If you would’ve told me I would be in the sun; on the beach feeling absolutely ok I would’ve told you not in a million years. Well here I am and look at me soaking up some #vitaminsea and pinching myself. I guess dreams do come true. Happy head, happy Nessa💕
Let’s talk about one of my mom struggles... maintaining friendships!
My heart thrives when I have people to talk to and to love and take care of! More than just my family.. BUT my mind and body get so exhausted by it! I am a people pleaser, and By the time I’m done trying to make everyone happy, I want to crawl into a ball and be silent.. or be underwater where all I hear is water around me.. i have yet to find a balance, because this causes me to just shut down and not talk to anyone 😅👏🏼 and life goes on.. without me 😱😅
how do you maintain a balance? I would love to hear some advice from all of you lovelies! Is this a common mom struggle? Or is it more because of my personality? 🧐 -all the boys are asleep so I’m left here with my thoughts 😅😅😅😅 •
A little over six months ago I made a decision. I decided to take my life back. Focus on me. Make choices that effected me and no one else. For once in my life, I actually put myself first. My loved ones were put to the side, besides certain circumstances. In those six months I've learned to love who I am, well mostly. Noones perfect. However, I've lost weight, I've worked on my mental health, put more effort into my career. A year ago I wouldnt have been caught dead in shorts, I hated who I was. Now, I look at myself, I love my curves, every roll and fat. I'm not the skinniest person in the world nor do I want to be. But loving myself and who I'm meant to be has taught me I dont need to be a size 0 to be happy. I dont need to put myself last to know who my true friends are. The people who have supported me through this journey are the ones who are supposed to be by my side. You dont have to be little yourself or put yourself last to prove yourself. Focus on you, love yourself, love who you are, and the rest will follow. 💚 #tattoo#tattoos#tattooed#tatted#tats#tat#girlswithtattoos#inked#ink#inkedgirls#piercings#pierced#lipring#angelkiss#surfacepiercing#girlswithpiercings#foureyes#glasses#naturalhair#lovingmyselfagain#findingmyself#lovingwhoiam#puttingmyselffirst
I’ve been living life for a long time pleasing others, making excuses, not listening to my gut, being run over with all kinds of abuse, unaware, and naive. I’ve been unhappy letting my problems dictate my life with a mass amount of negativity. I’ve struggled with selfishness and thinking that taking care of yourself is foolish. I’ve labeled myself and judged my characters with a fierce fist of hate. When you’ve felt unworthy, not enough, not belonging, and shaping yourself to “fit in” at your own expense of being criticized. These past 3 months I’ve felt my power return back to me. Even through all the anxiety, problems, crisis, death of my brother, being financially unstable, and everything in between. I’m so grateful for my life and it’s trials. Lessons teaching me to be strong and resilient. I’ve become more self-reliant and resourceful. I was knocking myself down because I gained back fat pound and body fat percentage but it doesn’t define my heart and who I am on the inside. Everything is an opportunity for growth. I love this journey I am on. No regrets. I wouldn’t be where I am today and I love me. I have so much love that it’ll take a whole book to fill. Are you willing to do the things that your heart desires? Are you unwilling to let excuses, people, and hardships bring you down? Let’s rise above the noise and listen to the quietness of your soul. ❤️🦋
In 2007 I graduated from high school and went to go to college in Atlanta the same year. One year later Sallie Mae quit giving me loans. What I felt at the time No real friends, no family bonds, no student loans, can't get out the hood for nothing I felt alone, and I struggle to get my thoughts on pursuing my education like what they want from me? I was struggling to build myself up I question God at the time. I asked him Show me that I'm more than just a bastard, Show me that this life that I've been working on is meant to be more than just a disaster. I joined the Navy and saw the world, obtain my bachelor’s degree ten years later (2018) tried to corporate America I felt like another can good sitting on a shelf. I'm working and trying to find myself to be continued......
Jasper out #graduated #blackknowedge #findingmyvoice #findingmyself #knowledgeseeker #knowledgebomb #melaninlove #blackartist #blackknowledge
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Commitment is the willingness to give your time and energy to something you believe in. I am committing to myself, my health and my well-being. Lately I have not been myself, and I am making a commitment to myself to make sure I don't completely lose who I am. My mental and emotional health are always on par with my physical health, I am officially holding myself accountable to bettering them all. “You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear.” Sammy Davis Jr
I refuse to let the fear of failing hold me back any longer. So here I go. Everyday isn't going to be easy, but I know that in the end it will be worth it. So stay tuned 😉
I am so excited about this!! 100 workouts
100 days to eat better
100 chances to become stronger
100 days to become part of a fitfamily
100 times to put you first
100 moments to say YES.
Sample menus, support and the road to success
100 days to show up to you!! I can’t wait to see what this program will do for me!! Will it make me stronger YES. Will it make me healthier YES. But more important to me it will make me more self confident, it will give me more self esteem, and it will make me sooo proud of myself!! 100 days is no joke. But they are going to go by wether you are doing something for your self or not!! I’m deciding to get out there and do something!! Want to join me? Message me and let’s talk details. I know I’m tired of being stuck in my same old rut are you?
The place where there is forest
The place where there is forest is a place I know.
It makes me stand still and listen.
Its mystery entices me.
Its canopy envelops me.
Its glimmer of light and pockets of shadow remind me who I am.
There is a place where there is forest.
It welcomes and delights me.
Its chattering leaves lick my brow and tell my soul to dance-
Dance and remember
Its birds do not care what I want to hear. They remember. They know.
The distant sound of construction remind of the building of something new. The place where there is forest is a place I know. It is where I come to rest and breathe. It is where I see new life wrap around a dead tree.
Thank you. Until we meet again.