with toxic behavior.
PM me and we can set up some time to talk- I offer a free consultation ❤️
  • This same concept applies to, "Ghosting" as well. Ghosting is when a toxic person disappears. No call, no show, no contact..nothing. It's as if you never existed.
    This differs from stopping all contact with a toxic person for the purpose of self-preservation. Though it can be painful, there are times when maintaining contact with another person can compromise our mental/emotional health, and the healthiest course of action is to greatly reduce or even stop contact (No contact). If you are needing help navigating interactions with a person who displays toxic behavior, I can help. I have over a decade of experience in the field, and can help you with the confusion and stress of dealing with toxic behavior.
    PM me and we can set up some time to talk- I offer a free consultation ❤️
  • 113 6 16 March, 2019
  • Made a mistake today, had a mini break down.  #adultchildrenofnarcissists aren’t allowed to make mistakes, in fact mistakes are taught as a sign of weakness when its quite the opposite. Allow yourself to mess up and own it! We are not robots but human beings, mistakes make us grow and show us our strength!  @victoriamanganodesign ✨
  • Made a mistake today, had a mini break down. #adultchildrenofnarcissists aren’t allowed to make mistakes, in fact mistakes are taught as a sign of weakness when its quite the opposite. Allow yourself to mess up and own it! We are not robots but human beings, mistakes make us grow and show us our strength! @victoriamanganodesign
  • 18 3 15 March, 2019
  • You’ll more than likely go through some stumbling blocks along your ACA journey but through the Twelve Step program of ACA we will no longer live life from a basis of fear. We live with self-care and love 💗
  • You’ll more than likely go through some stumbling blocks along your ACA journey but through the Twelve Step program of ACA we will no longer live life from a basis of fear. We live with self-care and love 💗
  • 22 2 14 March, 2019
  • Live one day at a time and make it a masterpiece.
  • Live one day at a time and make it a masterpiece.
  • 47 2 14 March, 2019
  • In ACA, we believe recovery takes regular attendance at ACA meetings. We also must work the Twelve Steps and be willing to talk honestly about what happened to us as we grew up in a dysfunctional home. Recovery takes effort.
  • In ACA, we believe recovery takes regular attendance at ACA meetings. We also must work the Twelve Steps and be willing to talk honestly about what happened to us as we grew up in a dysfunctional home. Recovery takes effort.
  • 26 5 14 March, 2019
  • {Boundaries are not limiting — they’re freeing} 🦋✨
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I remember the first time the idea of “boundaries” was mentioned to me. My toxic family had always been a giant thorn in my side — limiting me from being as free and happy as I knew I could be without their toxic compulsions. But a few years ago things really came to a breaking point. My mentally ill mother, who is also a gambling addict and who was at times abusive was in the depths of cancer treatment. My brother had just crashed her new lease into a building while high on heroin, and my beautiful little sister was wasting away to anorexia. My extended family had always put pressure on me as the most stable one to “hold everything together”. For years I did just that, but not this time. This time I had hit my limit. .
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I broke down and found the first therapist I could get an appointment with. I truly believe that the Universe brought me to her office in my greatest time of need because as soon as I told her about my Borderline mother she said that her mother was also BPD. What are the odds!? .
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And so the turning point came for me when she said that the most important thing to remember when reacting to toxic family is “boundaries”. In that moment, my mindset shifted from “I’m obligated to hold everyone together” TO “my duty is to take care of myself”. The mere mention of boundaries thrust me into a state of empowerment I had never experienced before:
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I realized that I WAS IN CONTROL. I had the power to limit my family’s negative influence on my happiness, outlook and wellbeing. I could do all of this through setting and maintaining boundaries! The light bulb was lit 🔥.
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Boundaries are not limiting because they allow you the space you NEED to get reacquainted with yourself and your needs. In life we often ignore our most basic needs, and it’s especially true when we are caught in the web of a toxic family. .
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Take a step back to realize the power you have through boundaries. Even little things like not answering a text right away or hanging up when they get argumentative. All of the little things will add up. ...Continued in comments 👇
  • {Boundaries are not limiting — they’re freeing} 🦋✨
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    I remember the first time the idea of “boundaries” was mentioned to me. My toxic family had always been a giant thorn in my side — limiting me from being as free and happy as I knew I could be without their toxic compulsions. But a few years ago things really came to a breaking point. My mentally ill mother, who is also a gambling addict and who was at times abusive was in the depths of cancer treatment. My brother had just crashed her new lease into a building while high on heroin, and my beautiful little sister was wasting away to anorexia. My extended family had always put pressure on me as the most stable one to “hold everything together”. For years I did just that, but not this time. This time I had hit my limit. .
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    I broke down and found the first therapist I could get an appointment with. I truly believe that the Universe brought me to her office in my greatest time of need because as soon as I told her about my Borderline mother she said that her mother was also BPD. What are the odds!? .
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    And so the turning point came for me when she said that the most important thing to remember when reacting to toxic family is “boundaries”. In that moment, my mindset shifted from “I’m obligated to hold everyone together” TO “my duty is to take care of myself”. The mere mention of boundaries thrust me into a state of empowerment I had never experienced before:
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    I realized that I WAS IN CONTROL. I had the power to limit my family’s negative influence on my happiness, outlook and wellbeing. I could do all of this through setting and maintaining boundaries! The light bulb was lit 🔥.
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    Boundaries are not limiting because they allow you the space you NEED to get reacquainted with yourself and your needs. In life we often ignore our most basic needs, and it’s especially true when we are caught in the web of a toxic family. .
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    Take a step back to realize the power you have through boundaries. Even little things like not answering a text right away or hanging up when they get argumentative. All of the little things will add up. ...Continued in comments 👇
  • 45 6 14 March, 2019
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  • 41 1 13 March, 2019
  • Those who find success and healing attend ACA meetings regularly, get a sponsor, and do the Twelve Step work with focus. ACA is a way of life that works if you work it. The rewards and gifts are immeasurable.
  • Those who find success and healing attend ACA meetings regularly, get a sponsor, and do the Twelve Step work with focus. ACA is a way of life that works if you work it. The rewards and gifts are immeasurable.
  • 39 2 13 March, 2019
  • You’re doing amazing!
  • You’re doing amazing!
  • 40 2 13 March, 2019
  • (Questions continued from last post) If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, you may be suffering from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family. As The Laundry List states, you can be affected even if you did not take a drink.
  • (Questions continued from last post) If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, you may be suffering from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family. As The Laundry List states, you can be affected even if you did not take a drink.
  • 33 3 11 March, 2019
  • Just keep believing.
  • Just keep believing.
  • 22 1 11 March, 2019
  • (Questions continued from last post) If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, you may be suffering from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family. As The Laundry List states, you can be affected even if you did not take a drink.
  • (Questions continued from last post) If you answered yes to three or more of these questions, you may be suffering from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic or other dysfunctional family. As The Laundry List states, you can be affected even if you did not take a drink.
  • 27 5 11 March, 2019
  • Invalidation -when our feelings are minimized, ignored, and the victim is made to feel irrational, uncaring and wrong.⬇️
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Narcissists are pros at invalidation because they lack empathy. They invalidate because your needs don’t matter to them. In their world you exist only for them and so they minimize, ignore and little by little you begin to wonder if you even have needs and are your emotions trustworthy? Invalidation creates a lost sense of self in the victim. .
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Remember Narcissists are acting out of a lie, protecting a false image.
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➡️So what is the truth? .
•Your feelings matter.
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•Your feelings are valid. .
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•You are strong .
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•That inner resilience will get you far ..
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•Don’t internalize their invalidation and aim to set healthy boundaries (this is easier said than done.... I know.....) .
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#invalidation #emotionalabuse #nocontact #adultchildrenofnarcissists #narcissisticabuse #narcissism  #crazymaking #gaslighting #projecting #ptsd #anxiety #healing
  • Invalidation -when our feelings are minimized, ignored, and the victim is made to feel irrational, uncaring and wrong.⬇️
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    Narcissists are pros at invalidation because they lack empathy. They invalidate because your needs don’t matter to them. In their world you exist only for them and so they minimize, ignore and little by little you begin to wonder if you even have needs and are your emotions trustworthy? Invalidation creates a lost sense of self in the victim. .
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    Remember Narcissists are acting out of a lie, protecting a false image.
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    ➡️So what is the truth? .
    •Your feelings matter.
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    •Your feelings are valid. .
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    •You are strong .
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    •That inner resilience will get you far ..
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    •Don’t internalize their invalidation and aim to set healthy boundaries (this is easier said than done.... I know.....) .
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    #invalidation #emotionalabuse #nocontact #adultchildrenofnarcissists #narcissisticabuse #narcissism #crazymaking #gaslighting #projecting #ptsd #anxiety #healing
  • 34 0 11 March, 2019
  • “Wanderlust: n. a strong desire for or impulse to wander or travel and explore the world”

My Husband and I are going to be renewing our vows tomorrow in the beautiful island of Aruba. I am so excited 😆
If you want to see our photos drop a 💕 emoji.

Have a wonderful spring break everyone🙏🏼 Much Love
Roxanna
  • “Wanderlust: n. a strong desire for or impulse to wander or travel and explore the world”

    My Husband and I are going to be renewing our vows tomorrow in the beautiful island of Aruba. I am so excited 😆
    If you want to see our photos drop a 💕 emoji.

    Have a wonderful spring break everyone🙏🏼 Much Love
    Roxanna
  • 145 31 10 March, 2019
  • It’s ok and possible to take time to rest, have fun, and refuel yourself in a nonalcoholic non destructive way.
  • It’s ok and possible to take time to rest, have fun, and refuel yourself in a nonalcoholic non destructive way.
  • 39 2 10 March, 2019
  • The following questions will help you decide if alcoholism or other family dysfunction existed in your family. If your parents did not drink, your grandparents may have drank and passed on the disease of family dysfunction to your parents. If alcohol or drugs were not a problem, your home may have been chaotic, unsafe, and lacking nurture like many alcoholic homes. The following questions offer an insight into some ways children are affected by growing up with a problem drinker even years after leaving the home. The questions also apply to adults growing up in homes where food, sex, workaholism, or ultra-religious abuse occurred. Foster children, now adults, relate to many of these questions.
  • The following questions will help you decide if alcoholism or other family dysfunction existed in your family. If your parents did not drink, your grandparents may have drank and passed on the disease of family dysfunction to your parents. If alcohol or drugs were not a problem, your home may have been chaotic, unsafe, and lacking nurture like many alcoholic homes. The following questions offer an insight into some ways children are affected by growing up with a problem drinker even years after leaving the home. The questions also apply to adults growing up in homes where food, sex, workaholism, or ultra-religious abuse occurred. Foster children, now adults, relate to many of these questions.
  • 12 3 10 March, 2019
  • Your feelings are your superpower 🦸🏻‍♀️
  • Your feelings are your superpower 🦸🏻‍♀️
  • 28 1 10 March, 2019
  • Adult children are survivors and have taken a lot of pride in that identification. Yet I think we all deserve a lot more than that in our lives. ACA is the path to offer that to us. It is not necessarily an easy path. At times, it can be scary, at times painful. But hang on to the vision of where it leads you. Pay attention to the process, but remember to have fun. Recovery is not about perfection. It is in the becoming that we experience the promises of recovery. Learn to validate yourself by becoming your own loving parent. Don’t judge recovery or yourself. Acknowledge the little steps along the way. In doing so, you will move from shame to self-worth, from secrecy to honesty, loneliness to connection with self and others, and from silence to having a voice.
  • Adult children are survivors and have taken a lot of pride in that identification. Yet I think we all deserve a lot more than that in our lives. ACA is the path to offer that to us. It is not necessarily an easy path. At times, it can be scary, at times painful. But hang on to the vision of where it leads you. Pay attention to the process, but remember to have fun. Recovery is not about perfection. It is in the becoming that we experience the promises of recovery. Learn to validate yourself by becoming your own loving parent. Don’t judge recovery or yourself. Acknowledge the little steps along the way. In doing so, you will move from shame to self-worth, from secrecy to honesty, loneliness to connection with self and others, and from silence to having a voice.
  • 64 2 9 March, 2019
  • When you are speaking about what happened you are owning your losses; you are letting go of minimizing, rationalizing, and denial. It is part of rectifying your past. It means you are no longer carrying the baggage that comes with denial. At times adult children have been criticized for blaming their parents. The principles of ACA are not about blame. They are about owning your truth, grieving your losses, and being accountable today for how you live your life.
  • When you are speaking about what happened you are owning your losses; you are letting go of minimizing, rationalizing, and denial. It is part of rectifying your past. It means you are no longer carrying the baggage that comes with denial. At times adult children have been criticized for blaming their parents. The principles of ACA are not about blame. They are about owning your truth, grieving your losses, and being accountable today for how you live your life.
  • 84 3 9 March, 2019
  • The process of recovery takes time and patience. This is not easy. While in recovery, many ACAs will endure many bottoms as they dig down through layers of hurt feelings and feelings of being unworthy. But hope is here. Through Twelve Step work, patient prayer, and mutual sharing with others in the safety of ACA, our child within emerges.
  • The process of recovery takes time and patience. This is not easy. While in recovery, many ACAs will endure many bottoms as they dig down through layers of hurt feelings and feelings of being unworthy. But hope is here. Through Twelve Step work, patient prayer, and mutual sharing with others in the safety of ACA, our child within emerges.
  • 32 5 8 March, 2019
  • Without help, we unknowingly operate with ineffective thoughts and judgments as adults. The regression can be subtle, but it is there sabotaging our decisions and relationships.
  • Without help, we unknowingly operate with ineffective thoughts and judgments as adults. The regression can be subtle, but it is there sabotaging our decisions and relationships.
  • 61 1 8 March, 2019
  • Hitting bottom.
  • Hitting bottom.
  • 28 3 8 March, 2019
  • #Repost @adultchildrenofnarcissists with @make_repost
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’Emotional abuse can be so hard to define. It can even be harder to pin point in a relationship; you may just think something feels off, but may not know why. If you have a Narcissist in your life then it is very likely you have been a victim of emotional abuse. .
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Narcissists are extremely good at :
•playing the victim .
•blaming, accusing, gaslighting .
•twisting your words/re-writing history .
•manipulation/ control .
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In describing a Narcissist we are also describing an emotional abuser. For some reason emotional abuse can get discredited for being a lesser form of abuse. It is however a form of violence against your very mind and soul. .
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I find it very powerful as a victim of emotional abuse to be able to define and describe it. In doing so I bring to light all of its ugly characteristics, and the qualities I no longer have space for in my life.’
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#nocontact #adultchildrenofnarcissists #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #hiddenabuse #crazymaking #emotionalabuse #anxiety #ptsd #healing
  • #Repost @adultchildrenofnarcissists with @make_repost
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    ’Emotional abuse can be so hard to define. It can even be harder to pin point in a relationship; you may just think something feels off, but may not know why. If you have a Narcissist in your life then it is very likely you have been a victim of emotional abuse. .
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    Narcissists are extremely good at :
    •playing the victim .
    •blaming, accusing, gaslighting .
    •twisting your words/re-writing history .
    •manipulation/ control .
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    In describing a Narcissist we are also describing an emotional abuser. For some reason emotional abuse can get discredited for being a lesser form of abuse. It is however a form of violence against your very mind and soul. .
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    I find it very powerful as a victim of emotional abuse to be able to define and describe it. In doing so I bring to light all of its ugly characteristics, and the qualities I no longer have space for in my life.’
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    #nocontact #adultchildrenofnarcissists #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #hiddenabuse #crazymaking #emotionalabuse #anxiety #ptsd #healing
  • 6 0 7 March, 2019
  • I have been in situations where the outcome would have been better if I just said, “I can’t do that.” Instead I took on the impossible, failed, and beat myself up for it.
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I would go without recreation, sleep, and food to keep myself focused on the task at hand. Relentlessly, I considered different perspectives until I found a way to get the job done. This depleted the energy I needed to survive.
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I began to withdraw from my family and friends. One day I was sitting on the carpet in my home office looking at piles of paper. I couldn’t organize the papers or find the ones I needed. I couldn’t get off the floor. I could only cry. I thought my life would never get better, and I wanted to die.
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My therapist said, “When you learn you can’t do it, then you’ve got a chance. So far you keep finding more energy to keep trying. The best thing for you to do is to fall apart, realize your life is unmanageable, and understand that you can’t do it all.”
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When my life got as bad as it could possibly get, I started coming to ACA. I discovered I had taken Step One by saying, “I can’t do this anymore. I quit.” My life got better from that moment on. I had hit a bottom.
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While giving all you can is admirable, I have learned in ACA that it’s better for me to know my capabilities and limitations. When I can’t do something, I need to just let go. When I see my friends struggling now, I don’t try to fix their lives for them. When they hit their “bottom” they will let go and reach out for help as I did. I have finally discovered there is nothing noble in the struggle. I surrender.
  • I have been in situations where the outcome would have been better if I just said, “I can’t do that.” Instead I took on the impossible, failed, and beat myself up for it.
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    I would go without recreation, sleep, and food to keep myself focused on the task at hand. Relentlessly, I considered different perspectives until I found a way to get the job done. This depleted the energy I needed to survive.
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    I began to withdraw from my family and friends. One day I was sitting on the carpet in my home office looking at piles of paper. I couldn’t organize the papers or find the ones I needed. I couldn’t get off the floor. I could only cry. I thought my life would never get better, and I wanted to die.
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    My therapist said, “When you learn you can’t do it, then you’ve got a chance. So far you keep finding more energy to keep trying. The best thing for you to do is to fall apart, realize your life is unmanageable, and understand that you can’t do it all.”
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    When my life got as bad as it could possibly get, I started coming to ACA. I discovered I had taken Step One by saying, “I can’t do this anymore. I quit.” My life got better from that moment on. I had hit a bottom.
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    While giving all you can is admirable, I have learned in ACA that it’s better for me to know my capabilities and limitations. When I can’t do something, I need to just let go. When I see my friends struggling now, I don’t try to fix their lives for them. When they hit their “bottom” they will let go and reach out for help as I did. I have finally discovered there is nothing noble in the struggle. I surrender.
  • 23 3 7 March, 2019
  • The Steps sometimes work even if a person picks at them like a finicky child forking at a lump of unwanted spinach. Such half measures often create the personal discomfort that motivates the adult child into greater action and personal growth.
  • The Steps sometimes work even if a person picks at them like a finicky child forking at a lump of unwanted spinach. Such half measures often create the personal discomfort that motivates the adult child into greater action and personal growth.
  • 23 2 7 March, 2019
  • The pathway to emotional sobriety that endures time is through the Twelve Steps of ACA. This is the heart of the Adult Children of Alcoholics program. Adapted from the time-proven Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, the Twelve Steps are precision tools that work. The ACA Steps clarify and help resolve a childhood of neglect, abuse, or rejection. With 30 years of experience, ACA is a proven program that offers a way out of confusion. The program brings clarity and sanity in measures we always hoped for, but usually could not believe existed as we grew up in dysfunctional homes.
  • The pathway to emotional sobriety that endures time is through the Twelve Steps of ACA. This is the heart of the Adult Children of Alcoholics program. Adapted from the time-proven Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous, the Twelve Steps are precision tools that work. The ACA Steps clarify and help resolve a childhood of neglect, abuse, or rejection. With 30 years of experience, ACA is a proven program that offers a way out of confusion. The program brings clarity and sanity in measures we always hoped for, but usually could not believe existed as we grew up in dysfunctional homes.
  • 36 3 7 March, 2019
  • Emotional abuse can be so hard to define. It can even be harder to pin point in a relationship; you may just think something feels off, but may not know why. If you have a Narcissist in your life then it is very likely you have been a victim of emotional abuse. .
.
Narcissists are extremely good at :
•playing the victim .
•blaming, accusing, gaslighting .
•twisting your words/re-writing history .
•manipulation/ control .
.
In describing a Narcissist we are also describing an emotional abuser. For some reason emotional abuse can get discredited for being a lesser form of abuse. It is however a form of violence against your very mind and soul. .
.
I find it very powerful as a victim of emotional abuse to be able to define and describe it. In doing so I bring to light all of its ugly characteristics, and the qualities I no longer have space for in my life. .
.
.
.
#nocontact #adultchildrenofnarcissists #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #hiddenabuse #crazymaking #emotionalabuse #anxiety #ptsd #healing
  • Emotional abuse can be so hard to define. It can even be harder to pin point in a relationship; you may just think something feels off, but may not know why. If you have a Narcissist in your life then it is very likely you have been a victim of emotional abuse. .
    .
    Narcissists are extremely good at :
    •playing the victim .
    •blaming, accusing, gaslighting .
    •twisting your words/re-writing history .
    •manipulation/ control .
    .
    In describing a Narcissist we are also describing an emotional abuser. For some reason emotional abuse can get discredited for being a lesser form of abuse. It is however a form of violence against your very mind and soul. .
    .
    I find it very powerful as a victim of emotional abuse to be able to define and describe it. In doing so I bring to light all of its ugly characteristics, and the qualities I no longer have space for in my life. .
    .
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    #nocontact #adultchildrenofnarcissists #narcissisticabuse #narcissist #hiddenabuse #crazymaking #emotionalabuse #anxiety #ptsd #healing
  • 28 2 7 March, 2019
  • All past characteristics posts can be found in the “ACA Red Book” you can find it on Amazon, Kindle or your local ACA meeting.
  • All past characteristics posts can be found in the “ACA Red Book” you can find it on Amazon, Kindle or your local ACA meeting.
  • 33 3 6 March, 2019
  • This podcast is a great resource for hearing other people’s stories and listening to their tools for recovery.
  • This podcast is a great resource for hearing other people’s stories and listening to their tools for recovery.
  • 34 2 6 March, 2019
  • Can you identify with Trait 4, 9 or 13?
  • Can you identify with Trait 4, 9 or 13?
  • 22 4 5 March, 2019
  • Learning Healthy Boundaries is the key to dealing with #toxicpeople, and overcoming #codependency Many of us did not grow up being taught boundaries, some of us were even taught quite the opposite, where our bodies were not ours at all. I remember when I was first learning about implementing #healthy boundaries, I thought some of them sounded like they would make me seem rude. With time and experience I learned that it was just my unhealthy upbringing that made me feel that way about boundaries. One of the very best gifts I have given to myself is learning #selfcompassion and #boundaries, it has helped me to avoid other people's #abusive behaviors. 
Want to know more? Check out my BLOG post titled, "Ten Laws of Boundaries." Link to website in Profile.
  • Learning Healthy Boundaries is the key to dealing with #toxicpeople , and overcoming #codependency Many of us did not grow up being taught boundaries, some of us were even taught quite the opposite, where our bodies were not ours at all. I remember when I was first learning about implementing #healthy boundaries, I thought some of them sounded like they would make me seem rude. With time and experience I learned that it was just my unhealthy upbringing that made me feel that way about boundaries. One of the very best gifts I have given to myself is learning #selfcompassion and #boundaries , it has helped me to avoid other people's #abusive behaviors.
    Want to know more? Check out my BLOG post titled, "Ten Laws of Boundaries." Link to website in Profile.
  • 14 4 29 January, 2019
  • In-the-know therapist, and author of one of the best books on hidden abuse. I and my clients have benefited from her shared knowledge and expertise. Upscale abuse tends to be more insidious and much less obvious, keeping victims trapped- not knowing that what they are living really is abuse!
Links to @shannonthomas book and social media are on my website Resource Page. Link in Bio❤️
  • In-the-know therapist, and author of one of the best books on hidden abuse. I and my clients have benefited from her shared knowledge and expertise. Upscale abuse tends to be more insidious and much less obvious, keeping victims trapped- not knowing that what they are living really is abuse!
    Links to @shannonthomas book and social media are on my website Resource Page. Link in Bio❤️
  • 10 4 14 December, 2018