“I’m finally shrinking!”
“Wow, I haven’t worn this dress since HIGH SCHOOL” “Have you lost weight?! You’re looking so good!”
“My jeans are so loose!” ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
These are all statements I’m constantly witnessing people exchange with one another. Weight loss is considered a means of congratulation, going down a size is a means to celebrate. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
As a society we so genuinely strive for acceptance and praise, and we’ve been taught that smaller is better. That the only thing we actually win by losing is weight. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It breaks my heart. But it’s more than that. It’s real. This is real. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I want you to know that I value you for your passion. Personally and individually. I value what makes your heart beat faster. What urges you to get out of bed in the morning.
I value you for your past. Tell me what your favorite activity to do growing up was. Tell me about your mom. Tell me what high school was like. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I value you for your dreams. Tell me all that you’re capable of. Tell me what’s to come, what you’re working on. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Your worth is not defined by exterior beauty, and yet your exterior beauty is immeasurable. You are endlessly beautiful. Search for people who know your HEART and encourage the rawest pieces of you to thrive and grow. All goals are important, and I will cheer you on for your health, both mentally and physically. But in everything, know your WHY and remember where your worth lies.
1,2748022 January, 2020
Thick thighs should always be on show 🙋🏼♀️
2,59415722 January, 2020
“I’m afraid that if I start intuitive eating I’ll just binge eat unhealthy food nonstop and gain crazy amounts of weight.”
I hear this all the time, and here are my responses.
1️⃣ If listening to your body is causing you to gain weight, there’s a big chance that YOU MIGHT NEED TO GAIN WEIGHT.
2️⃣ When I allowed myself to eat all foods with no restrictions, those foods that at first seem so powerfully addicting (think sweets, pizza, and other “unhealthy” foods) eventually lost their magnetism. I found myself saying no to a cookie with as much ease as I’d say no to a salad if I’m not hungry/in the mood.
3️⃣ Our bodies are so hungry after periods of restriction (ie; disordered eating) that it is COMPLETELY normal and healthy to feel extreme, ravenous hunger. The only way that the extreme hunger will end is if you FEED YOUR BODY. Give her what she’s asking for. Let her know you’re not going to starve her again. (Also- I really encourage you to research extreme hunger. Look up the Minnesota Starvation Experiment. It’s so fascinating and helped me to have compassion for my hunger!)
Honestly I feel like so many people start intuitive eating but then quit after a few weeks because they are eating tons of cookies, gaining weight, freaking out, and going back to dieting (I’ve been there 🙋🏼♀️).
But truly, once I allowed myself to eat freely and pushed through the initial discomfort, my hunger signals started normalizing, my appetite started stabilizing, and my weight settled in the place that’s right for me.
Someone had to tell you your body was a problem.
You weren’t born believing it or born thinking you should lose weight, it was formed over time, either directly or indirectly.
Ultimately, it’s an opinion that’s passed down.
See, we could go down the rabbit hole of who can we blame for teaching us that our bodies are a problem but it wouldn’t be fair because they’re just another person that was passed down the same information.
This is the same story for feeling judged in our bodies or comparing ourselves to others- were all using a fake set of standards that we’ve all learned at some point in time.
The point is not that now you have to go on this giant quest of learning what it means to love yourself- instead, it’s more simply unlearning the hate and shame to reveal your truth- self acceptance and self love.
You don’t need to learn something that’s already within you, you need to break down all that caused you to forget what was always there.
It’s starts by asking yourself better questions:
Instead of “how the hell can I love this body??”
Ask yourself: “what about my body is worth this much hate and fear?”
All of a sudden, we have a conversation that’s a hell of a lot closer to healing 💕
If you’re ready to ask yourself better questions, get ready because I’m reopening Body Acceptance Blueprint at the end of this week!! You’ll have a chance to actually experience the healing you’ve been looking for 🥰
We need less “food justice”** and more social justice. Less food-related fearmongering and more food security. Less avoidance of “processed” food and more avoidance of fatphobia, racism, and other forms of oppression. If your “food activism” doesn’t actively combat #weightstigma & #disorderedeating , it isn’t radical or progressive, it’s oppressive.
**ETA: I’m NOT talking about food-sovereignty movements or workers’ rights or BIPOC-led movements to decolonize food; I’m talking about white-centric efforts to get fruits and vegetables into low-income communities “because ob*sity! Because scary processed foods!” And other #dietculture bullshit that goes under the name of “food justice.” Thanks to @mxngo____ and @the_bodylib_advocate for talking through this distinction with me in the comments! .
H/t @andreawestbymd on Twitter for sparking these thoughts and fighting the good fight 💗
📕Lots more on these ideas in #AntiDietBook , available at bookstores everywhere or at christyharrison.com/book (link in bio)!
My clothes have been getting tighter and my jeans have been feeling more snug.
And there’s a part of my brain that tells me I’m a failure for that.
That same voice tells me I should be doing something to ‘fix’ it. That I shouldn’t be taking up more space.
But that voice isn’t mine. It’s diet culture.
It’s 29 years of living in a world that values thinness.
I, like I’m sure you, have listened to that voice at some point - trusted it. Believed it.
Stepping away from diet culture, and working on self and body acceptance didn’t mean I automatically was able to put it on mute and not feel pulled in by it’s promises.
I don’t think I’ll ever fully get rid of that voice, but where before it had the biggest occupancy in my brain, it now has about 1%.
I’ve dialled the volume waaaay down but I’m not sure if it will ever be on mute.
This is my way of saying - it’s human and normal to listen to diet culture.
And it’s human and normal to want to change your body to meet its standards.
There is no shame or judgement in that.
But - ask yourself, what do YOU want?
What is YOUR body telling you?
WHY is listening to that voice important and what does it represent?
And CAN you keep living by diet cultures rules and practices?
Cos being Pre-occupied with food, exercise and analysing my body in the mirror was EXHAUSTING.
I needed to find peace and I’m grateful to intuitive eating and the anti-diet community for helping me to find that.
P.S photo from when I tried on my new @staywildswim swimsuit first thing in the morning ☺️.
2,6628023 January, 2020
Happy Thursday! 😊✨ I missed hump day but it’s never too late right? 🤣
just a little reminder that what you see on Instagram isn’t always accurate. We get in the perfect pose & make sure photos are taken from certain angles etc. Lots of us do it & there’s nothing wrong with that! Just remember that people don’t look that way all the time.
Use to always hide my arms in photos because I’ve always hated my bigger arms. Or I’d never take a photo in a tank top because you’d see my arms more. Learning to embrace all parts of me & accepting this is the way I am right now & it’s okay!
Instagram is full of people’s highlight reel & all their best photos. We’re all human & it’s okay to have a tummy roll or love handles, big arms etc. Embrace your imperfections!
Cliterious, the magic golden place of orgasmic pleasure & wonder to all women
Longer than it looks on the surface . ALOT more to discover. Nerves that make your toes curl in ecstasy & joy
Oh I love you magic golden bean 💗
It's amazing how decreasing the stress around food and the scale can put us in a better mood 🌟 It really makes you realize how counting calories/macros, and weighing yourself every day really can affect your mental health. Give me a 🙌 in the comments if focusing less on the scale, and more on the positive health promoting habits you are practicing has put you in an overall better mood!
We often hear that our clients want to focus more on non-scale wins, but sometimes they don't know what to look for. That's why all month long we are sharing non-scale wins that also get you to your goal of living a healthy lifestyle - without obsessing about that number on the scale. Because there are so many more ways to document progress during a health journey than tracking how much your body weighs.
Stay tuned for our next non-scale win example next Thursday!
4122 hours ago
Your weight does not define your worth. ⠀
In the past 7 months I’ve put on a total of 10 pounds. I hate being weighed but every doctor appointment they make me step on the scale and up until 2 weeks ago the numbers weren’t bothering me but lately it’s been hard. ⠀
I get messages daily asking me how to lose weight with pcos and how to learn to love the skin you’re in when you’re unhappy with your weight and the answer I always give is that your weight doesn’t define your worth. I believe this wholeheartedly but even I still struggle. ⠀
Learning to accept your body and the skin you’re in when you’re not exactly happy with the number on the scale can be hard but here’s what you have to remember. ⠀
The numbers don’t determine who you are at your core. The numbers don’t determine how beautiful you are and the numbers sure as hell don’t get to determine how far you can climb in life. I think for women it can be hard because society likes to tell us that you’re only beautiful if you are a certain size. We seek advice on how to get rid of our stretch marks and how to lose weight. We invest in skin care products in hopes they’ll hide the blemishes we have deemed unworthy but what if we stopped doing this and instead embraced the body that carries us? ⠀
As I watch my body continue to change I keep reminding myself how strong and capable I am. I remember the days I prayed for this belly and I remember the stretch marks that my angel babies brought me. Some days I second guess what I’m eating but than I remember to trust my intuition instead of limiting my food intake. ⠀
Accepting your body is a lifelong journey and if you find yourself hating the body you’re in I encourage you to remember how strong you are and to always remember that the number on the scale and the size of your pants will never ever determine your worth. #benicetoyourself#pcosjourney#positiveselftalk#lovetheskinyourein#bodyacceptance#pcossupport
4022 hours ago
It’s crazy to me to think at one time I looked at food as being evil. I looked at it in such a negative way. ~
When I would look at food, I saw weight gain. I saw judgement from others on what I ate & how much. I would get so worked up about it that I just stopped eating all together. ~
I developed eating disorders during high school. Once that started, I was self conscious of my weight from that day forward. I tried everything under the sun to try and lose weight and feel good. I tried it AALLL!! Nothing taught me how to eat without being on a strict diet or restricting food. They never taught me how to fuel my body. ~
After finding a program that has helped me understand what to eat and how to properly eat, I finally have a healthy relationship with food for the first time in my life. I will forever be grateful for this program changing my life. ❤️
A food that diet culture demonizes and many people avoid for that very reason. But what is it about it’s light fluffy goodness that sends diet culture on the attack? Answer: diet culture shames foods without good reason. There is NO reason to shame ANY food, period. Food is not good or bad, it’s just food, a morally neutral thing.
Bread provides us with carbohydrates which are broken down into glucose in the body which give the body ENERGY. The energy we need to go about living our daily lives. It also provides us with B vitamins (to name just a few) to keep various systems in our body functioning properly. Bread is not the enemy, diet culture is. .
Look at that joy as she checks out her new color! 💞💞One of my favorite parts of my job.
7122 hours ago
The BEST way to cook basic vegetables🥦🥕🥒
I’m a stereotypical #RD2be and love love love veggies! BUT only if cooked in very specific ways. Boiling, microwaving, and other fast ways of cooking can be great for those who don’t have a lot of time to spend in the kitchen. But for days when we have time to spare, here are some ways I love to prepare my favorite vegetables!
Roasted Broccoli🥦: Chop up from broccoli crowns and toss in olive oil and seasonings of your choice. Bake at 350 F for 45 min or until slightly charred. Super crispy and delicious and also a great way to prepare green beans and cauliflower.
Zucchini Chips(pictured)🥒: Thinly slice zucchini, dip in whisked raw egg, and coat in bread crumbs. Bake at 350 for 20 minutes and flip. Cook for another 10 minutes. This goes perfectly with pasta!
Glazed carrots🥕: Peel whole carrots and thinly slice. Toss in olive oil, balsamic, and seasoning. Bake at 350 for 45 minutes. Melt butter in microwave and add in brown sugar. Toss carrots in butter/ brown sugar mixture and bake for another 20 minutes. HEAVENLY
Buffalo Cauliflower😋: Chop cauliflower head and toss in hot sauce/ buffalo sauce. Coat in breadcrumbs and bake at 350 for 45 minutes- 1 hour. Serve with a side of ranch to make them extra bomb. *these are delicious but are NOT a substitute for chicken wings. Don’t let diet culture tell you otherwise*😉🚫🍗🚫
15322 hours ago
With right fashion, every female would be a flame.
I need to say this because if I change one person’s mind it’s enough, body shaming is not okay. Fat, skinny, tall, short, it doesn’t matter, every body is beautiful and telling someone to change it is not acceptable or appropriate. I’m tired of all these people in my dms telling me I’d be hotter if I were skinnier and I’m tired of hearing all my beautiful friends be down on themselves because an irrelevant fool thought it would be appropriate to tell them to stop eating. Every body is beautiful and don’t let anyone stop you from loving yourself. ❤️💜
12423 hours ago
There are literally hundreds of studies that have been done that prove that intentional weight loss (dieting or restriction of ANY kind) actually cause an increase in weight beyond two years. Like you start a diet (keto/paleo/clean eating/intermittent fasting), and yes you may lose weight initially, but in 2-5 years time it is scientifically proven that you will probably weigh more than you did to start with (unless you’re part of the like 2% that dieting has proven to work for). Like, ARE YOU KIDDING ME?! Now, there is nothing wrong with weight gain, don’t get me wrong (but that’s not the issue at hand). It’s also been scientifically proven that fluctuations in your weight (yo-yo dieting) are extremely bad for your health. Gaining and losing weight makes you sick (like you’re at a higher risk for severe health conditions). Erghhh. 🤦♀️ And even more mind blowing, weight stigma (how you’re treated because of your weight) has more of a negative impact on your health than anything you could ever eat. Like you can eat a Krispy Kreme donut for every meal this week and be healthier than someone who ate a range of grains, fruits, vegetables, simply because of how you’re treated based on your size.
Why has nobody ever told me this?! Why was I taught that what I ate was so important, when it’s literally like only the tiniest part of ‘health’?! Like, how you feel about your body is like a billion times more important than what you eat. In their bid to cure the ‘obesity crisis’ the media, government and diet companies have made people feel bad about their bodies (through fear-based and thin-idealised advertisements), causing people to diet, which actually leads to an increase in weight (and a whole host of other health concerns).
So if you’re currently doing paleo/keto/eating clean, etc., you will literally weigh more than your starting weight in 2-5 years time. They sell us this idea that dieting (wellness) will fix all our problems, when in reality it just steals our time, money, energy and health. We end up unhealthier than when we started (regardless of our BMI before or after the diet/lifestyle changes).
I’m mad. *Continued in comments.
Am I going out to celebrate my friend’s birthday with margaritas and mexican food in a few hours? Yes…Did I need to have two bars and the majority of this bag of chips after a big lunch? No…But would i be lying to myself and restricting if I hadn’t? Yes .
Leave your interpretations of how much you’re eating FAR FAR AWAY. Allow yourself to eat amounts of food you never thought possible without guilt and without plans to restrict later on. The amount of food I have been eating goes to show how MUCH i was restricting. Even though before I went “all in” I ate a significant amount of food, a lot of food wasn’t what my body was telling me it wanted. A TON of food was what it wanted. And when I see recovery pages sharing their “fear foods” or “big portions”, it made me feel like an outsider eating thousands of calories and still feeling like i was restricting and constantly thinking about food. .
So I’m just here to tell you that eating an ungodly amount of food isn’t abnormal. Isn’t wrong. It might take more than what most people are promoting (even eating disorder recovery pages), and that is okay. Focus on your body’s needs and listen to it’s every desire, even if you aren’t sure. Just know you can’t go wrong with eating.
21323 hours ago
Cuantas veces hice dieta en mi vida con el fin de verme bien. Que ridículo me siento hoy en día por haber basado mi alimentación en una moda y no por salud 🤔. ⠀ ⠀
Hoy veo a mi hermana cuidándose con una dieta estricta ya que mi sobrino tiene alergia alimentaria 👶🏻. Seguir una dieta rigurosa en este caso es fundamental, en el fondo es una dieta con sentido, que se hace por el amor de madre y no por una moda. O por ejemplo el caso de los niños con diabetes tipo 1 cuya familia debe cambiar completamente su dieta para mantener la salud de estos. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀
Comparto esta foto comiendo un "chilenito" sin azúcar hecho con mucho amor por mi madre @elizabethcaroponce dado que no puedo comer azúcar luego de haber sido operado del páncreas. En mi caso tuve que aprender a cambiar mis hábitos para no hacerme diabetico en el futuro. No se preocupen de las calorías de los alimentos si no de su aporte nutricional 🍇🍈🍉. Coma intuitivamente para nutrirse y no con el objetivo de ser flaco(a), caber en un vestido y estar a la "moda". ¿Cúantos han hecho dietas pasajeras y no cambios reales de estilo de vida?. ⠀ ⠀
body image, lets talk about it 💃
✨ it's normal and totally okay to not love what you see in the mirror every day.👀
if I made decisions based on how I felt about my body every day, I'd end up in sweats and eating dark chocolate a heck of a lot more than I already do😉
it’s okay to not love the look of your thighs. or your stomach. or your arms.
but, can you accept them? can you acknowledge that they're a part of you, and that you're so much more than your body. 💖
❌🧠 when the negative thoughts start to roll in....
👇🏼any of these sound familiar?👇🏼
"I look so bloated"
"I can't pull off that dress"
"I hate my cellulite" -- spoiler, 98% of women have cellulite, it's normal, ya hear?
" I hate how my arms jiggle"
"I wish my face look slimmer"
"I wish I had abs" -- do you want to cut calories and workout an insane amount to achieve that? if yes, cool! but it's important to ask yourself what you're willing to sacrifice in order to achieve and maintain your goals. 🤔
instead of trying so hard to love your body, start smaller.
can you think of a few things you like about your body? or yourself as a living, breathing, human? ❤️
i bet if you were to ask 5 people close to you, what they love about you, none of them would list off your pant size, weight, your target calories on MFP, or how many steps you get in each day.🙅♀️
because you are so much more than your body. 🙌
can you start to accept and appreciate your body?
what would you say to her?
when I'm having a not-so-great body day, I will close my eyes, and turn inwards. i’ll take a few deep breaths, and think about how grateful I am for my body and all that it does for me. 🦵🏼 my legs—they're strong, they hold me up, they get me around the city, airports, grocery stores, literally EVERYWHERE! they’re the only ones I have, and I’m fucking grateful.🙏🏼
So this picture is me trying to take a progress picture and wanting to pull my hair out because it wasn’t what I wanted to see. Will I regret posting it later.... probably.
But the more I look at it, the more confident I get. For those who know me well, know I beat myself up a lot. Negative self talk is actually a form of self harming. I haven’t been so negative lately, so i am making some good mental progress. To me, my mental health comes first. If I’m feeling depressed or anxious I can’t even get to the gym most of the time.
So here is a picture of my mental progress..... plus a sweet TRX workout.
Be kind to me 😝 but more importantly, be kind to yourself. You deserve it so much.
The need for acceptance feels so real. But to rely on it is a dangerous game with no clear way to win.
We can't control how others see us or think about us.
All we can do is accept ourselves and focus on the positive relationships we create, hopefully with those that love us for what's within.
Pleasing everyone is impossible and something I've tried to do tirelessly with little success. And even when I was successful, I still hated myself and had no energy to even be me or do the things I liked.
People come to me wanting to be able to love the way their body looks... And I get it we live in a world that tells us how important that is. But here's the thing this focus on loving the external, reinforces the idea that this is the most important thing about you.
If you wait until you love the way your body looks to show up powerfully and confidently in the world then you might be waiting a long time. Especially if this image is through a social construction of how your body 'should' look.
Here's what I want you to know, self confidence, self love, body liberation it comes from knowing yourself, it comes from connecting to a part of you that is not centered in the physical, it comes from making your life a practice of getting to know yourself and having deep compassion for what you find.
It comes from reconnecting to your value and your inherent worth that is not defined by anything outside of you. Including the way your body looks. You may one day come to love the way your body looks but my hope is that you come to love your body as it is, unconditionally. Meaning you love it because it allows you to do amazing things, keeps you alive, breathes for you, digests food for you, creates life. My hope is also that you come to love yourSELF. Meaning you learn to love who you are as a whole person, prioritise your own needs, and value what you have to offer the world.
If you're waiting to do something or feel a certain way until you love your physical body.
You're still looking outside of you.
There is so much more of you to love 💕and it lives inside. Nothing external needs to change to access it!
For more on Body Liberation and cultivating internal self worth come along to one of my workshops happening around the country over the next month:
Sat 25th Jan- The Alternative Solution Expo, Papamoa @thealternativesolutionexpo
Tues 11th Feb- The Welder, Christchurch @thewelderchch
Sat 14th Feb- Flow Space Yoga and Wellness, Alexandra @flowspaceyoga
Tues 18th Feb- Wellington (venue TBC)
See link in bio for ticket and event info 🎫✨
📷Cred @louloubphoto 🧜♀️
16223 January, 2020
Chula gimme a 🙋🏽♀️if you agree!⠀
Today I was speaking to a client when she told me she was really craving french fries but would not allow herself to have them because they were bad and fattening. ⠀
I immediately asked her why she believed this, her response " they are deep fried carbs that will go straight to my belly and undo all the work I have done at the gym"⠀
And chulas, that is DEEP. You see diet culture has us so scared of food that deep down inside we truly believe that eating french fries ONCE just freaking ONCE will immediately cause weight gain.⠀
First of all this is absolutely ridiculous. French fries will not I repeat will not undo anything or cause anything. ⠀
🍟French fries🍟 are just potatoes that have been fried in oil for crispiness delicious texture and flavor. Eating french fries does not define your worth. ⠀
Eating french fries will not be the end all to your gym success and honestly chula, you should be going to the gym for joyful movement NOT burning calories. ⠀
We really had to dive deep into this french fry sitch and what we found after discussing her feelings towards french fries, that her family never really allowed them. She was allowed to eat the burgers or nuggets, but her mom always took them away because they were too many calories. ⠀
This subconsciously caused fear of french fries and as she got older she feared them and binged on them. Together we discussed how these scenarios have affected her life, and today she feels a little more confident in choosing fries for dinner tonight or any other day. ⠀
Chula, when we work together, we figure out what has caused the food guilt and we build goals that will help you move past the fears and guilt. Together we help you get to a place were food does not impact your self worth. If you are ready to learn more about how my program can help you. Check out the ✨link in my bio✨ Book your discovery call today!
When I first started out as a coach, I set out on a mission to help women overcome binge eating and emotional eating.⠀
At the time I thought that, “if I can help them heal their relationship with food, then they can lose weight and finally be happy with their body”. ⠀
I studied everything there was to know about the psychology of eating and dug deeper into what exactly causes food cravings, and the deeper I went the more I realised it all starts with what we believe about ourselves and how we feel about ourselves. ⠀
After working with many clients, and also going through my own healing journey, I realised that all this time I was thinking about it the wrong way around. ⠀
I realised that most of the time, binge eating is simply a side-effect of a lack of self-acceptance, self-compassion and self-worth, and that you don't need to heal the binge eating to be happy with your body... you need to learn to be happy with yourself and with your body in order to heal your relationship with food. ⠀
When I ran my 5-day Body Confidence Challenge a few weeks ago, I felt like I truly hit my stride. It felt more aligned than ever. ⠀
And I realised that my true mission is to help women love and accept themselves as they are. ⠀
In order to reflect this subtle but important shift in my direction, I'll soon be stepping away from my current business name ‘Food Habits’ and will start operating fully under my personal brand Joni Seeto, Body Confidence Coach and Rapid Transformational Therapist. ⠀
I'll still be using my expertise in Eating Psychology to help women get to the root of their struggles with food, but any challenges with food, health or weight will resolve themselves naturally by healing any feelings of not being enough or not worthy of love and learning to embrace yourself as you are. ⠀
That’s when you can truly start feeling Weightless. ⠀
P.S. If you missed my free 5-day body confidence challenge earlier this month, follow the link in my bio to get access to the training
10123 January, 2020
Communication, or lack thereof, is a common issue for people with food/body image challenges. The anger and resentment that comes from unmet expectations can fuel disordered eating.
Other ways expectations relate to food/body:
We may expect to live in a smaller body because:
-We weighed x in high school
-Our family or friends have smaller bodies
-We eat nutritious foods
-We’ve been exercising, counting our macros/points, doing what we’re told.
We expected one thing and got another, where does the resentment go? Often towards ourselves, it’s ‘my fault’. Or maybe we get the f*ck it mindset, leading to bingeing, purging, a shame shitstorm and punishing ourselves more. It’s a crappy cycle.
Loosen your grip of expectations, numbers, diets, and pounds and practice gratitude, speaking up for yourself, and nourishing your mind/body/spirit. You deserve the bigger life.
462323 January, 2020
👩👧👦I have had a lot of moms asking me more about what skills I teach to find food freedom and body confidence.
🙌So, I’m going to start doing more posts about the cognitive behavioral therapy skills I use to help moms!
🍩Food experiments are also called food exposures in the clinical world. They are specific foods that you have identified as “unsafe.”
😥“Unsafe” can mean so many different things. In short, it means that food item gives you feelings of anxiety, guilt, shame, fear and any other negative thoughts or feelings.
🧠The reasons why those foods make you feel or think negatively is another cognitive behavioral therapy skill called thought challenging. (I’ll do a post on that soon)
🤯So, once you have identified foods that are “unsafe” I encourage you to now eat those foods and see if what you fear will happen actually does. (I’m obviously not talking about food allergies or other medical conditions where your diet needs to be changed.)
🍔You can start with just holding the “unsafe” food in your hand, have a small taste, have bigger bite or just go for it. You decide what is manageable!
🙂The more times you eat that food, the easier it will be to keep eating it! Along the way, I process the thoughts and fears my clients are having when eating these foods.
😰Of course this process is not easy! There will be negative thoughts and feelings. But like I said, the more you eat them, the less and less those thoughts and feelings will affect you until you can eat them without any guilt or shame!
🥳Best part is, once you start this process you’ll notice more and more foods will become easier to have!
🙌Want to learn more? Sign up for my Body Positive Mom group class where we will go through ever single skill I teach! The link is in my bio!!
77123 January, 2020
Anyone else getting hit with a stomach bug?!
To be honest, I’m not sure if it’s a stomach bug, indigestion, or something else but my stomach has been out of sorts all week.
It started with feeling full and kind of like I had rocks sitting in my stomach.
I took a day off of eating on Tuesday to see if maybe my digestion needed a break.
By Wednesday I continued to feel really full, but also weak from not eating, so I’d have a bowl of soup or toast here and there.
Today I’m taking care of my stomach by making sure I’m drinking lots of water, enjoying some chamomile and/or peppermint tea, and only eating very bland foods.
Some of the foods I’m eating today are:
🍠baked sweet potato with a little sprinkle of sea salt
🥣plain gluten free oats
Fingers crossed I feel back to myself soon!🤞🏼
Have you been hit with a stomach or flu bug? How do you like to nourish yourself during that time?
Your story is unique and so different. It isn't worthy of comparison. You do you. -
15123 January, 2020
not everyone is going to like you, and that’s okay. but you have to like yourself. in the words of the ever-fabulous @lizzobeeating, if you can love me you can love you too. (and you 100% deserve it). 🌿✨
68323 January, 2020
I promised honesty, and this picture is certainly that. I can preach body positivity all day long and then safely bury my photos where they’ll never see the light of day, ultimately not accomplishing what I’ve set out to do here. First, clothes. Today started as light wash jeans, this tee (more on that in a bit), a flannel, and sneakers. It was not working for me. Changed the jeans, still no. Wound up with this situation, which is me but no discernible style... so maybe no style is my style? ..
Second, the photo. I am a sweater/cardigan girl for the ability to hide within them. Always have been and likely always will be. (I actually once worked in an office where no one knew my name but instead called me “Sweater Girl.”) So I generally leave the outer layer mostly shut and keep it at that. Except, the tee. Not only did my 10-year-old daughter search for and find this shirt for me, she paid for it herself. With her own money. Like, spent her allowance money on me. So when she took this photo of me wearing it, her first words were, “Open your sweater, Mommy.” I obliged with a shift of about an inch or so and was told, “Open it so I can see it, Mommy!” And, seriously, why hadn’t I? She was *so* proud, and I was even prouder of her... and yet I couldn’t shake the habit of hiding my tummy. Incredible that even when you think you’re making progress, sometimes you’re not. Rather than achieving body acceptance, I think I was preparing to accept. So, ok, maybe that’s a type of progress, though it’s shown me the road ahead will be a bit more challenging than I had consciously realized.
5123 January, 2020
It’s time for me to do things for myself. Tinder will be gone. And I’m going to just let tings go. Do things that makes me feel good about myself.
Like that’s why I have this Instagram, to do things that makes me feel food about myself and the way I look. The way my body is.
It’s me time now. 🤍
Se você não postou uma selfie após o treino, você realmente chegou a ir a academia?
Esta foi a minha vida por muito tempo.
Eu fazia essas poses desafiadoras da respiração, sempre que eu malhava. (Sério, elas realmente sufocam😂)
Estamos falando a mesma língua, você espera para que as pessoas saiam do vestiário, tira 100 fotos dessa mesma pose para obter a foto certa.
No começo, eu disse a mim mesma que precisava, era para o meu negócio de desafio de emagrecimento on-line ... mas, querida ... por que você compartilhou no Instagram?
Não estou dizendo isso para julgar ninguém, é claro, porque eu fazia isso todos os dias por muito tempo. Mas a verificação constante do meu corpo e a esperança de incentivar meus seguidores a fazerem o mesmo foi exaustiva, e eu sei que você provavelmente está exausta também.
Depois do meu treino hoje, eu estava tentando tirar uma foto para poder compartilhar minha evolução após movimento ANTI-DIETA com todas vocês ... mas então eu percebi ... Não seria então contraditório?
Eu saio da academia depois dos meus treinos e pronto. Não preciso provar nada a ninguém. Eu não questiono mais como eu me pareço ou sinto que preciso ter meu corpo validado por alguém.
Agora sinto confiança ao me olhar no espelho, quando finalmente eu entendi, que nunca foi pela estética.
E essa é a questão! Aceitando seu corpo, curando seu relacionamento com a comida, sentindo-se digna de como você é, tudo se resume ao objetivo de não permitir que a cultura da dieta dite como você se sente sobre o seu corpo.
Tire a selfie se isso faz você se sentir bem, mas pergunte a si mesma - isso me permite sentir livre e feliz ou ansiosa e sempre precisando melhorar?
O objetivo é confiar e honrar tanto o seu corpo que você esquece seus velhos hábitos e apenas parte daqueles que fazem você se sentir livre e viva ✨
Chame a sua amiga e participe do meu GRUPO VIP e saiba mais como ser livre para fazer o que quiser com seu corpo e comida. Link para acesso na minha BIO.
struggling with orthorexia and compulsive exercise, I took pride in being known as “the healthy one”. my entire identity centered around my seemingly innocuous desire to “care for my well-being”, a desire that attracted immense amounts of praise and admiration indeed.
my dream job was no longer to be a professor or writer; it was to become one of the self-proclaimed wellness influencers that I so deeply venerated.
in truth, I was miserable. I was experiencing the horrible physical ramifications of an eating disorder, and I sunk into a deep depression that caused me to lose my love for life.
yet the prominence of healthism caused others to look up to me. I wholeheartedly embraced my new identity, letting go of some of my greatest passions, including writing, reading fiction, and playing the piano. this continued until I couldn’t even recognize myself.
from the bottom of my heart, I want to tell you this: you are SO much more than the health nut. you have so much to offer this world; you can make so much positive impact. please do not lose yourself in the pursuit of some erroneous conception of “health” and/or thinness.
you are an unique, three-dimensional human being with passions and values and rich life stories. I want to get to know the real you <3 #alexfoodfreedom
110323 January, 2020
There are lots of days when we might not be able to really say we “love” our bodies. Even so, we can choose to be respectful to ourselves just as we would kind be to a stranger. How can you give yourself a little bit of compassion and kindness today?
Flashback naar zo'n 10 jaar geleden. Ik had een jumpsuit besteld en gepast. Er werd toen tegen mij gezegd: "je kan dat beter niet aandoen met jouw figuur." And so it begins.. De haat voor jumpsuits was ontstaan. Ik papegaaide deze woorden na, want kom op.. Dat draag je niet als je dik bent, toch? Je moet wijde kleding aan doen. Je moet je lichaam verstoppen onder een tent want God forbid dat ze jouw dikke lichaam zien. Oké. Punt 1: als je dik bent, zien ze dat toch wel. Met of zonder wijde kleding. Punt 2: excuse me?! Hoe mooi ziet een jumpsuit eruit. Ik ben dik. KIJK mijn figuur in deze jumpsuit. Why the fuck wil ik dat verstoppen onder dat veel te grote vest van foto 1?! Niet meer doen! Jumpsuits zijn mooi. Classy. Chique. Je figuur komt er JUIST beter in uit. Pas op met wat je tegen iemand zegt, al helemaal in de belangrijkste jaren van de persoonlijke ontwikkeling. Schaamte voor je eigen lichaam wordt je vaak aangepraat, 9 van de 10 keer ontstaat het door zulke opmerkingen. Doe. Het. Niet. Je kan iemand zo makkelijk een minderwaardigheidscomplex aanpraten. Die praat je er niet makkelijk weer uit. Ik heb zelf de kracht gevonden om eruit te komen. Ik hoop dat jullie ook goed op weg zijn. Liefs, stay positive 😘.
Are you obsessing over food and your body to the point that it’s what you think about for the majority of the day?
Do you go to restaurants in anxiety and indecisive for when it comes time to order?
Do you feel disconnected in your relationships because you’re disconnected from yourself?
Do you feel like your body and your head are two different places, your body exists outside of you and your mind is where you live?
Do you live in constant guilt and shame for what you ate, wondering how you’re going to burn those calories off and lose the weight for good?
These are all signs of disordered eating, an unhealthy relationship with food, your body and yourself.
I’ve dealt with every single one of these pains in my life.
I remember the anxiety I had around meals with others.
I remember the anxiety I had around eating while traveling.
I remember the anxiety I had wondering how I was going to negate the calories I took in.
I remember the shame and guilt that came every time I ate something that wasn’t “good for me”.
And the anxiety caused me to turn to food and numb out even more.
Because I didn’t want to feel the anxiety.
It feel uncomfortable.
It felt unsafe.
See, the number one problem we have in our relationship with food and our body is the inability to feel safe to emote, to feel safe in our bodies.
We feel SO uncomfortable feeling, and were never taught how.
So we numb out with food, avoiding our feelings, running from pain, and escaping reality.
I’m here to tell you it doesn’t have to be this way for the rest of your life.
I remember thinking I would have problems with food and my body my entire life.
I needed a lasting solution—
And it had nothing to do with what I ate, or how I exercised.
It had everything to do with learning to deal with my emotional state and learning how to feel safe in my body.
If you are ready to heal your relationship with food and your body, to feel safe in your body and learn how to feel your emotions, I’m here to guide you along the way. Tag a friend that needs to hear this today.
We’re in this together.
40623 January, 2020
Something I started doing last year is changing up my social media feed to show more diversity in body sizes and unfollowed accounts that I was comparing my body to in a negative way.
One of my favorite hashtags is #allbodiesaregoodbodies to see a diverse set of bodies living and enjoying life. We come in all shapes and sizes, but that isn’t celebrated in our society and instead we are told there’s one size that’s best and we need to all achieve that size.
So check out your social media feed and ask yourself if you are comparing yourself in a negative way to what you see? If so, unfollow them 🙂
When we choose to portray our “befores” - they may be hurtful or offensive to people whose body looks that way
It can bring up feelings of self hatred and sadness to see other people being so proud to have changed their bodies .
Sometimes we don’t even realize the impact of what we do. It can be totally harmless to post a photo like that- but it has a ripple effect .
How hard it can be for someone to see that your before is their “current” or “after”
142423 January, 2020
You don't have to accept someone else's perception of you! Forget That Crap! No one gets to tell you who you are! What you believe about yourself is who people will believe you are!
Forget what society says, you are capable of accepting every stretch mark, love handle, and fat biscuit. It's not easy! No one likes to accept that they are not heading towards perfection. We live in a world where striving for perfection is the only acceptable means for living. But it's not healthy! And no, I'm not saying you shouldn't focus on exercising and eating healthy, but what I am saying is I'm probably never going to be less than a size 16! So I choose to love myself today, right now, and exactly as I am. Whether I lose one more pound or gain ten more. I choose to surround myself with people who love me. I choose to project my beauty and strength. I choose to tell other people who I am by how I feel about myself. I choose to feel beautiful even if I don't look the same as societies view of beauty. That's on me! I Choose Fat me! And that's should be enough!
I can’t believe I’m saying this but I think breaking my neck was EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED😬
I had been telling myself I was broken (with good reason) for as long as I can remember & then I really was. I had done a ton of work to lose 95 lbs, I was 4 months into EMDR therapy and we had just gotten a positive pregnancy test the week before the accident. I was in a good place & for that I’m SO FUCKING GRATEFUL because 2016 showed me what I was really made of... & that girl is so much stronger than I ever gave her credit for.
I’ve met some of the most amazing people because I share my pain, it’s added a new level of respect for the little things, I even went on to lose a total of 111 lbs bc I had a new WHY❤️ It wasn’t just about getting the weight off so I could pack it on with another baby... this was now the fight of my life and it MATTERED if I showed up. I think I needed that, I needed something deeper than just baby weight! Even now, it’s about so much more than baby weight... it’s about being strong & healthy on a whole new level! I look at my workouts totally different as in I GET TO DO THEM & I definitely have more love & respect for this body of mine.
Now I’m not saying to throw yourself into a windshield bc I HIGHLY DO NOT RECOMMEND🤣 but I am saying that the things that test us in this life also make us stronger! They give us another reason to fight even if that fight gets exhausting it’s reason to never give up! PLEASE DON’T GIVE UP, the pain you leave behind is far worse than the one you carry... you’ve got this😘 you are a warrior🙌🏼💯🔥 I’ve helped dozens of women who live with pain find something that works for them! They are out there living their life & all of them have LESS PAIN & MORE ENERGY🙌🏼 They are doing things they told themselves were impossible but the one thing they all have in common is that they STARTED somewhere!
I would LOVE to help you get started, head over to my bio👏🏼🙌🏼 *mentorship option😘
54923 January, 2020
Hands up if you’re READY to ditch the on/off diet cycle 🙌🏻
One of the hardest parts of ditching diets is helping family + friends understand: you don’t want their help dieting anymore. 😬
👉🏻You don’t want to hear their suggestions about how to eat
👉🏻You don’t want to know their pounds lost
👉🏻You don’t want to know what foods they are avoiding
👉🏻Or how “awesome” their Intermittent Fasting is going
👉🏻Or try their allegedly delicious “clean” dessert recipe 🙄🤣
Instead, you want to get on with the business of FINALLY👏🏼👏🏼healing your relationship with food. And this diet talk we’re surrounded by? It is a HUGE distraction from finding food freedom. .
One of my clients felt really annoyed when family kept saying things like “you’re gonna eat that?” every time they saw her eat one of her former “off-limits” foods, like bread or sweets. 🥖🍪She honestly wasn’t sure how to respond. 🤷♀️In the past, she’d internalize it and say “ugh, they’re right” and use their words to help herself restrict. 😢
But now? She wound up feeling angry and coming off defensive toward anyone who said a thing. 🤬🤬
The problem I find is that when family and friends aren’t sure how to support you in ditching diets, your effort to live life with No More Guilt is WAY more frustrating than it needs to be. I showed my client how to identify what she needs from others🙏, request her needs be met👍🏼, and, when some folks in her life couldn’t be there like she hoped💔, we worked through the disappointment in a way she felt empowered to have her own back using my framework going forward. 🙌🏻
I know it’s scary to ask for help. I know it hurts when you get shot down. I’ve seen the way my Mom went through it too. ❤️ I also know you are worth getting your needs met and your ability to heals your relationship with food relies on it. That’s why I have your back in doing the hard things - so you can learn to respect your body. 👯♀️
I support women in bigger bodies moving away from lifelong struggles with dieting. Apply to my coaching program and go from “putting up” with diet culture to respecting your body in spite of it. ✨Link in bio✨
2141323 January, 2020
ONE SURE FIRE WAY TO FEEL JOY TODAY
Pure joy is always sparked in the act of creation.
When you engage in creation from the heart you feel joy.
When there is something in the world as a result of you being there that could not have been there otherwise you feel joy along with a sense of pride, a sense of satisfaction.
That is your natural human response.
Because you as a human are a natural born creator.
We love to create because we live to create.
You are here on this earth to express yourself. To serve up your creations to the world. When you create you feel joy and therefore share joy with the world.
WHAT HAVE YOU HEARD ABOUT INTUITIVE EATING?
One of the main pillars of my coaching model is centered around eating and nutrition. Intuitive eating is NOT anti-health. In fact, gentle nutrition is one of the main principles!
Once we allow all foods, get back in touch with our own body’s signals and truly listen to what makes us FEEL good, it is never all donuts, ice cream and cake 🎂
We naturally crave a wide variety of food from all food groups 🍓🥦🥔🍞🥩🍣🍪Odds are if you only ate cake, you’d eventually not feel so great and desperately want to eat a vegetable!
I’m dealing with a toddler that doesn’t want to touch a vegetable. I know that vegetables are an important part of a well rounded, nourishing diet, BUT I’m not going to try and force him to eat anything he doesn’t want to it. I trust his intuition.
However, as his caregiver, I can try and ADD IN a vegetable in a way that he will like. Enter these zucchini fritters! 🥒 Full of stuff I know he loves (cheese🧀egg 🥚and whole wheat flour🍞) and some greens hidden for good measure. Providing him some gentle nutrition and nourishing satisfaction. A win-win! 🙌
This is one example of how nutrition comes into play with intuitive eating. This works for toddlers and adults alike!
If you want the recipe, comment with a 🥒 and if you want to learn more about my one-on-one coaching approach, message me to set up your free session 💚
291023 January, 2020
I really like this shot of me!
Swear I'm still in shock when I see how much smaller I've gotten.
That Mental Health Though!
That Emotional Health Though!
That Spiritual Health Though!
That Physical Health Though!
People always ask me what I did as if imma say "It was easy girllll just take this pill." "Just watch this Video" "Just have this diet for 4 weeks"
You have to want it!
Get ya sweat on!
Dont just walk around with the #Nike symbol playing yaself.
Get it done.
It's not like I didnt look good before. I know I carried my weight well. 💁🏾♀️ I know how poppin my ass was NATURALLY. I just wasnt feeling myself as much as I do now!
You mad I chose to take better care of myself and ended up with this BOMBASS body?
I use to look at skinny bitches with clear skin with a stank eye too! They would piss me tf off! Like, How Hoe?
Look at me now! 😋
Better get with the #Selflove program Boo!
I put in that WURK!
If my lazy ass could do it, you could too!
(Lazy is an Understatement)
Miss me with the Bs.
Get Ya Ass Up.
Make a Way.
You will have more enegry once you start moving if you "Too Tired"
That's your Health & Well being Broooo.
Kids like the park and to go on walks Mommaaaaa!
I'm 24, and I started early and ON MY OWN because I know imma have kids one day! I want my temple to be strong for my strong lil angels!
I didnt want to bother anyone. I didnt want to make my problem anyone else's either, and I didnt want my health and wellbeing be in anyone's else hand. I didnt want to wait for a "Partner"
That was stressing me out more!
I'm sharing to motivate other women and men that want to do the same because post like this from other influential people in the pass is what motivated me to get it done!
I wasnt in the gym. Too many Gym guys. Makes me feel uncomfortable by how hard they stare!
I worked out at home or wherever I was comfortable. Work Out Work Out wasnt my main focus. My biggest problem was my Diet and Mental. It was finding my basic. I was having so much fun I didnt notice the weight loss, now I'm loving what I see!