Healthcare should make us all feel fully human. I typically enter healthcare settings expecting to feel simplified to my sex assigned at birth or forced back into the gender binary. Though I’ve been fortunate to have access to a few great gender-affirming medical providers, the majority of my interactions in medical settings, particularly those that are not focused on gender, are uncomfortable, challenging, and anxiety provoking. When the doctor speaks only using heteronormative scientific or “objective” language rooted in binary ideas about bodies, biology and anatomy— my non-binary or trans identity suddenly becomes subjective, unimportant, or invisible. Treated as if it’s irrelevant to my health. Even if it’s not relevant to all aspects of my routine care and medical treatment, it is still relevant to having a positive, respectful interaction and accessing inclusive information. When it came to getting educated and taking steps around my fertility and family planning, I wasn’t wiling to put this core part of who I am aside. I shouldn’t have to. And neither should you.
Misinformation, combined with a lack of inclusive practices and affirming providers in traditional healthcare, can lead to stress and unwarranted stigma. I recently worked with @modernfertility to develop The Modern State of LGBTQ+ Fertility, new clinical research about LGBTQ+ experiences related to fertility and family planning! Nearly half (46%) of female-assigned and female-identifying LGBTQ+ people reported they don’t feel comfortable talking to their health care providers about fertility. While there are levels of discomfort with traditional healthcare providers, respondents were open to new ways to discover information about their bodies. We found that in the absence of trusted clinical resources, LGBTQ+ people are turning elsewhere, largely to online, non-traditional sources of information. LGBTQ+ health is key to a healthy society. All identities deserve to be included and accounted for in health research, information and resources.
it’s #transawareness month & over two years ago i came out as #nonbinary . so much has changed about the way i relate to myself & my gender. so much hasn’t really changed at all. new poem—like just-finished-it-an-hour-ago new poem. messy feelings. hope some of you can relate. #writeralmajor 🙏🏿
Transfolks dont owe anybody femininity or masculinity! And nonbinaries are NOT "it"! Whenever someone says "it" to refer to a person I get such an icky feeling. I remember reading that book "I Child Called 'It'" and a line that the abusive parents would say, "What did It do now?" That's what I think of. There exists no other way to dehumanize someone quite so quickly and so thoroughly. We don't even call animals "it." Hell I don't even call my STUFFED animals "it" (one is a boy and one is nonbinary like me 😄). .
The other day, I referred to myself as "she". I use they/them pronouns. (Wow I even had to edit that, I typed "preferred" ugh) I paused because the only one who noticed the fault was myself. I'm called she all day. Even the day I was a handsome boi I was a part of ladies! I'm still working on how to affirm myself. Especially in spaces that don't understand. ☆ I made an email signature. I looked up how to professionally add my pronouns. I'm really nervous to send that first email with it. Feeling like I'm "flip flopping" for not correcting people when that's not true. No one understood when I said anything. I'm only one person and there isn't enough energy in my body to deal with that alone as I continue to adjust with my new career and responsibilities in it. ☆ When I first got to my job, I would cry because of being misgendered. Now I numb myself to it. I don't let it hurt my heart as much. I take in it and let it seep into my bones. Which isnt healthy either. It's the only way I know how to survive at the moment. Perhaps this email signature will begin a much needed conversation? ☆ If you've ever misgendered yourself, forgive yourself. It does happen. You're human. If you aren't cis gendered then it's a struggle to be understood, seen, and validated. Keep being who you know you are. If no one else has told you today, I see you. You're loved.
0116 November, 2019
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mushroom pizza. is so good.
Q: Any recommendations for media with main queer characters?
A: Gotta love Brooklyn Nine-Nine, and I’ve heard One Day at a Time is good... Health Check!
-if you are wearing a binder, take some deep breaths and stretch. maybe get up and walk around!
-even if you AREN’T wearing a binder, the above is still good advice. -make sure to stay hydrated, fed, and with enough sleep! you can’t fight crime on an empty stomach!
-all my masc friends! you are looking handsome af today! keep rocking it!
-all my femme friends! you are so beautiful. i’m crying. your beauty has blinded me. -all my enby friendbies! you are gorgeous. you are stunning. you are fierce. i love you.
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So I get to wake up every day to this amazing views ❤️ I love living in the jungle and feeling surrounded by nature 💘
Everything I look at in my house, I've taken some part in building
That gives me a sense of meaningfulness 😎
Yesterday I spent almost 10h making the finish of my new concrete floor
The guys asked if I wanted help, and I asked if they could do it like I do... They said "no", so I said I'd do all it all alone 😁
They kept telling through the day that in 30+ years in construction, they've never seen an owner (especially a "gringo") work like this 💪🏽 I love to be in the trenches and I love to have pride in my work ✨
Every day we make the world we'll live in tomorrow
It's coming up y'all. To everyone who doesn't have an accepting family, is gonna catch a lot of bullshit, and has to pretend a lot of shit--it sucks. It really really sucks. But you are gonna get through it and you are fighting the good fight, don't let anybody tell you different. Stay close to your chosen family, make time for reaffirming good feels (I like puppy videos and other lgbtq Insta posts myself), and make time to reaaaally be your full total free awesome self when you're back in safe company. You got this comrades. Remember that the shit ppl say is just that. They ain't worth your energy! My therapist put it really well: "is this a thought/feeling you want to buy?" You expend energy on every thought and feeling and action, so only "buy" the ones that you really want. Leave other ppll's shitty thoughts and feelings on the shelf, as much as you can. Good luck y'all I'll b rooting for you!
This is a draft of (probably) the last poem I'm adding to Dysphoria! I haven't been in a great place lately so it's been hard to get inspiration for something hopeful, but I wanted to put something in about dealing with mental health issues. I think it's more genuine because it's coming from when I'm struggling. I hope it can help anyone who needs it ❤️ 7. I've only come out to a few very close friends so it's usually just been when it's come up naturally because I already knew they would be supportive.
another note: I’m anxious about sharing this post because this is a sensitive topic! and, this was a very impactful experience for me as a biologist, farmer, consumer, and person. I hope that you hold this post with care and consideration, and I promise to hold your response in the same regard.
most of the days that I consider “good” are easy and joyous. today was not that. today was hard and full and somber. and today was good. and important.
today we culled our flock of hens. for the last 3 years, these hens have been a source of eggs for our free farm stand, education for visitors, and excrement for our compost! however, like most chickens in agriculture - both sustainable and industrial - our chickens are genetic hybrids. for this particular breed of “layers,” egg production and quality of life drastically decrease after 3 years. (in fact, after this time, chickens become geriatric and develop similar ailments to humans, like congestive heart failure.) .
while participating in the cull was optional, as an occasional meat-eater, it felt important for me to experience this aspect of our food system that is generally hidden. I went into the day with somber confidence. after all, I’ve participated in my fair share of sea turtle euthanasias and (more so) necropsies. this was a different kind of intense. I was able to follow a bird through all of the steps of the cull: slaughter (severing the vein and artery in the neck), plucking (the feathers), evisceration (removing the innards), cleaning, and chilling. taking this life that I had cared for and preparing it for consumption was heavy. and, fully participating in this uniquely sustainable process was beautiful and full of learning.
I’m still processing the complexities of my emotions from this experience. the word “slaughter” doesn’t feel good in my mouth. but, I’m trying to reframe and reconcile that with the care and reverence for the animals that was held in this process.
pictured: eggs at various stages of development that we found in some of the hens during the evisceration process! very cool stuff
Halloweek Day 5: @hellomynameiswednesday 's Queer Magic 🔮😊💕✨⭐🐇💫🎩 .
I got this amazing Queer Magic shirt by my favorite artist @hellomynameiswednesday and I wanted to make a whole costume around it. So here I am as a Queer Magician with my Queer Magical Rho-bunny! The doodles surrounding me are all from the back of the T-shirt Wednesday made! Their work is so inspiring and magical and it resonates so much! Please support them with likes, comments, and buying their rad stuff. I'm also rocking a cute they/them pin from @cutiesla (where I did my editting of these pics today) and a binder from @gc2b ! .
I see Queer Magic as this powerful sparkling rainbow energy that shines through me. It's an energy I bring into my colorful home, my relationships with others, and into my self esteem and self care. It's what makes me Bright. It comes from my sense of self and love for myself and others. .
It's queer, it's gay, it's trans, it's my dog Rhoby, it's colors, it's glitter, it's snazzy, it's flair, it's funny, it's clever, it's charming, it's creative, it's warm, it's powerful, it's comforting, it's supportive, it's radiant, it's caring, it's deep, it's open, it's transparent, it's trust, it's effort, it's genuine, its hope, it's dreams, it's strength, it's vulnerability, it's growth, it's justice, it's community, it's friendship, it's big enough to fill a room and small enough to bring with me everywhere, it's being seen and seeing others, it's being here for you and being here for me. This is my Queer Magic, to cultivate, to keep, and to share. What is yours? .
We got 3-5 more Halloweek costumes edits in the works! You know this pic was before Halloween because it was before I got my elbows tattooed with my pronouns 😘! Pics of those to come after my Halloweek/hallomonth shenanigans! .
50016 November, 2019
Be queer, bi, straight, or curious(?) but please BE COOL!
On m'a proposé d'utiliser ce prénom au lieu de mon deadname. C'est également ma première fois en tant qu'animateur L214. Sans regret, à renouveler. Je ne sais toujours pas si c'est le bon prénom. Je ne sais pas encore bien où je vais. Mais je suis content.