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  • ~07/03/19
I found a phrase online similar to this but I changed it slightly. This white really got to me. I didn't see it like this before.
" A child who has been through trauma at the hand of their parents doesn't stop loving their parents, they stop loving themselves."
[ Image description quote above written in black on white paper then highlighted in blue, photographed on a grey background.]
#childhoodtrauma
  • ~07/03/19
    I found a phrase online similar to this but I changed it slightly. This white really got to me. I didn't see it like this before.
    " A child who has been through trauma at the hand of their parents doesn't stop loving their parents, they stop loving themselves."
    [ Image description quote above written in black on white paper then highlighted in blue, photographed on a grey background.]
    #childhoodtrauma
  • 519 21 7 March, 2019
  • Victims of childhood trauma often exhibit characteristics including seeing themselves as “bad and unworthy”, seen by others as irritable, hostile, aggressive, emotionally detached and/or depressed. They may have trouble focusing, be anxious and/or confused about earlier life events. Their daily functioning is commonly disrupted by intrusive and persistent recollections and sensory re-experiencing of the traumatic event they encountered
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Traumatic experiences change connections and activations in the brain. Changes in a traumatized brain often affect several areas. The prefrontal cortex (the thinking center)- becomes under activated, the anterior cingulate cortex (emotional regulation center)- becomes under activated and the amygdala (the fear center)- becomes OVER activated. This is why the traumatized brain is often considered “bottom-heavy” (Swipe ⬅️ for the image). Individuals are in constant Fear mode, hyper-alert to danger and hypo-alert to pleasures of daily living. Trauma left untreated can often result in issues later on with anger management, addiction and criminal activity. .
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Evidence based treatment such as trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT) with a competent, licensed trauma specialist often helps children and adolescents suffering from post-traumatic stress through affective modulation, cognitive coping, exposure therapy, mindfulness training, in-vivid exposure along with other forms of treatment
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See link in bio for more information or to schedule a free in-office consultation
  • Victims of childhood trauma often exhibit characteristics including seeing themselves as “bad and unworthy”, seen by others as irritable, hostile, aggressive, emotionally detached and/or depressed. They may have trouble focusing, be anxious and/or confused about earlier life events. Their daily functioning is commonly disrupted by intrusive and persistent recollections and sensory re-experiencing of the traumatic event they encountered
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    Traumatic experiences change connections and activations in the brain. Changes in a traumatized brain often affect several areas. The prefrontal cortex (the thinking center)- becomes under activated, the anterior cingulate cortex (emotional regulation center)- becomes under activated and the amygdala (the fear center)- becomes OVER activated. This is why the traumatized brain is often considered “bottom-heavy” (Swipe ⬅️ for the image). Individuals are in constant Fear mode, hyper-alert to danger and hypo-alert to pleasures of daily living. Trauma left untreated can often result in issues later on with anger management, addiction and criminal activity. .
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    Evidence based treatment such as trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (TF-CBT) with a competent, licensed trauma specialist often helps children and adolescents suffering from post-traumatic stress through affective modulation, cognitive coping, exposure therapy, mindfulness training, in-vivid exposure along with other forms of treatment
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    See link in bio for more information or to schedule a free in-office consultation
  • 1,430 32 15 November, 2018
  • Perspective.⠀
We never really know what a person has dealt with in their life.⠀
And not everyone who deals with addiction has had childhood trauma, but this is something important to keep in mind nonetheless and have compassion for our fellow humans who may be suffering.⠀
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We're here to help our guests through their traumas and addictions, so they may live their healthiest and happiest lives naturally!⠀
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If you or someone you know is battling with alcohol or drug addiction, please keep us in mind as a resource for healing and don't be shy to reach out!⠀
It could help save a life.. 💙
  • Perspective.⠀
    We never really know what a person has dealt with in their life.⠀
    And not everyone who deals with addiction has had childhood trauma, but this is something important to keep in mind nonetheless and have compassion for our fellow humans who may be suffering.⠀
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    We're here to help our guests through their traumas and addictions, so they may live their healthiest and happiest lives naturally!⠀
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    If you or someone you know is battling with alcohol or drug addiction, please keep us in mind as a resource for healing and don't be shy to reach out!⠀
    It could help save a life.. 💙
  • 1,005 55 29 November, 2018
  • ~14/03/19
You can use all this pain for good. You can use your experience to help others and to show that healing is possible.
[ Image description the quote " Your past may have tried to break you but it will not destroy you." Written in black biro on white paper highlighted in purple then photographed on a grey background.]
  • ~14/03/19
    You can use all this pain for good. You can use your experience to help others and to show that healing is possible.
    [ Image description the quote " Your past may have tried to break you but it will not destroy you." Written in black biro on white paper highlighted in purple then photographed on a grey background.]
  • 939 19 14 March, 2019
  • Don’t make yourself an easy target. You don’t have to take the blame for every single thing in the world that causes an upset. Stop apologizing for your existence and start practicing the art of gratitude. Pay attention to how many areas of your life you can change the words from, “I’m sorry”, to “Thank you”. For example, if you walk in to meet someone and traffic makes you a couple of minutes late, try the phrase, “Thank you for waiting for me!”. This leaves the other party feeling appreciated, and protects you from internalizing unnecessary guilt. If your kid throws a fit at dinner and you need to take them outside until they calm, tell the people at your table, “Be right back, thanks for being patient.” It’s not your fault that your kid is being a kid, so don’t apologize for it.

Those are just a couple of examples but the list goes on and on, chronic apologizers will understand what I’m saying all too well. So many of us are literally trained to apologize and shoulder blame just so nobody else has to take ownership, and it’s been that way since childhood. This is a good example of a toxic trait, a cycle we need to break. Do we want our children to follow in our footsteps on this? Absolutely not.

Newsflash y’all, we can not be responsible for being the world’s scapegoat. It will eat our self worth alive. Stop it right now.

What are you going to stop apologizing for today?
  • Don’t make yourself an easy target. You don’t have to take the blame for every single thing in the world that causes an upset. Stop apologizing for your existence and start practicing the art of gratitude. Pay attention to how many areas of your life you can change the words from, “I’m sorry”, to “Thank you”. For example, if you walk in to meet someone and traffic makes you a couple of minutes late, try the phrase, “Thank you for waiting for me!”. This leaves the other party feeling appreciated, and protects you from internalizing unnecessary guilt. If your kid throws a fit at dinner and you need to take them outside until they calm, tell the people at your table, “Be right back, thanks for being patient.” It’s not your fault that your kid is being a kid, so don’t apologize for it.

    Those are just a couple of examples but the list goes on and on, chronic apologizers will understand what I’m saying all too well. So many of us are literally trained to apologize and shoulder blame just so nobody else has to take ownership, and it’s been that way since childhood. This is a good example of a toxic trait, a cycle we need to break. Do we want our children to follow in our footsteps on this? Absolutely not.

    Newsflash y’all, we can not be responsible for being the world’s scapegoat. It will eat our self worth alive. Stop it right now.

    What are you going to stop apologizing for today?
  • 187 5 13 March, 2019
  • ~17/01/19
Anger and childhood trauma.
- Anger is an important emotion and even though it can be scary to feel angry it is an important part in healing. It's okay to be angry.♥️
  • ~17/01/19
    Anger and childhood trauma.
    - Anger is an important emotion and even though it can be scary to feel angry it is an important part in healing. It's okay to be angry.♥️
  • 182 10 17 January, 2019

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  • Tonight at 9pm est I will be reading Chapter 2 of my book “Buffalo Wings”, yes that’s the name, I read chapter one and here’s a review: 
Review of JUST chapter one;
"Even more now, I see, believe & know how truly amazing you are inside & out. You’re so very inspiring. I thank you for sharing all of yourself, good & “bad”! I thank GOD each day, since he’s brought us to meeting when we did! More of my thoughts & feelings of you & how you have helped inspire me to continue to do as your doing. Especially to take my life good & “bad”, doing something & also I’ve been working on writing a book or most likely books! I love to write. I’m going to post in here, what you helped me with, by me just watching/listening to you BRAVELY reading this 1st chapter of your 📖. I only got like 12mins 50secs in & had a great moment of final release of my thoughts & feelings about something that’s been bothering me lately. So....Thank you!" Holly from NY .
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#reducethestigma  #breakingthestigma #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalillness #anxietyrelief #depressionhelp #personaldevelopment #madeformore  #traumasurvivor #ptsdawareness #ptsdrecovery
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. “This is amazing and very inspiring. I look forward to reading your book. Thank you for sharing it with, well, strangers. Lol You are very brave! 💕” Sabrina from Minnesota
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. “Hey from Canada!!! Great writing!! Can’t wait to read the whole books when it comes out! And now I want buffalo wings! Oh and I want to know about those 🦄 and 🐢- they are my two favourite things!! 💞” Randi from Canada 🇨🇦
  • Tonight at 9pm est I will be reading Chapter 2 of my book “Buffalo Wings”, yes that’s the name, I read chapter one and here’s a review:
    Review of JUST chapter one;
    "Even more now, I see, believe & know how truly amazing you are inside & out. You’re so very inspiring. I thank you for sharing all of yourself, good & “bad”! I thank GOD each day, since he’s brought us to meeting when we did! More of my thoughts & feelings of you & how you have helped inspire me to continue to do as your doing. Especially to take my life good & “bad”, doing something & also I’ve been working on writing a book or most likely books! I love to write. I’m going to post in here, what you helped me with, by me just watching/listening to you BRAVELY reading this 1st chapter of your 📖. I only got like 12mins 50secs in & had a great moment of final release of my thoughts & feelings about something that’s been bothering me lately. So....Thank you!" Holly from NY .
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    #reducethestigma #breakingthestigma #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalillness #anxietyrelief #depressionhelp #personaldevelopment #madeformore #traumasurvivor #ptsdawareness #ptsdrecovery
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    . “This is amazing and very inspiring. I look forward to reading your book. Thank you for sharing it with, well, strangers. Lol You are very brave! 💕” Sabrina from Minnesota
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    . “Hey from Canada!!! Great writing!! Can’t wait to read the whole books when it comes out! And now I want buffalo wings! Oh and I want to know about those 🦄 and 🐢- they are my two favourite things!! 💞” Randi from Canada 🇨🇦
  • 6 1 2 hours ago
  • Thank you to all who attended this evening's Healing The Inner Child event. It was a pleasure to guide for you all, and connect to you. Each one of you has a beautiful, special and unique soul
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Here is some feedback from a friend in relation to this evening
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Thank you for booking and trusting me with the deepest parts of yourself. I hope you enjoyed it ❤
  • Thank you to all who attended this evening's Healing The Inner Child event. It was a pleasure to guide for you all, and connect to you. Each one of you has a beautiful, special and unique soul
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    Here is some feedback from a friend in relation to this evening
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    Thank you for booking and trusting me with the deepest parts of yourself. I hope you enjoyed it ❤
  • 10 1 15 March, 2019
  • Another gem I want to share that I’ve shared with my clients in the past is what I find useful in nonviolent communication with children. What abuse in children looks like, and (swipe left ➡️) what nurturing children looks like. Whether you’re a parent or an adult reflecting on your childhood- what worked for you? What was your experience? Did you experience any slices of these pies? ▫️
▫️ Many times our caregivers do their best with what they have to care for us...but they aren’t perfect...and often carry unresolved emotions and learned patterns of behavior, continuing to perpetuate the cycle of abuse— many times unintentionally and unconsciously, and sadly- for some very wounded narcissistic parents- intentionally. We have these painful experiences, grow older and internalize these behaviors and messages they breed within us. This becomes our narrative, our self talk (for better or for worse), our inner navigating GPS system. These pies are visuals of what is harmful and what is nurturing to raise securely attached spirits. ▫️
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#children #raisingchildren #innerchild #trauma #traumarecovery #parenthood #motherhood #fatherhood #coparenting #nurture #abuse #childabuse #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumasurvivor #healing #psychology #counseling #attachmentparenting #attachment #lmft #domesticabuseinterventionproject
  • Another gem I want to share that I’ve shared with my clients in the past is what I find useful in nonviolent communication with children. What abuse in children looks like, and (swipe left ➡️) what nurturing children looks like. Whether you’re a parent or an adult reflecting on your childhood- what worked for you? What was your experience? Did you experience any slices of these pies? ▫️
    ▫️ Many times our caregivers do their best with what they have to care for us...but they aren’t perfect...and often carry unresolved emotions and learned patterns of behavior, continuing to perpetuate the cycle of abuse— many times unintentionally and unconsciously, and sadly- for some very wounded narcissistic parents- intentionally. We have these painful experiences, grow older and internalize these behaviors and messages they breed within us. This becomes our narrative, our self talk (for better or for worse), our inner navigating GPS system. These pies are visuals of what is harmful and what is nurturing to raise securely attached spirits. ▫️
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    #children #raisingchildren #innerchild #trauma #traumarecovery #parenthood #motherhood #fatherhood #coparenting #nurture #abuse #childabuse #childhoodtrauma #childhoodtraumasurvivor #healing #psychology #counseling #attachmentparenting #attachment #lmft #domesticabuseinterventionproject
  • 44 6 15 March, 2019
  • ~14/03/19
You can use all this pain for good. You can use your experience to help others and to show that healing is possible.
[ Image description the quote " Your past may have tried to break you but it will not destroy you." Written in black biro on white paper highlighted in purple then photographed on a grey background.]
  • ~14/03/19
    You can use all this pain for good. You can use your experience to help others and to show that healing is possible.
    [ Image description the quote " Your past may have tried to break you but it will not destroy you." Written in black biro on white paper highlighted in purple then photographed on a grey background.]
  • 939 19 14 March, 2019
  • I hate the bad thoughts, the old tapes being brought out to play their worthless songs, the dropped conversations reminding me some people think I’m an option, or other conversations of times spent with others and not me; reminding me I’m not wanted-purposely not included-not needed. PTSD is no joke. Various tiny things are able to trigger a flashback and pull one back down the rabbit hole. Been struggling for a little bit lately, then I took a major fall earlier this morning. Woke up and touched base with God for a reality check. Praising Him that I’m not where I used to be, but asking for prayer because my head is all messed up and my heart is hurting. People, via their actions or words, are easily used by Enemy to mess another up, however, my value is not in another’s opinion of or need/lack of need for my companionship. Get behind me Satan!!! I’m the Daughter if the Star Breather and Jesus died for me because I am HIS beloved!!!! 💗🙌🏻🥰 #alwaysgodsgirl #baddreams #depression #flashbacks #gonnaneedsomecoffeetoday #PTSD
  • I hate the bad thoughts, the old tapes being brought out to play their worthless songs, the dropped conversations reminding me some people think I’m an option, or other conversations of times spent with others and not me; reminding me I’m not wanted-purposely not included-not needed. PTSD is no joke. Various tiny things are able to trigger a flashback and pull one back down the rabbit hole. Been struggling for a little bit lately, then I took a major fall earlier this morning. Woke up and touched base with God for a reality check. Praising Him that I’m not where I used to be, but asking for prayer because my head is all messed up and my heart is hurting. People, via their actions or words, are easily used by Enemy to mess another up, however, my value is not in another’s opinion of or need/lack of need for my companionship. Get behind me Satan!!! I’m the Daughter if the Star Breather and Jesus died for me because I am HIS beloved!!!! 💗🙌🏻🥰 #alwaysgodsgirl #baddreams #depression #flashbacks #gonnaneedsomecoffeetoday #PTSD
  • 12 4 14 March, 2019
  • Don’t make yourself an easy target. You don’t have to take the blame for every single thing in the world that causes an upset. Stop apologizing for your existence and start practicing the art of gratitude. Pay attention to how many areas of your life you can change the words from, “I’m sorry”, to “Thank you”. For example, if you walk in to meet someone and traffic makes you a couple of minutes late, try the phrase, “Thank you for waiting for me!”. This leaves the other party feeling appreciated, and protects you from internalizing unnecessary guilt. If your kid throws a fit at dinner and you need to take them outside until they calm, tell the people at your table, “Be right back, thanks for being patient.” It’s not your fault that your kid is being a kid, so don’t apologize for it.

Those are just a couple of examples but the list goes on and on, chronic apologizers will understand what I’m saying all too well. So many of us are literally trained to apologize and shoulder blame just so nobody else has to take ownership, and it’s been that way since childhood. This is a good example of a toxic trait, a cycle we need to break. Do we want our children to follow in our footsteps on this? Absolutely not.

Newsflash y’all, we can not be responsible for being the world’s scapegoat. It will eat our self worth alive. Stop it right now.

What are you going to stop apologizing for today?
  • Don’t make yourself an easy target. You don’t have to take the blame for every single thing in the world that causes an upset. Stop apologizing for your existence and start practicing the art of gratitude. Pay attention to how many areas of your life you can change the words from, “I’m sorry”, to “Thank you”. For example, if you walk in to meet someone and traffic makes you a couple of minutes late, try the phrase, “Thank you for waiting for me!”. This leaves the other party feeling appreciated, and protects you from internalizing unnecessary guilt. If your kid throws a fit at dinner and you need to take them outside until they calm, tell the people at your table, “Be right back, thanks for being patient.” It’s not your fault that your kid is being a kid, so don’t apologize for it.

    Those are just a couple of examples but the list goes on and on, chronic apologizers will understand what I’m saying all too well. So many of us are literally trained to apologize and shoulder blame just so nobody else has to take ownership, and it’s been that way since childhood. This is a good example of a toxic trait, a cycle we need to break. Do we want our children to follow in our footsteps on this? Absolutely not.

    Newsflash y’all, we can not be responsible for being the world’s scapegoat. It will eat our self worth alive. Stop it right now.

    What are you going to stop apologizing for today?
  • 187 5 13 March, 2019
  • Depression is real and often a sign that one has struggled to feel enough, connect to their emotions, others, and to the idea that it is possible to make life amazing. In the height of my depression, I was unconscious to how powerless I believed I was and how codependent I was on those around me. I felt and believed I was stuck. I did not believe I was enough or worthy. All my beliefs were backwards and did not support life. Instead, I consistently believed my power was outside of me. I begged for approval and worked my fingers to the bone to make others happy. I suppressed my own needs and grew angrier, more resentful and in time collapsed. If you have ever suffered from depression, have you ever considered it a symptom of something deeper, and if so, what did you discover? Today, I don’t battle depression. I listen to it and ask it to reveal to me what I need to change, validate, understand, empathize with, surrender to, accept, or let go. #listentoyourbody #depression #lisaaromano
  • Depression is real and often a sign that one has struggled to feel enough, connect to their emotions, others, and to the idea that it is possible to make life amazing. In the height of my depression, I was unconscious to how powerless I believed I was and how codependent I was on those around me. I felt and believed I was stuck. I did not believe I was enough or worthy. All my beliefs were backwards and did not support life. Instead, I consistently believed my power was outside of me. I begged for approval and worked my fingers to the bone to make others happy. I suppressed my own needs and grew angrier, more resentful and in time collapsed. If you have ever suffered from depression, have you ever considered it a symptom of something deeper, and if so, what did you discover? Today, I don’t battle depression. I listen to it and ask it to reveal to me what I need to change, validate, understand, empathize with, surrender to, accept, or let go. #listentoyourbody #depression #lisaaromano
  • 513 56 13 March, 2019
  • The “Unknowing” drives me nuts. Am I flaring? Am I fighting a virus? Am I just so exhausted that my body quit? What is happening?!? If I’m just flaring, I can take Prednisone...which helps the flare but will make me grumpier and gain weight. How long do I hold out thinking it’s a flare before I should seek medical treatment? How long do I act like everything is fine before crumbling? Lord, I hate that this is where Life has me now. I hate that I survived all that I did, just to end up here. I know things could be and will become worse, now is really not that bad, but in this moment, I just can’t deal with the now.... 💔😳🥺😩😭 #wishicouldstayhometoday #praying #lifewithautoimmunedisease #keepingthefaith #flaring #exhausted
  • The “Unknowing” drives me nuts. Am I flaring? Am I fighting a virus? Am I just so exhausted that my body quit? What is happening?!? If I’m just flaring, I can take Prednisone...which helps the flare but will make me grumpier and gain weight. How long do I hold out thinking it’s a flare before I should seek medical treatment? How long do I act like everything is fine before crumbling? Lord, I hate that this is where Life has me now. I hate that I survived all that I did, just to end up here. I know things could be and will become worse, now is really not that bad, but in this moment, I just can’t deal with the now.... 💔😳🥺😩😭 #wishicouldstayhometoday #praying #lifewithautoimmunedisease #keepingthefaith #flaring #exhausted
  • 12 1 12 March, 2019
  • TRANSFORMATION...
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When I first started my journey 5-6 years ago and then started it again a year ago, I had in my mind a certain weight I wanted to hit. I thought that if I got to 150lbs (close to college graduation weight and definitely a weight before 3 babies😜) I had made it! All my insecurities would be washed away and I could wear a swimsuit with confidence!
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Well, here I am pounds away from that goal. And sister let me tell you, it’s not hitting a magic number that makes those insecurities go away. It’s not having the ultimate body transformation that brings about instant confidence.
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I am not completely in the realm of loosing those insecurities and having that confidence. But, I am learning that there needs to be a huge transformation of MIND before those things can happen!
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I am entering week 6 of a workout program that pushes your mind just as much as it pushes your body! It is incredible to be doing something daily that speaks to the heart about where your mind takes you all while moving the body and being challenged physically.
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I am starting another round in the next couple of weeks and I would love to have you join me in this transformation, a transformation of mind and body!
  • TRANSFORMATION...
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    When I first started my journey 5-6 years ago and then started it again a year ago, I had in my mind a certain weight I wanted to hit. I thought that if I got to 150lbs (close to college graduation weight and definitely a weight before 3 babies😜) I had made it! All my insecurities would be washed away and I could wear a swimsuit with confidence!
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    Well, here I am pounds away from that goal. And sister let me tell you, it’s not hitting a magic number that makes those insecurities go away. It’s not having the ultimate body transformation that brings about instant confidence.
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    I am not completely in the realm of loosing those insecurities and having that confidence. But, I am learning that there needs to be a huge transformation of MIND before those things can happen!
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    I am entering week 6 of a workout program that pushes your mind just as much as it pushes your body! It is incredible to be doing something daily that speaks to the heart about where your mind takes you all while moving the body and being challenged physically.
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    I am starting another round in the next couple of weeks and I would love to have you join me in this transformation, a transformation of mind and body!
  • 20 2 12 March, 2019
  • ~10/03/19
Some people may have grown up with the belief that their needs do not matter. That belief is not true, I promise you that your needs are important, everyone's needs are.
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  • ~10/03/19
    Some people may have grown up with the belief that their needs do not matter. That belief is not true, I promise you that your needs are important, everyone's needs are.
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    [Image description The text " Your needs are just as important as everyone else's." Written with black ink on white paper then highlighted with a blue highlighter. Then photographed on a grey background.]
  • 267 9 10 March, 2019
  • So here’s the thing... you are not alone. It can be easy to feel alone when there’s voices in your head telling you no one will understand. Those voices are lying. 
Those voices feed on the anxiety, chaos, and sadness. Those voices crave nothing more than to silence your own voice. Your voice terrifies them because you speak truth, love, and compassion.
We all have our battles. Be kind to one another. 
You are significant. You are beautiful. You are a hero.  #ptsdsurvivor #childhoodtraumasurvivor #postpartumdepression #metoo #youaresignificant
  • So here’s the thing... you are not alone. It can be easy to feel alone when there’s voices in your head telling you no one will understand. Those voices are lying.
    Those voices feed on the anxiety, chaos, and sadness. Those voices crave nothing more than to silence your own voice. Your voice terrifies them because you speak truth, love, and compassion.
    We all have our battles. Be kind to one another.
    You are significant. You are beautiful. You are a hero. #ptsdsurvivor #childhoodtraumasurvivor #postpartumdepression #metoo #youaresignificant
  • 31 2 9 March, 2019