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  • For the exhausted woman who showers a few minutes longer to cry with the water...
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For the person hidden in the bathroom, because she needs a few minutes of tranquility with her cigarette while slipping tears from her eyes.
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For the woman who is so tired that she feels she can't continue, that she would give anything to feel like herself again...
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For the woman who cries in her room when everyone leaves the house and for a moment she let's go... .
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For the woman who desperately battles with self Confidence when wearing a denim pants because she wants to look pretty and wear them to feel better but everything just climbs over or can't close... .
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For the woman who asks for dinner pizza because she didn't reach the time to make dinner again as she expected... Because she's tired.. .
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For the woman who feels alone, even when she's accompanied.
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You're worth a lot.
You are important.
You are enough.
You are wonderful...
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#staysafe #freedom #domesticabuse #captureyourbelief #gaslighting #mentalhealth #selflove #survivor #trauma #emotionalabuse #narcissisticsurvivor #dometicviolenceawareness #financialabuse #physicalabuse #psychologicalabuse
  • For the exhausted woman who showers a few minutes longer to cry with the water...
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    For the person hidden in the bathroom, because she needs a few minutes of tranquility with her cigarette while slipping tears from her eyes.
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    For the woman who is so tired that she feels she can't continue, that she would give anything to feel like herself again...
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    For the woman who cries in her room when everyone leaves the house and for a moment she let's go... .
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    For the woman who desperately battles with self Confidence when wearing a denim pants because she wants to look pretty and wear them to feel better but everything just climbs over or can't close... .
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    For the woman who asks for dinner pizza because she didn't reach the time to make dinner again as she expected... Because she's tired.. .
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    For the woman who feels alone, even when she's accompanied.
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    You're worth a lot.
    You are important.
    You are enough.
    You are wonderful...
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    #staysafe #freedom #domesticabuse #captureyourbelief #gaslighting #mentalhealth #selflove #survivor #trauma #emotionalabuse #narcissisticsurvivor #dometicviolenceawareness #financialabuse #physicalabuse #psychologicalabuse
  • 3 0 1 hour ago
  • I lived in a cage of being scared of his emotions.  I spent my time worried about how he was going to feel, react, think.. if I said or did anything. I tiptoed until I exploded. Was any of this normal, I thought to myself. I knew it wasn’t. I asked my friends if they had to beg their husbands for money to get food. They looked at me cross eyed. Of course they didn’t. If I played a game with him, he would get the money for me to go grocery shopping. The game seemed to be about sex, but also the usual one to two hour tear fest and speech about how abnormal it was to not supply me with funds to run the household he specifically asked me to run. Whenever I’d cry and pour out my emotions, he’d say (in a sadistic tone) “now I see how you REALLY feel” as if he were tormenting me to see if my feelings changed. Well of course I was extremely stressed just trying to get things done in our home. After the argument while he was laying in bed until 12 in the afternoon, he’d finally get up and tell me he’s going to run to 7/11 and get the grocery money. When I’d get back from the store, he looked at the receipt and one time he accused me of faking the receipt. He said “how do I know you don’t have a receipt maker and forged that? 
I said “WHAT?!” He must have had his own forging machine, to say that bullshit to me. I told him to add up everything I bought if he didn’t believe me. Because as usual I felt I had to prove everything I spent because he accused me of the most untrue, ridiculous and unheard of things. 
I was focused on getting the right number of coffees, drinks, all his requests. I didn’t have time to think about much else, except him. Where he was, who he was with, what he lied about, what he would accuse me of, what he would threaten to take away... but nobody saw that. I looked beautiful on the outside, fresh and made up but filled with terror. 
#puppetmaster #psychopathfree #psychopathy #traumabonding #gaslighting #proof #exposed #thecage #mentalabuse #financialabuse #liar #narcissism #ptsd #domesticabuse #betrayal #stockholmsyndrome #psychologicalabuse #abusesurvivor #survivorstories #livedtotell #lovebomb #abuserecovery #groceryshopping #mindcontrol
  • I lived in a cage of being scared of his emotions. I spent my time worried about how he was going to feel, react, think.. if I said or did anything. I tiptoed until I exploded. Was any of this normal, I thought to myself. I knew it wasn’t. I asked my friends if they had to beg their husbands for money to get food. They looked at me cross eyed. Of course they didn’t. If I played a game with him, he would get the money for me to go grocery shopping. The game seemed to be about sex, but also the usual one to two hour tear fest and speech about how abnormal it was to not supply me with funds to run the household he specifically asked me to run. Whenever I’d cry and pour out my emotions, he’d say (in a sadistic tone) “now I see how you REALLY feel” as if he were tormenting me to see if my feelings changed. Well of course I was extremely stressed just trying to get things done in our home. After the argument while he was laying in bed until 12 in the afternoon, he’d finally get up and tell me he’s going to run to 7/11 and get the grocery money. When I’d get back from the store, he looked at the receipt and one time he accused me of faking the receipt. He said “how do I know you don’t have a receipt maker and forged that?
    I said “WHAT?!” He must have had his own forging machine, to say that bullshit to me. I told him to add up everything I bought if he didn’t believe me. Because as usual I felt I had to prove everything I spent because he accused me of the most untrue, ridiculous and unheard of things.
    I was focused on getting the right number of coffees, drinks, all his requests. I didn’t have time to think about much else, except him. Where he was, who he was with, what he lied about, what he would accuse me of, what he would threaten to take away... but nobody saw that. I looked beautiful on the outside, fresh and made up but filled with terror.
    #puppetmaster #psychopathfree #psychopathy #traumabonding #gaslighting #proof #exposed #thecage #mentalabuse #financialabuse #liar #narcissism #ptsd #domesticabuse #betrayal #stockholmsyndrome #psychologicalabuse #abusesurvivor #survivorstories #livedtotell #lovebomb #abuserecovery #groceryshopping #mindcontrol
  • 6 0 3 hours ago
  • My piece on how the Ombudsman is failing #financialabuse victims. One was advised to pursue her violent ex who had taken a joint £24k loan without her say-so. Another experienced delays + eviction when wrongly informed by two out of three investigators. A third feared for her safety when she was told her ex would be contacted to support her complaint about their joint mortgage. 
We have an accompanying article (no paywall) on the dark side of joint finances @timesmoneymentor - link in bio

#finance #money #domesticabuse #mortgage #creditscore #bankaccount
  • My piece on how the Ombudsman is failing #financialabuse victims. One was advised to pursue her violent ex who had taken a joint £24k loan without her say-so. Another experienced delays + eviction when wrongly informed by two out of three investigators. A third feared for her safety when she was told her ex would be contacted to support her complaint about their joint mortgage.
    We have an accompanying article (no paywall) on the dark side of joint finances @timesmoneymentor - link in bio

    #finance #money #domesticabuse #mortgage #creditscore #bankaccount
  • 24 2 8 hours ago
  • Do you think that if a man hits a woman only twice he is abusive? Do you believe that a man is still abusive if a woman is physical because the man was physical or is now the woman the abuser from self defense ? Do you believe there is ever a time that is OK for a man to hit a woman? Someone in the media right now is definitely being given a hard time and judged . The man is playing the victim. Setting her up And fooling the world.  Unless  someone happens to be the RARE 2-4% (RARE.) People don’t make this shit up . And for the 2 % that do, thank you for ruining it for the woman who have actually gone through it . The abuser always tries to  reverse allegations  by playing the victim with a smear campaign, gaslighting, manipulation and repeat . This kind of man can fool everyone in the world except a person who has been in a relationship with this kind of man. .
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  • Do you think that if a man hits a woman only twice he is abusive? Do you believe that a man is still abusive if a woman is physical because the man was physical or is now the woman the abuser from self defense ? Do you believe there is ever a time that is OK for a man to hit a woman? Someone in the media right now is definitely being given a hard time and judged . The man is playing the victim. Setting her up And fooling the world. Unless someone happens to be the RARE 2-4% (RARE.) People don’t make this shit up . And for the 2 % that do, thank you for ruining it for the woman who have actually gone through it . The abuser always tries to reverse allegations by playing the victim with a smear campaign, gaslighting, manipulation and repeat . This kind of man can fool everyone in the world except a person who has been in a relationship with this kind of man. .
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  • 30 5 18 hours ago
  • Over time as most people fail
the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships.
The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free.
Judith Lewis Herman
  • Over time as most people fail
    the survivor's exacting test of trustworthiness, she tends to withdraw from relationships.
    The isolation of the survivor thus persists even after she is free.
    Judith Lewis Herman
  • 0 1 19 hours ago
  • My final piece of advice for today....
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🕊You Have an Opportunity to Improve Your Life
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When you have left an abusive spouse, partner, or family member, you have taken the first steps toward improving your life. .
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You have an opportunity to maximize your future and get the most out of it as is possible. .
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By seeking support professionally or legally, protecting yourself emotionally, and surrounding yourself with loved ones, you will have the time, space, emotional capacity, and resources that you need to start fresh and recover in all aspects of your life.
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 Although doing so takes time and can be extremely challenging, you can turn your life around for the better, and if you have children, you can help turn their lives around as well. 🕊Take that first step to a free, happy life 💕
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#staysafe #freedom #domesticabuse #captureyourbelief #gaslighting #mentalhealth #selflove #survivor #trauma #emotionalabuse #narcissisticsurvivor #dometicviolenceawareness #financialabuse #physicalabuse #psychologicalabuse
  • My final piece of advice for today....
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    🕊You Have an Opportunity to Improve Your Life
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    When you have left an abusive spouse, partner, or family member, you have taken the first steps toward improving your life. .
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    You have an opportunity to maximize your future and get the most out of it as is possible. .
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    By seeking support professionally or legally, protecting yourself emotionally, and surrounding yourself with loved ones, you will have the time, space, emotional capacity, and resources that you need to start fresh and recover in all aspects of your life.
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    Although doing so takes time and can be extremely challenging, you can turn your life around for the better, and if you have children, you can help turn their lives around as well. 🕊Take that first step to a free, happy life 💕
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    #staysafe #freedom #domesticabuse #captureyourbelief #gaslighting #mentalhealth #selflove #survivor #trauma #emotionalabuse #narcissisticsurvivor #dometicviolenceawareness #financialabuse #physicalabuse #psychologicalabuse
  • 7 0 21 hours ago
  • The pic on the left was 5 or 6 years ago.  I was living in Michigan and this was taken at a Dios de los Muertos function with friends.  I was trauma bonded to a flashy salsero narcissist.  The only way I knew how to stop the abuse was to move away from him. (I moved back to Austin, TX April of 2015 and ended up in the arms of a different narcissist...more on that in a future post). I didn’t know about NARP back then.  I was replete with deep hurt, grief, depression, anxiety, loneliness, and most of all unworthiness.  My unhealed wounding chose him over and over and over for 5 long, tumultuous years.  My adrenals were on fire and was borderline heart failure because of that toxicity.  You can see how puffed up my face was.  I cut my hair off as a way to keep men away.  I figured they would be less likely to bother me with short hair.

The pic on the right...I’ve cleared years of narcissistic abuse within 5 months of using the NARP program and counting.  I’m never going to stop using this program.  I feel more whole, worthy, happier, grounded, balanced, responsive instead of reactive, and SANE!  The miracles that have happened too!  I never thought I would have my son back with me.  I thought my chance to do things better were over.  I was never financially able to provide for him the way I am now.  I used to have a $2,000 a month income ceiling and now I’m passed that.  I’m not where I expect to be yet but I’m still clearing out the financial abuse and money beliefs I took on growing up.

Doing the deep work is SO worth it!🥰😍👑🌸🌈🐛🦋✨🌟💜
  • The pic on the left was 5 or 6 years ago. I was living in Michigan and this was taken at a Dios de los Muertos function with friends. I was trauma bonded to a flashy salsero narcissist. The only way I knew how to stop the abuse was to move away from him. (I moved back to Austin, TX April of 2015 and ended up in the arms of a different narcissist...more on that in a future post). I didn’t know about NARP back then. I was replete with deep hurt, grief, depression, anxiety, loneliness, and most of all unworthiness. My unhealed wounding chose him over and over and over for 5 long, tumultuous years. My adrenals were on fire and was borderline heart failure because of that toxicity. You can see how puffed up my face was. I cut my hair off as a way to keep men away. I figured they would be less likely to bother me with short hair.

    The pic on the right...I’ve cleared years of narcissistic abuse within 5 months of using the NARP program and counting. I’m never going to stop using this program. I feel more whole, worthy, happier, grounded, balanced, responsive instead of reactive, and SANE! The miracles that have happened too! I never thought I would have my son back with me. I thought my chance to do things better were over. I was never financially able to provide for him the way I am now. I used to have a $2,000 a month income ceiling and now I’m passed that. I’m not where I expect to be yet but I’m still clearing out the financial abuse and money beliefs I took on growing up.

    Doing the deep work is SO worth it!🥰😍👑🌸🌈🐛🦋✨🌟💜
  • 12 1 17 February, 2020
  • 🕊Surround Yourself with Friends, Family, and Resources.
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When you are moving on after domestic abuse, one of the best things that you can do is to surround yourself with people whom you can trust.
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Like many other aspects of domestic abuse recovery, this can be challenging to do.
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However, remember that your friends and family love you, support you, and are there for you. 
Rely on their support when you most need it.
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Spending time with friends and family, rather than isolating yourself, can help you to heal emotionally and can provide you with opportunities for spiritual, mental, social, and emotional growth.
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Friends and family may also be able to point you in other positive directions, such as suggesting a great support group, volunteer opportunity, or even a new job to give you something new in your life on which to focus. .
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Isolating yourself is one of the worst things that you can do after domestic violence happens, and it may increase your risk of developing depression.
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It’s ok to ask for help
Ashleigh 💕
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#staysafe #freedom #domesticabuse #captureyourbelief #gaslighting #mentalhealth #selflove #survivor #trauma #emotionalabuse #narcissisticsurvivor #dometicviolenceawareness #financialabuse #physicalabuse #psychologicalabuse
  • 🕊Surround Yourself with Friends, Family, and Resources.
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    When you are moving on after domestic abuse, one of the best things that you can do is to surround yourself with people whom you can trust.
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    Like many other aspects of domestic abuse recovery, this can be challenging to do.
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    . Many people are too embarrassed to face their friends or family members after abuse. .
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    However, remember that your friends and family love you, support you, and are there for you.
    Rely on their support when you most need it.
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    Spending time with friends and family, rather than isolating yourself, can help you to heal emotionally and can provide you with opportunities for spiritual, mental, social, and emotional growth.
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    Friends and family may also be able to point you in other positive directions, such as suggesting a great support group, volunteer opportunity, or even a new job to give you something new in your life on which to focus. .
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    Isolating yourself is one of the worst things that you can do after domestic violence happens, and it may increase your risk of developing depression.
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    It’s ok to ask for help
    Ashleigh 💕
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    #staysafe #freedom #domesticabuse #captureyourbelief #gaslighting #mentalhealth #selflove #survivor #trauma #emotionalabuse #narcissisticsurvivor #dometicviolenceawareness #financialabuse #physicalabuse #psychologicalabuse
  • 2 0 17 February, 2020