I fell 1️⃣ in 3️⃣. I share my story in hopes that you won’t.. I wouldn’t wish the mental or physical pain on my worst enemy. If you are in an abusive relationship whether it be mental, physical or sexual, I beg you to get help and find your way out. Abuse has no gender, age, etc. it is all over and can happen to anyone.
Once you’re out, don’t ever look back.
“The last meet” is the most common for an abuser to attack and leave his last mark (as you see mine did). These pictures are after I said no to getting back together and refusing to kiss someone who I once believe “loved me”. Please use my experience with abuse and learn from it. Don’t end up like I did.. You are not alone. My messages are open to anyone who may need someone to speak to or anything else. Please don’t ever feel like you don’t have anyone because I will personally be here for you as much as I can be.
Know your worth & don’t ever settle for anything less. ♥️ Stay Kind. Stay Strong. #RiseAbove 💜
“Wear Your Scars As Wings”
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Last week, I had a breakdown at uni. During one of our seminars, we were supposed to talk about a book which includes some things similar to what I've been through. In other words, the reasons as to why I have PTSD/C-PTSD.
And I just couldn't do it.
I had to leave the classroom. I cried in a bathroom stall and when I went back to class thinking my crying was done, it began once again. You know, that gigantic, hysterical sobbing where you don't hear a thing the crying person says through their sobs. That red faced crying with acid tears.
When my teacher took me outside the classroom and asked me to tell her what bothered me, I said it:
"I have PTSD and it's because of rape and abuse".
This is a HUGE step for me. Except from a few friends and the guy I'm seeing, I haven't told anyone afk that I have PTSD. And I don't like crying in public. I've cried on buses a few times but always silently and with my hoodie on. I didn't want anyone to see.
But why do we have to hide our sadness? Why do we have to be so strong all the time, and what does strong even mean? Maybe showing other people how vulnerable you really are can be a strong thing, too?
And can it not be beautiful to show vulnerability? Can it not, sometimes, make it feel at least a little bit better? To be seen and heard. To have people tell you that your emotions are valid. To know that you, in fact, are not alone. What do you think?
Victim Assistance is offering a new support group for survivors of domestic violence. The group is open to those who identify as a female survivor of domestic violence, and is an immigrant, refuge, or those seeking asylum. This is a 14-week program. Group will be held on Saturday's from 9-11 am with child care and breakfast provided. Interpretation and transportation can be arranged. To join or make a referral email Kelsey at email@example.com or call 720.589.9203.
Nasal packing removed.... and for the first time in over 10 years I can take a deep breath from my nose. I cried when the doctor asked me to take a breath. That moment when you didn’t even know what you were missing hits you when you realize what was taken. Take back your life, don’t let domestic violence rob you of your moments to breath. #youareworthit#domesticviolencesurvivor#septoplasty#lateraimplants
Do you want to know why I show up everyday? It’s probably not what you’re thinking!
I show up everyday because I have genetics that are prone to obesity, thyroid issues and unhealthy addictions.
I am choosing to fight against those odds! I am choosing to make healthier lifestyle choices.
It starts with the foods that I choose to fuel my body with. Some of my family members have unhealthy relationships with food. Addiction comes in all forms. It doesn’t just have to be with drugs and alcohol. This is a battle that I fight everyday to win! Yes, there are periods of time that I let my food cravings and unhealthy eating habits win. But I know myself well enough to know when I need to get it together!
My workouts are obviously so I don’t gain weight. But it goes deeper than that for me. I workout for the movement. I workout to feel alive, to feel those endorphins so they can change my mindset. My workouts can change my mood within 20mins! I can start out feeling pissy and end feeling good about the fact that I just did something that most people won’t do or for some, can’t do.
This is why I show up everyday.
1132 hours ago
Anger. How to deal with build up frustration, hurt, sadness and dissapointment? How to keep your head cool when somebody continously disrespects you and your boundaries?
Anger is not easy emotion to deal with and on top of that it is often considered as destructive and not wanted. The thing with anger is that if it is kept inside and suffocated it can turn into bitterness which burns your core and ultimately manifests as physical illness.
I never had problems with expressing my anger in consstructive ways before i met this son of a b**** or in other words my dear ex-husband. He keeps pushing and pushing and pushing, until the breaking point. Today has been shitty day, i used almost all of my energy to calm myself down after his 20000 words long verbal vomit. Who can be this disrespectful and vile?! I wrote him back with such a rage that i nearly broke my keyboard.
Before sending it, i read it once more, it said: Ok.
And then i went for a run.
HEALING IS POSSIBLE. In short, there are only two things you MUST do in order to be free from mental illness. Fall out of agreement with those tormenting spirits. Fall in agreement with the Most High.
Condemnation tells you you're damaged goods. Yah tells you you're wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). Shame calls you dirty. Yah calls you redeemed (Psalm 107:2). Anxiety says you can't. Yah says you can (Philippians 4:13). Depression says kill yourself. Yah says live life more abundantly (John 10:10). Who do you want to agree with?
This healing is a process. It's a PAINFUL process. It can be a long process. Every tear, every sleepless night, every painful thud in your chest is worth the peace that surpasses all understanding. Turn to Yah! He wants you with Him. He wants to redeem you from the hands of the enemy. You stop his hand when you agree with the enemy's lies.
One year ago today I survived a horrific night at the hands of my own lover. I survived a moment when the man I was married to and shared a bed with at night actually made me question whether I would ever see my family again. I wish I could say it was rock bottom, but it was only the beginning of rock bottom. One year ago, if you would have tried telling that scared girl out in the woods about the woman she would be today, she wouldn’t believe you. If you told me that in a years time I would make all the hard decisions that would allow me reclaim my mind, body, soul, my animals, and my home I wouldn’t be able to fathom it but I would pray with everything I had left in me that you were right. I’m still rough around the edges from living in fight or flight for so long but everyday I am softening. Everyday I am unfolding and opening a little more. Just like this land I love so much, I have weathered the kind of wild storms that lead to a superbloom. And here we are, blossoming together. I read somewhere that the earth laughs in flowers- I think it’s safe to say her and I are feeling pretty giddy about it all.
53104 hours ago
Healing takes work; if you skip it, you will only push folks away who are trying to help. Hurt people often hurt people. It’s why we started @bts_healingthepain because we wanted a safe space to lift one another up. ✨
Your past does not define your future. Don’t allow it to lock you into patterns of further pain. Take the time you need, everyday to heal (check our stories for ideas on everyday practices ☝🏾). ✨
We have to release hurt, pain, and any other emotions we carry, little by little, so the healing journey can begin. We love this reminder from @realtalkkim on #motivationmonday to open our hearts so God can do a work. ✨
Realize you are on a healing journey, and it is essential for you to surround yourself with a community of folks who are loving, open and understanding. Everyone will not understand. Keep going anyway. ✨
Here @bts_healingthepain we’re all about turning pain into purpose. Connect with us on IG + FB (private group - Breaking the Silence... Healing the Pain) for education, resources, empowerment and community for survivors of abuse (physical, sexual and emotional). We are standing alongside you. ✨
If you've survived narcissistic abuse you want to make sure your kids don't grow up to abuse or be in abusive relationships themselves. You've done the hard work of finally getting out and getting you and your kids safe. ⠀
Now it's time to work on healing, not just yourself, but your kiddos too.⠀
This month I'm focusing on helping badass mama's make sure their own kids don't become abusers or get into an abusive relationship themselves.⠀
The cycle of abuse ends with you!⠀
P.S. Click on the link in my bio @obtainingblissto to book a free call with me to learn how to ensure your child's future.
14116 hours ago
• Well, here we go! Here is the first entry I’m publicizing as I begin to pour my heart out onto black and white 📓🖤🌊✍🏻
• I hope my messages are received well, although it’s ok if they’re not, as I crack open to share parts of my journey while discussing challenging and controversial topics from Human Rights in Politics to living with Chronic Pain from #CPTSD 🤭🤔😱🧐🥺🤓😳🥰 • Please go to my new blog website at iamhumansoareyou.com, read my very first post entry, and please comment, subscribe, and connect with me while we embark on this journey towards human recovery and genuine connection, together
—————————————————— 🙏🏻 #iahsay#humanity#realtalk#difficultconversations#jointheconversation 📸 by the amazing human, and my homie - @r2digitalimages , hair and make-up by the beautiful and awesome human - @s_okalski 💜
5267 hours ago
♥️lift each other up!
6137 hours ago
Forgot to post yesterday !!🤣😂😂🤣😂me and twin sis @fitnesschicka .
Now everyone don’t take this too seriously we talk to each other like this sometimes
I don’t know if y’all knew but I use to be a fitness coach. It’s actually the thing that got me started on my entrepreneurial journey. The problem is it also helped me develop some unhealthy habits and severe self esteem problems.
I became obsessed with working out doing extreme workouts 6-7 days a week. That meant not giving my body proper rest. Eventually I stopped getting the high after working out and started getting exhausted. I was on the verge of adrenal fatigue.
I also started obsessing over calories and food. So much so that I couldn’t eat anywhere without knowing exactly what was in the food and how many calories that was in it. If I ate one “wrong” thing I would beat myself up for weeks.
It’s taken me two years of yoga and letting go of my food obsession to get back to loving myself. Even though I’ve gained weight my mental health is so much better. Because of that I unfollow anyone who posts before and afters or weight loss posts. That’s for my mental health and so I don’t go back down that road again. We have to protect our space from things that make us feel less than.
sometimes in life we go through Stress .
we are filled with fears and frustration
and trails and tribulation look us in the eye
... never give up
talk to a trusted family member, friend, reach out to us.
share your story .
healing takes time and you will surely heal. .
Shit happens. Don’t fret too long over it all. Instead, keep your thoughts and eyes focused on the sky. *
Rainbows form gently. When they appear we stand in awe at its beauty. Life works the same way. Pay attention to the changing hues around you. Your progress is gently appearing in its own colorful form. ✌️Stella *
Transformation Starts With You! No matter the situation circumstances or issues, you must first take accountability and own IT! As a philanthropist, survivor and advocate against domestic violence I help individuals learn the signs of domestic violence and provide information and assistance for a safe haven. Verbal abuse is a bigger issue as most individuals don’t realize they are being abused. Unfortunately everyone doesn’t survive DV. For more information or help contact us today! Know your worth. theresamurphyinc.com. #happyMonday#tmispeaks
So this morning at 9am I got sent an email from my sons case manager from child protective services in Australia and I know you can't read it all but i was informed that my son who was diagnosed with stage two high functioning autism just over a month ago is now getting frustrated and scratching at his face and arms. But I was told it was "Normal" in children on the spectrum. Well I was so distressed over the thought that my 4 year old is so overwhelmed by his own emotions he finds comfort in clawing at his own body and face until it bleeds. So when I had my visit that afternoon at 3pm I sat with my son and asked him what was on his face and he said "when I'm angry I scratch myself" I had to be so careful approaching this subject but I knew my instincts as his mother would guide me so I told him that he is so beautiful and smart and important and that I don't want to see him hurting his gorgeous face and so I asked him what are some other things that you think could help you when your feeling like scratching your face and he came up with the answers himself he said "I can go and give someone a hug or ask for a hug from someone, or If I don't want anyone near me I can go outside and sit on the swings with some fresh air" those answers made me so proud so I decided that he was open to talking about it further so I asked him "if you want a cup of water and you can't do it on your own what do you do" and he told me that "he would ask for help" so I told him that "if he is feeling like he can't organise his feelings and starts getting frustrated would he go and ask and adult for help" and he said he would so we went further and I asked him to name some adults in every environment he is placed into e.g ( daycare, kindy. His foster home, his great grandparents & the place he has visits with me) & he named a huge amount of people some I know some I don't but I was so proud of how he reacted to working on his struggles. #leonthomasharveydouglas #biomother#fostercarelife #leonsautismjourney#beingthebestmothericanbe #autismmom #domesticviolencesurvivor #refusingtosettle #teachyourchildrentherightway #iwontletmychildforgethisworth #proudmotherofachildwithautism
Nothing quite as special than a daddy and his daughters❤️ .
Marc is the most incredible man I could have in my life, not only is he a loving, generous, caring husband, he’s the best daddy to our daughters. When we met, Milly was one, I had single handedly raised Milly, he knew the bargain, when him and Milly met, she loved him instantly, I believe that children are the best judges of character, Milly knew how kind his heart was straight off.
He took Milly as his own, raises her as his own blood, and treats Milly and Nalah exactly equal❤️ I never knew I’d be as lucky to have a man like Marc, after years and years of being abused, I honestly believed that was all I deserved, until he walked into my life and made me realise different❤️ .
He really is one in a millions, and the girls and I are so lucky to have this amazing man in our lives. I found my treasure in you❤️ .
35115 hours ago
The man who attacked me will cover his face, I won’t.” , said the acid attack victim. ✨