♡ During a traumatic event our body responds in a way that ensures that we can survive the situation.
When the event is over, we might get stuck in the way our bodies held us together. In some cases there might be a movement backwards, away from whatever is in front of you. Or there might be a pushing out, pulling up or pressing down movement.
In many cases, when we not get to finish that movement, the body tries to compensate that trauma-movement with an opposite movement. All, so some sort of balance can be found again. What we end up with is a body that is held into balance by two opposite tensions.
In therapy it is often asked to 'relax' and 'let go of tension'. What is forgotten is that the tension has a function. When this tension is released without care, the body is thrown off and it might panic. That carefully fabricated balance is suddenly gone. What then can happen is that the body starts a(nother) countermovement. That might either be doubling up on the tense movement that was released, or it can be an intense pull the other way.
What we end up with is a body in panic or a systemcrash: it shoots into a countermovement or in overcompensation and not only is this felt in the body, the psyche often is affected too. You're once again in high alert.
Tension in the body after trauma has a purpose. It is vital to carefully asses why those movements and tensions are there. So first, you become aware of the movement/tension, next you will be able to consciously feel it happening and then third, stop it in its tracks. Only after these steps can you carefully move towards releasing within the window of tolerance ♡
To enter is to risk it
Walk through and it will close
At times it seems to be the unknown
Sometimes it's when, I suppose
One thing's for sure without a doubt
The question is more than always
Are you in or are you out?
In today's article, I outline why healing must become our highest priority if we wish to live an authentic life. The process of healing is a delicate balance. I've known people who spend their entire life trying to heal from their wounds and never integrate their lessons and understanding. I see the process of healing requiring surrender and integration. We surrender to the pain and suffering and when the time is right, integrate them into the wholeness of our true nature. It is like a rollercoaster ride, insofar as their will be highs and lows. But as we begin to heal, the lows become less common and we start to find our way home again: http://www.tonyfahkry.com/when-you-heal-yourself-first-the-rest-will-fall-into-place/
"I do not know if you have gone into this question of doubt. What an extraordinary cleansing effect it has on the mind! Of course, if you doubt everything you end up in a lunatic asylum! But one must know when to doubt. That means you must know when to: when you have a dog, if you know when you have it on the leash, but you let it go when necessary, when you want it to be free, you can't keep it all the time on the leash, poor dog! So doubt must be held on the leash, and sometimes let go. Which means you start with uncertainty - you understand - not with certainty - please follow this. Books give you certainty. Right? The Bible, this and the other. You have to believe in that. So it starts with certainty, and you begin to examine, it ends up in uncertainty. Whereas if you start with uncertainty you may end up with something beyond certainty, beyond everything else. Now we are going to go into that presently." Jiddu Krishnamurti
The Master of #Emotions ....
All you've been dreaming of is right before your eyes. All you know is you've got that good feeling..and your emotions are running wild. This is too good to be true, you tell yourself. This is just who you've been waiting on..Good Looks, Success and Intellect. You say to yourself, "this has to be the one." That good feeling is making you break all your rules. Sweet talks over dinner dates and treating you special..a good listener. "Where have you been all my life," you say to yourself... That wall you put up...starts to crumble right before your eyes. Your heart is wide open at this point. You're all in and hooked on that good feeling, it keeps you wanting more. Those good emotions get the best of you. Intimacy takes place over time. You're now in love and there's no turning back.
Over time things start to change very quickly. Problems start to set in..and you're wondering what's going on..everything was going well. Your emotions have been played. That Good Listener.. Listened to all the problems of your past and how your Ex treated you. All for the purpose of knowing your character and your limits. The waiting game was taking place, without your knowledge..and your emotions were being played. You never saw it coming. "This has to be the one" you tell yourself in the beginning. Then you realize you're right back where you started once again..Hurt and Disappointed! These types of people really could care less about your feelings. "Heartless" Their only purpose is to Divide and Conquer..then on to the next one. To a Master "time" is never a issue...it's all about the prize and that was "You" By guarding your heart and guarding your emotions...you'll still never see it coming... Only time will tell, but it will never tell you everything you'll need to know... ~FWS
do you ever feel like the Lord just puts things in your path just to speak to you? just to remind you of who He is?? this was His message to me this evening. not only a rainbow, but a DOUBLE rainbow, touching the ground around our house on both sides. .
it’s the coolest thing to me to see rainbows, and a double rainbow leaves me speechless every. single. time. what a reminder if His FAITHFULNESS. of His MERCY. even when it’s hard, He is STILL GOOD. even when we don’t know why, He STILL HAS A PLAN. even when it doesn’t happen the way we want it to, HE IS STILL PERFECT. He loves us, He fights for us, He never gives up on us. and His timing is PERFECT. .
i don’t know who this message needs to reach, but remember these things. be encouraged because He’s fiercely pursuing you!