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  • Anger. Guilt. Sadness. Shame. Resentment. Broken. Scared. Just some of the feelings women who I work with feel after having lived through the trauma of an abusive relationship. Women who still cannot comprehend why someone they loved would treat them in this way - this is such a powerful image from @themustardjumper to convey this message. 
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One of the most common forms of abuse which makes it so hard for women to leave is ‘gaslighting’ - it’s the psychological manipulation of a person in order to erode their sense of self, perception and sanity, and is often used as a method of power and control. 
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The term comes from a 1938 stage play in which a husband attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane - when he dims the gas lights, he insists she's imagining it. There are three stages to gaslighting in a relationship: idealisation, devaluation and discard.
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In the idealisation stage you are love bombed, as the gaslighter projects an image of themselves as the perfect partner. You’ll will be charmed and loved beyond anything you’ve experienced before - “he made me feel like I was the only woman in the world he wanted”.
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The devaluation stage hits hard: you go from being adored and held high up on a pedestal to being incapable of doing anything right, but having experienced idealisation you are desperate to do whatever it takes to get back that adoration. You start to lose your sense of self, your perception of reality becomes distorted. You encounter denial of your experiences. You’re told no-one will ever want you. You’re made to feel like you are the one losing your mind. 
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Then comes the discard stage where you are dropped, ready for the next victim - this often happens simultaneously with the idealisation, or grooming, of the next victim. 
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This was never about you. It’s not because you are weak. You stayed because you are a kind, compassionate human being who sees the good in people. You put your trust in the person who love bombed you. This was about them and their need for control and power. Read the full blog post link in bio ⬆️
  • Anger. Guilt. Sadness. Shame. Resentment. Broken. Scared. Just some of the feelings women who I work with feel after having lived through the trauma of an abusive relationship. Women who still cannot comprehend why someone they loved would treat them in this way - this is such a powerful image from @themustardjumper to convey this message.
    _
    One of the most common forms of abuse which makes it so hard for women to leave is ‘gaslighting’ - it’s the psychological manipulation of a person in order to erode their sense of self, perception and sanity, and is often used as a method of power and control.
    _
    The term comes from a 1938 stage play in which a husband attempts to convince his wife and others that she is insane - when he dims the gas lights, he insists she's imagining it. There are three stages to gaslighting in a relationship: idealisation, devaluation and discard.
    -
    In the idealisation stage you are love bombed, as the gaslighter projects an image of themselves as the perfect partner. You’ll will be charmed and loved beyond anything you’ve experienced before - “he made me feel like I was the only woman in the world he wanted”.
    _
    The devaluation stage hits hard: you go from being adored and held high up on a pedestal to being incapable of doing anything right, but having experienced idealisation you are desperate to do whatever it takes to get back that adoration. You start to lose your sense of self, your perception of reality becomes distorted. You encounter denial of your experiences. You’re told no-one will ever want you. You’re made to feel like you are the one losing your mind.
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    Then comes the discard stage where you are dropped, ready for the next victim - this often happens simultaneously with the idealisation, or grooming, of the next victim.
    _
    This was never about you. It’s not because you are weak. You stayed because you are a kind, compassionate human being who sees the good in people. You put your trust in the person who love bombed you. This was about them and their need for control and power. Read the full blog post link in bio ⬆️
  • 1,749 168 27 August, 2019
  • I have found this key truth is very useful for people, to help them ignore narcissists before going to work on their Inner Game – meaning detoxing their trauma and reprogramming their painful beliefs.
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Initially, it is very human that we want to get back at narcissists; we want them to suffer. They have hurt us, and what they have done to us defies our sense of loyalty, love and what we stand for as human beings.
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Please know even though I am all for Quantum Recovery (resources via link in my Bio) where we purposefully evolve ourselves to the stage where we have no need for narcissists to experience anything at all for us to have a truly wonderful, rich and expansive life (true Quantum Cellular Freedom), I deeply acknowledge the stages we go through emotionally.
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Revenge and wanting to pay back, for most of us, is initially very real and coursing through our being. As long as we are prepared to work towards our inner recovery as soon as possible, this can be a helpful step to start ignoring a narcissist.
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KNOWING nothing hurts a narcissist more than ignoring them.
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It renders them insignificant, meaningless and void.
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That is the deepest fear of the narcissist – having people turn their back on them and let go, because there is NO greater narcissistic injury. It is literal emotional annihilation.
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Please know you have a window of time with your own emotions with this – yes ignore a narcissist because you know it hurts them more than anything, but start your recovery in deep earnest immediately as well – because if you don’t your ego’s delight at ignoring them will be VERY short lived.
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The ego needs constant proof and confirmation. Therefore, without deep healing processes to detoxify yourself from the narcissist, you will want to check up – such as look up social media, or get in contact with people the narcissist knows to see IF your ignoring them has really hurt them.
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Your attention will still be on the narcissist, which means that it isn’t going towards your healing and recovery, and you will still be drained of and handing energy away.
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This is why it is important to use this knowledge as your kick start ONLY.
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Much love xo ❤️
  • I have found this key truth is very useful for people, to help them ignore narcissists before going to work on their Inner Game – meaning detoxing their trauma and reprogramming their painful beliefs.
    .
    Initially, it is very human that we want to get back at narcissists; we want them to suffer. They have hurt us, and what they have done to us defies our sense of loyalty, love and what we stand for as human beings.
    .
    Please know even though I am all for Quantum Recovery (resources via link in my Bio) where we purposefully evolve ourselves to the stage where we have no need for narcissists to experience anything at all for us to have a truly wonderful, rich and expansive life (true Quantum Cellular Freedom), I deeply acknowledge the stages we go through emotionally.
    .
    Revenge and wanting to pay back, for most of us, is initially very real and coursing through our being. As long as we are prepared to work towards our inner recovery as soon as possible, this can be a helpful step to start ignoring a narcissist.
    .
    KNOWING nothing hurts a narcissist more than ignoring them.
    .
    It renders them insignificant, meaningless and void.
    .
    That is the deepest fear of the narcissist – having people turn their back on them and let go, because there is NO greater narcissistic injury. It is literal emotional annihilation.
    .
    Please know you have a window of time with your own emotions with this – yes ignore a narcissist because you know it hurts them more than anything, but start your recovery in deep earnest immediately as well – because if you don’t your ego’s delight at ignoring them will be VERY short lived.
    .
    The ego needs constant proof and confirmation. Therefore, without deep healing processes to detoxify yourself from the narcissist, you will want to check up – such as look up social media, or get in contact with people the narcissist knows to see IF your ignoring them has really hurt them.
    .
    Your attention will still be on the narcissist, which means that it isn’t going towards your healing and recovery, and you will still be drained of and handing energy away.
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    This is why it is important to use this knowledge as your kick start ONLY.
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    Much love xo ❤️
  • 2,616 189 21 April, 2019

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  • Sometimes, I get discouraged in my journey and I have to remind myself how far I’ve come.

Not just physically, but everything else to because ALL of it matters.

In the first photo, I was 251 lbs and literally on my deathbed. I was also a victim of gaslighting by my ex-husband and I was a shell of a human being. That was July 2015.

65 lbs gone and 10 months later, I left him and came back home to Mobile. . . and back to the REAL love of my life. Two months later, we found out we were pregnant with our son.

Ever since then, I struggled so hard with overeating and binge eating and the only thing that had ever worked for me was combining keto and IF.

The problem was, I knew that I wasn’t nourishing my body the way I should have. So, May of 2019, I said goodbye to keto FOREVER and started trying to handle my seemingly impossible to overcome food addictions. It was literally BATTLE going on within me. Me vs the urges. The urges almost always won. It’s so hard to swallow the feelings of defeat and then get up the next day with every intention of being so much better than that only to find yourself stuck in the same spiral of compulsive binging.

The beginning of January, I freaked out because the scale crept back up above 200. I felt like a failure. I dug deep and went completely vegan after a few months of transitioning. The weight still wasn’t coming off like I wanted, so I added in intermittent fasting once again.

Here I am, it’s February 2020.

Five years have elapsed between these photos. Including a divorce during my first trimester, beginning a new relationship, a crazy high risk pregnancy, a bizarre delivery experience, and now raising a little Aries boy with autism.

I stay home with my sweet child while I grow my online wellness & fitness business because this is what I’m supposed to do in my life. Help others get out of that same before picture I was in.

It isn’t easy. It’s hard AF but it’s completely beyond worth it. If you are struggling in a similar experience, feel free to reach out as I would be honored to help pull you up out of that darkness and into the light.

#5years #overcomingBED #gaslightingsurvivor #fromfattofit #chooseyourhard #vegan
  • Sometimes, I get discouraged in my journey and I have to remind myself how far I’ve come.

    Not just physically, but everything else to because ALL of it matters.

    In the first photo, I was 251 lbs and literally on my deathbed. I was also a victim of gaslighting by my ex-husband and I was a shell of a human being. That was July 2015.

    65 lbs gone and 10 months later, I left him and came back home to Mobile. . . and back to the REAL love of my life. Two months later, we found out we were pregnant with our son.

    Ever since then, I struggled so hard with overeating and binge eating and the only thing that had ever worked for me was combining keto and IF.

    The problem was, I knew that I wasn’t nourishing my body the way I should have. So, May of 2019, I said goodbye to keto FOREVER and started trying to handle my seemingly impossible to overcome food addictions. It was literally BATTLE going on within me. Me vs the urges. The urges almost always won. It’s so hard to swallow the feelings of defeat and then get up the next day with every intention of being so much better than that only to find yourself stuck in the same spiral of compulsive binging.

    The beginning of January, I freaked out because the scale crept back up above 200. I felt like a failure. I dug deep and went completely vegan after a few months of transitioning. The weight still wasn’t coming off like I wanted, so I added in intermittent fasting once again.

    Here I am, it’s February 2020.

    Five years have elapsed between these photos. Including a divorce during my first trimester, beginning a new relationship, a crazy high risk pregnancy, a bizarre delivery experience, and now raising a little Aries boy with autism.

    I stay home with my sweet child while I grow my online wellness & fitness business because this is what I’m supposed to do in my life. Help others get out of that same before picture I was in.

    It isn’t easy. It’s hard AF but it’s completely beyond worth it. If you are struggling in a similar experience, feel free to reach out as I would be honored to help pull you up out of that darkness and into the light.

    #5years #overcomingBED #gaslightingsurvivor #fromfattofit #chooseyourhard #vegan
  • 31 7 16 February, 2020
  • Gaslighting takes many different forms, some of which can appear very subtle. Its a psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgement, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes such as low self-esteem. Thanks for the infographic @themindgeek
  • Gaslighting takes many different forms, some of which can appear very subtle. Its a psychological manipulation in which a person or a group covertly sows seeds of doubt in a targeted individual, making them question their own memory, perception, or judgement, often evoking in them cognitive dissonance and other changes such as low self-esteem. Thanks for the infographic @themindgeek
  • 89 2 12 February, 2020
  • 108 7 11 February, 2020
  • When fiction is more true than what most people believe to be reality ❤️✨👊 2020 WE RISE 💪🌈🦄
  • When fiction is more true than what most people believe to be reality ❤️✨👊 2020 WE RISE 💪🌈🦄
  • 30 1 5 February, 2020
  • This is something there good at. Your there baby! There whole world! Anything you want! My money is your money! Your so beautiful! Your perfect! There is nobody in the world like you! In reality you don't get what you want. Your made fun of. They hide money and say there broke. They sneak porn every second of the day your out of sight and say things like why can't your titties look like hers. They flirt with all there co-workers and make you feel in competition with them. They'll play games tell you to drop something at there job then tell all the girls your crazy jealous an came to spy on them. And they often become violent when you don't tolerate the shit! 
#mindgame 
#sickindividuals 
#gaslightingsurvivor 
#yournotcrazy
#narsissist 
#pasthelp
#selfishandsick
#thatstare
#wolfinsheepsclothing
  • This is something there good at. Your there baby! There whole world! Anything you want! My money is your money! Your so beautiful! Your perfect! There is nobody in the world like you! In reality you don't get what you want. Your made fun of. They hide money and say there broke. They sneak porn every second of the day your out of sight and say things like why can't your titties look like hers. They flirt with all there co-workers and make you feel in competition with them. They'll play games tell you to drop something at there job then tell all the girls your crazy jealous an came to spy on them. And they often become violent when you don't tolerate the shit!
    #mindgame
    #sickindividuals
    #gaslightingsurvivor
    #yournotcrazy
    #narsissist
    #pasthelp
    #selfishandsick
    #thatstare
    #wolfinsheepsclothing
  • 13 1 29 January, 2020
  • Gaslighting is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is still abuse. ⁣
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If you’re ready to take back your power by building better boundaries so you can stand up against gaslighting and other toxic behaviors, apply for the Boundary Babe 1:1.
  • Gaslighting is emotional abuse. Emotional abuse is still abuse. ⁣

    If you’re ready to take back your power by building better boundaries so you can stand up against gaslighting and other toxic behaviors, apply for the Boundary Babe 1:1.
  • 146 2 24 January, 2020
  • https://www.elephantjournal.com/?p=2415305 via @elephantjournal
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I am astounded, I never  expected this article to be as popular as it has been! 😲It's great to see the conversations and interest that has followed this piece published in Elephant Journal magazine. There's way more interest than I could have imagined!  It's a topic I care about strongly. My perspective focuses on how damaging being told to forgive can be for people who have experienced trauma and abuse. It's a topic close to my heart. My original/ proposed title wasn't as provocative as the editors alteration "Telling People to Forgive is Gaslighting in Disguise".... [I'm learning more about the work of editors in creating catchy headlines that grab peoples attention and generate shares, views, clicks - which can have varied consequences for writers] I'm pleased to be sharing a topic that I feel is important regardless! https://www.elephantjournal.com/?p=2415305 via @elephantjournal
  • https://www.elephantjournal.com/?p=2415305 via @elephantjournal
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    I am astounded, I never expected this article to be as popular as it has been! 😲It's great to see the conversations and interest that has followed this piece published in Elephant Journal magazine. There's way more interest than I could have imagined! It's a topic I care about strongly. My perspective focuses on how damaging being told to forgive can be for people who have experienced trauma and abuse. It's a topic close to my heart. My original/ proposed title wasn't as provocative as the editors alteration "Telling People to Forgive is Gaslighting in Disguise".... [I'm learning more about the work of editors in creating catchy headlines that grab peoples attention and generate shares, views, clicks - which can have varied consequences for writers] I'm pleased to be sharing a topic that I feel is important regardless! https://www.elephantjournal.com/?p=2415305 via @elephantjournal
  • 89 16 24 January, 2020
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Der 22.01. ist der "Trans Prisoner Day of Action and Solidarity". Heute steht alles im Zeichen des Kampfes um Anerkennung und Freiheit! #fightpatriarchy

Ich danke Jule für das Cover, Helmuth für den Mix & Vince fürs Master sowie den Free Gucci-Beat.

Außerdem thx an Robeat, Ranko & Youslaccin für weitere Beats & Jacky für das Feature.

Das Digital-Tape ist über die bekannten Streaming-Plattformen hörbar. Auf Bandcamp kannst du es für einen schmalen Taler unterstützen. Den Link findest du in meiner Profilbeschreibung.
  • "ich bin zur hälfte er" Tape - OUT NOW

    Der 22.01. ist der "Trans Prisoner Day of Action and Solidarity". Heute steht alles im Zeichen des Kampfes um Anerkennung und Freiheit! #fightpatriarchy

    Ich danke Jule für das Cover, Helmuth für den Mix & Vince fürs Master sowie den Free Gucci-Beat.

    Außerdem thx an Robeat, Ranko & Youslaccin für weitere Beats & Jacky für das Feature.

    Das Digital-Tape ist über die bekannten Streaming-Plattformen hörbar. Auf Bandcamp kannst du es für einen schmalen Taler unterstützen. Den Link findest du in meiner Profilbeschreibung.
  • 54 4 22 January, 2020
  • I’m exhausted. Every day is a struggle. It’s not like I got to leave and start over, start a new life. 
There is so much mess to clean up. 
His mess. 
There are so many chains still binding me to the past, I don’t get to move on yet. 
There are battles ahead of me, huge ones, and I have no choice but to fight them, even when I’d rather lay down my sword and give up. 
Every day is a struggle just to get out of bed, let alone deal with paperwork, phone calls, doctors, insurance, and playing phone tag with a caseworker I haven’t actually spoken to in two weeks, even though I’ve left voicemails in tears. 
I’d say I’m ready to fall asleep by 8 but who sleeps? Bedtime is just time for my mind to torture me and nightmares so I can wake up exhausted before the next day begins. 
And let’s not forget dealing with the friends who just don’t get it. 
Where are we supposed to get the energy to keep moving forward? 
#Domesticviolence #domesticabuse #gaslighting #domesticviolenceawareness #domesticviolencesurvivor #domesticabusesurvivor #gaslightingsurvivor #gaslightingisreal #survivor #mystoryisntover #iwillgetthroughthis #grieftograce
  • I’m exhausted. Every day is a struggle. It’s not like I got to leave and start over, start a new life.
    There is so much mess to clean up.
    His mess.
    There are so many chains still binding me to the past, I don’t get to move on yet.
    There are battles ahead of me, huge ones, and I have no choice but to fight them, even when I’d rather lay down my sword and give up.
    Every day is a struggle just to get out of bed, let alone deal with paperwork, phone calls, doctors, insurance, and playing phone tag with a caseworker I haven’t actually spoken to in two weeks, even though I’ve left voicemails in tears.
    I’d say I’m ready to fall asleep by 8 but who sleeps? Bedtime is just time for my mind to torture me and nightmares so I can wake up exhausted before the next day begins.
    And let’s not forget dealing with the friends who just don’t get it.
    Where are we supposed to get the energy to keep moving forward?
    #Domesticviolence #domesticabuse #gaslighting #domesticviolenceawareness #domesticviolencesurvivor #domesticabusesurvivor #gaslightingsurvivor #gaslightingisreal #survivor #mystoryisntover #iwillgetthroughthis #grieftograce
  • 21 7 22 January, 2020
  • ❗️ ΟΔΗΓΟΣ ΓΙΑ ΤΗ ΝΑΡΚΙΣΣΙΣΤΙΚΗ ΔΙΑΤΑΡΑΧΗ ΠΡΟΣΩΠΙΚΟΤΗΤΑΣ - ΤΗ ΧΕΙΡΙΣΤΙΚΟΤΗΤΑ & ΤΗ ΣΥΝΑΙΣΘΗΜΑΤΙΚΗ ΧΕΙΡΑΓΩΓΗΣΗ ❗️ Μετά από μήνες αναζήτησης στην επιστημονική βιβλιογραφία, μέσα από πολλές ώρες συναντήσεων και συζητήσεων με ψυχολόγους και ψυχιάτρους, με θύματα χειριστικής συμπεριφοράς, μέσα από τη δική μου εμπειρία περί του θέματος, και λόγω της ανάγκης μου να προστατευτούν και να αφυπνιστούν όσο το δυνατόν περισσότεροι άνθρωποι από τη λυσσαλέα και απάνθρωπη συμπεριφορά των χειριστικών ανθρώπων με Ναρκισσιστική Διαταραχή Προσωπικότητας, σας παρουσιάζω τα αποτελέσματα αυτής της έρευνας.

Ο οδηγός μου, αναφέρεται εκτενώς: ✅ στα χαρακτηριστικά των εν λόγω ανθρώπων, οι οποίοι έχουν την εν λόγω διαταραχή ✅ πώς αυτοί οι άνθρωποι συμπεριφέρονται και πώς παρουσιάζονται στα υποψήφια θύματά τους ✅ στα χτυπήματα των χειριστικών ανθρώπων ✅ τις παγίδες που ελλοχεύονται μέσα από τη συμπεριφορά τους ✅ στο ναρκισσιστικό τρίπτυχο: τροφή - οργή - τιμωρία ✅ στο Gaslighting (ναρκισσιστική τακτική ελέγχου του νου, που προσπαθούν να βγάλουν το θύμα τους τρελό) ✅ στο Hoovering (τεχνική από τους χειριστικούς ανθρώπους, οι οποίοι χρησιμοποιούν διάφορους τρόπους για να φέρουν τον «άνθρωπό τους» πίσω) ✅ στις "ιπτάμενες μαϊμούδες" (άτομα τα οποία λειτουργούν ως πληρεξούσιά του, άτομα τα οποία γίνονται εύκολα τα πιόνια του ναρκισσιστή/ χειριστικού ανθρώπου και τον βοηθούν στο να δημιουργηθεί μια φήμη πολύ αρνητική γύρω από το όνομα των θυμάτων) ✅ σε συμβουλές που θα μας προστατεύσουν/θωρακίσουν από τέτοιους ανθρώπους 🔴 ΑΣ ΠΡΟΣΤΑΤΕΥΤΟΥΜΕ ΚΑΙ ΑΣ ΧΑΡΟΥΜΕ ΤΗΝ ΕΛΕΥΘΕΡΙΑ ΜΑΣ ➡️ Το link για τον Οδηγό ⬅️ https://bit.ly/2FuonRs  #covertnarcissist #narcissists #narcissistsurvivor #manipulation #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #emotionalmanipulation #gaslighting #gaslightingsurvivor #flyingmonkey #hoovering #manipulative #manipulativepeople #psychologicalwar
  • ❗️ ΟΔΗΓΟΣ ΓΙΑ ΤΗ ΝΑΡΚΙΣΣΙΣΤΙΚΗ ΔΙΑΤΑΡΑΧΗ ΠΡΟΣΩΠΙΚΟΤΗΤΑΣ - ΤΗ ΧΕΙΡΙΣΤΙΚΟΤΗΤΑ & ΤΗ ΣΥΝΑΙΣΘΗΜΑΤΙΚΗ ΧΕΙΡΑΓΩΓΗΣΗ ❗️ Μετά από μήνες αναζήτησης στην επιστημονική βιβλιογραφία, μέσα από πολλές ώρες συναντήσεων και συζητήσεων με ψυχολόγους και ψυχιάτρους, με θύματα χειριστικής συμπεριφοράς, μέσα από τη δική μου εμπειρία περί του θέματος, και λόγω της ανάγκης μου να προστατευτούν και να αφυπνιστούν όσο το δυνατόν περισσότεροι άνθρωποι από τη λυσσαλέα και απάνθρωπη συμπεριφορά των χειριστικών ανθρώπων με Ναρκισσιστική Διαταραχή Προσωπικότητας, σας παρουσιάζω τα αποτελέσματα αυτής της έρευνας.

    Ο οδηγός μου, αναφέρεται εκτενώς: ✅ στα χαρακτηριστικά των εν λόγω ανθρώπων, οι οποίοι έχουν την εν λόγω διαταραχή ✅ πώς αυτοί οι άνθρωποι συμπεριφέρονται και πώς παρουσιάζονται στα υποψήφια θύματά τους ✅ στα χτυπήματα των χειριστικών ανθρώπων ✅ τις παγίδες που ελλοχεύονται μέσα από τη συμπεριφορά τους ✅ στο ναρκισσιστικό τρίπτυχο: τροφή - οργή - τιμωρία ✅ στο Gaslighting (ναρκισσιστική τακτική ελέγχου του νου, που προσπαθούν να βγάλουν το θύμα τους τρελό) ✅ στο Hoovering (τεχνική από τους χειριστικούς ανθρώπους, οι οποίοι χρησιμοποιούν διάφορους τρόπους για να φέρουν τον «άνθρωπό τους» πίσω) ✅ στις "ιπτάμενες μαϊμούδες" (άτομα τα οποία λειτουργούν ως πληρεξούσιά του, άτομα τα οποία γίνονται εύκολα τα πιόνια του ναρκισσιστή/ χειριστικού ανθρώπου και τον βοηθούν στο να δημιουργηθεί μια φήμη πολύ αρνητική γύρω από το όνομα των θυμάτων) ✅ σε συμβουλές που θα μας προστατεύσουν/θωρακίσουν από τέτοιους ανθρώπους 🔴 ΑΣ ΠΡΟΣΤΑΤΕΥΤΟΥΜΕ ΚΑΙ ΑΣ ΧΑΡΟΥΜΕ ΤΗΝ ΕΛΕΥΘΕΡΙΑ ΜΑΣ ➡️ Το link για τον Οδηγό ⬅️ https://bit.ly/2FuonRs #covertnarcissist #narcissists #narcissistsurvivor #manipulation #narcissisticpersonalitydisorder #emotionalmanipulation #gaslighting #gaslightingsurvivor #flyingmonkey #hoovering #manipulative #manipulativepeople #psychologicalwar
  • 7 0 19 January, 2020
  • This day was completely unplanned and turn out exactly as it should have.
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I had a trigger this morning and 
instantly anxiety took over.
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I managed to calm myself down and take time 
to dissect and process why this had happened. .
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As, I was getting ready to leave to walk the dogs Mike got home and we both took off for a long walk with the pups. .
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I could have thought that would fix it and it didn’t so we went out again for a hike together. As we were hiking I stopped and said “we have been talking adding hiking to our schedule a couple of times a week again“ and without even knowing we were doing just that. .
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It’s funny how things work. .
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This anxiety is not going to control my life and I will do everything in my power to push through it all and hopefully it inspires you to do the same. .
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Today,
I re-shared with my love how my focus and life plan have shifted. No more playing games or small this life is meant to be lived to the fullest and I’m ready to leave #MYMARK In this world.
#therevolutionbeginswithyou 
#abrandwithapurpose 
#freethehummingbird
  • This day was completely unplanned and turn out exactly as it should have.
    .
    I had a trigger this morning and
    instantly anxiety took over.
    .
    I managed to calm myself down and take time
    to dissect and process why this had happened. .
    .
    As, I was getting ready to leave to walk the dogs Mike got home and we both took off for a long walk with the pups. .
    .
    I could have thought that would fix it and it didn’t so we went out again for a hike together. As we were hiking I stopped and said “we have been talking adding hiking to our schedule a couple of times a week again“ and without even knowing we were doing just that. .
    .
    It’s funny how things work. .
    .
    This anxiety is not going to control my life and I will do everything in my power to push through it all and hopefully it inspires you to do the same. .
    .
    Today,
    I re-shared with my love how my focus and life plan have shifted. No more playing games or small this life is meant to be lived to the fullest and I’m ready to leave #MYMARK In this world.
    #therevolutionbeginswithyou
    #abrandwithapurpose
    #freethehummingbird
  • 20 1 7 hours ago
  • THERAPY 
I never imagined that I would be talking about or going to therapy but, life happens and today I went in for my second appointment.
.
Before heading out to my appointment I decided that some quiet time was much needed so I grabbed the dogs and headed out for a long walk. .
.
Balance is my word for 2020 but I’ve come to realize that not only do I need to find balance but need to find time to disconnect.
.
This is going to be something that I know I will have a bit of struggle with but, I’m so excited to be able to take on this challenge. .
.
I’m open to trying anything that will get me closer to my life goals and purpose. .
.
I would love to hear if you have seen a therapist or know of someone who sees one. .
.
Let’s chat. ❤️+✌🏼
.
XoXo 
Teresa
  • THERAPY
    I never imagined that I would be talking about or going to therapy but, life happens and today I went in for my second appointment.
    .
    Before heading out to my appointment I decided that some quiet time was much needed so I grabbed the dogs and headed out for a long walk. .
    .
    Balance is my word for 2020 but I’ve come to realize that not only do I need to find balance but need to find time to disconnect.
    .
    This is going to be something that I know I will have a bit of struggle with but, I’m so excited to be able to take on this challenge. .
    .
    I’m open to trying anything that will get me closer to my life goals and purpose. .
    .
    I would love to hear if you have seen a therapist or know of someone who sees one. .
    .
    Let’s chat. ❤️+✌🏼
    .
    XoXo
    Teresa
  • 16 1 16 January, 2020
  • We all start somewhere.
Don’t YOU ever give up on your dreams. .
.
I was told over and over to “GET REAL” 
and to quit on Ace.
.
Due, to my health issues and un-healthy relationship putting myself first was a non-negotiable.
.
But, every spare second I had 
I worked from my phone, hospital bed, 
in between classes, during my work breaks. .
.
As, I quietly worked on my mental and physical health. I also took the time to learn and study more on what my vision would be for Ace. .
.
And one day my heart and soul told me that it was time to put myself first and follow my life purpose and mission in life. .
.
Here I am years later, having to re-start but, my heart is at peace, my mind is calm, and my vision is slowly becoming a reality. .
.
When you do things from the heart. 
The universe always finds a way to reward YOU! .
.
Focus on the process and nothing else. ❤️+✌🏼
.
Stay Tuned
So much goodness is 
coming your way! .
.
XoXo 
Teresa
  • We all start somewhere.
    Don’t YOU ever give up on your dreams. .
    .
    I was told over and over to “GET REAL”
    and to quit on Ace.
    .
    Due, to my health issues and un-healthy relationship putting myself first was a non-negotiable.
    .
    But, every spare second I had
    I worked from my phone, hospital bed,
    in between classes, during my work breaks. .
    .
    As, I quietly worked on my mental and physical health. I also took the time to learn and study more on what my vision would be for Ace. .
    .
    And one day my heart and soul told me that it was time to put myself first and follow my life purpose and mission in life. .
    .
    Here I am years later, having to re-start but, my heart is at peace, my mind is calm, and my vision is slowly becoming a reality. .
    .
    When you do things from the heart.
    The universe always finds a way to reward YOU! .
    .
    Focus on the process and nothing else. ❤️+✌🏼
    .
    Stay Tuned
    So much goodness is
    coming your way! .
    .
    XoXo
    Teresa
  • 69 10 15 January, 2020
  • ❤️+✌🏼
  • ❤️+✌🏼
  • 25 1 15 January, 2020
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
.
Trusting myself is new.
.
Valuing myself is new.
.
Standing up for myself is new.
.
Setting boundaries is new.
.
It is all a learning process.
.
But I would never choose to go back.
.
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
    .
    Trusting myself is new.
    .
    Valuing myself is new.
    .
    Standing up for myself is new.
    .
    Setting boundaries is new.
    .
    It is all a learning process.
    .
    But I would never choose to go back.
    .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 22 1 15 January, 2020
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
.
They are like a real life dementor.
.
When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
.
So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
.
What feeds them? What is supply?
. .
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
    .
    They are like a real life dementor.
    .
    When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
    .
    So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
    .
    What feeds them? What is supply?
    . .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 19 1 15 January, 2020
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
.
Trusting myself is new.
.
Valuing myself is new.
.
Standing up for myself is new.
.
Setting boundaries is new.
.
It is all a learning process.
.
But I would never choose to go back.
.
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
    .
    Trusting myself is new.
    .
    Valuing myself is new.
    .
    Standing up for myself is new.
    .
    Setting boundaries is new.
    .
    It is all a learning process.
    .
    But I would never choose to go back.
    .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 24 2 15 January, 2020
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
.
They are like a real life dementor.
.
When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
.
So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
.
What feeds them? What is supply?
. .
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
    .
    They are like a real life dementor.
    .
    When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
    .
    So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
    .
    What feeds them? What is supply?
    . .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 14 1 15 January, 2020
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
.
Trusting myself is new.
.
Valuing myself is new.
.
Standing up for myself is new.
.
Setting boundaries is new.
.
It is all a learning process.
.
But I would never choose to go back.
.
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
    .
    Trusting myself is new.
    .
    Valuing myself is new.
    .
    Standing up for myself is new.
    .
    Setting boundaries is new.
    .
    It is all a learning process.
    .
    But I would never choose to go back.
    .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 34 1 15 January, 2020
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
.
They are like a real life dementor.
.
When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
.
So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
.
What feeds them? What is supply?
. .
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
    .
    They are like a real life dementor.
    .
    When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
    .
    So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
    .
    What feeds them? What is supply?
    . .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 23 1 15 January, 2020
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
.
Trusting myself is new.
.
Valuing myself is new.
.
Standing up for myself is new.
.
Setting boundaries is new.
.
It is all a learning process.
.
But I would never choose to go back.
.
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
    .
    Trusting myself is new.
    .
    Valuing myself is new.
    .
    Standing up for myself is new.
    .
    Setting boundaries is new.
    .
    It is all a learning process.
    .
    But I would never choose to go back.
    .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 23 1 15 January, 2020
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
.
They are like a real life dementor.
.
When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
.
So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
.
What feeds them? What is supply?
. .
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
    .
    They are like a real life dementor.
    .
    When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
    .
    So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
    .
    What feeds them? What is supply?
    . .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 24 1 15 January, 2020
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
.
Trusting myself is new.
.
Valuing myself is new.
.
Standing up for myself is new.
.
Setting boundaries is new.
.
It is all a learning process.
.
But I would never choose to go back.
.
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
    .
    Trusting myself is new.
    .
    Valuing myself is new.
    .
    Standing up for myself is new.
    .
    Setting boundaries is new.
    .
    It is all a learning process.
    .
    But I would never choose to go back.
    .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 34 3 15 January, 2020
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
.
They are like a real life dementor.
.
When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
.
So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
.
What feeds them? What is supply?
. .
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
    .
    They are like a real life dementor.
    .
    When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
    .
    So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
    .
    What feeds them? What is supply?
    . .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 33 3 15 January, 2020
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
.
Trusting myself is new.
.
Valuing myself is new.
.
Standing up for myself is new.
.
Setting boundaries is new.
.
It is all a learning process.
.
But I would never choose to go back.
.
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
    .
    Trusting myself is new.
    .
    Valuing myself is new.
    .
    Standing up for myself is new.
    .
    Setting boundaries is new.
    .
    It is all a learning process.
    .
    But I would never choose to go back.
    .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 72 3 15 January, 2020
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
.
They are like a real life dementor.
.
When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
.
So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
.
What feeds them? What is supply?
. .
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • Narcissists need you to EMOTE because they feed on your emotions.
    .
    They are like a real life dementor.
    .
    When you understand their motives, you can avoid giving them what they want.
    .
    So they will get bored with you and move to someone else.
    .
    What feeds them? What is supply?
    . .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 33 2 15 January, 2020
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
.
Trusting myself is new.
.
Valuing myself is new.
.
Standing up for myself is new.
.
Setting boundaries is new.
.
It is all a learning process.
.
But I would never choose to go back.
.
.
.
#narcissist 
#npd
#personalitydisorder 
#toxicpeople
#abusiverelationships
.
  • I want to recap some of the main points that are assisting my survival.
    .
    Trusting myself is new.
    .
    Valuing myself is new.
    .
    Standing up for myself is new.
    .
    Setting boundaries is new.
    .
    It is all a learning process.
    .
    But I would never choose to go back.
    .
    .
    .
    #narcissist
    #npd
    #personalitydisorder
    #toxicpeople
    #abusiverelationships
    .
  • 64 4 15 January, 2020