Pathological narcissists learn from a very young age to mimic the emotions they need to fulfill their agendas; they often present an innocent, compelling false mask to the world, fooling even the most experienced members of the psychotherapy community (Hare, 1993). This means they often can show displays of empathy and remorse to convince others that they are the wronged party, or that they acted out of intentions that were innocent and not malicious. Research indicates that psychopaths and many other pathological narcissists have the cognitive empathy to assess the weaknesses and emotional vulnerabilities of their victims, but that they are unhindered by the affective empathy that would enable them to feel remorse for the way their cruel actions affect others (Baron-Cohen, 2012). This is what makes them more convincing and ultimately even more successful than their empathetic victims in persuading others. In fact, they will often be able to convince others they are the victim in the relationship (Brown, 2009). Because those in this personality spectrum also recruit supporters who admire them and enable their behavior – sometimes even going so far as to carry out their abuses for them – they often are able to rely on outside support even after they are exposed for their actions (Hare, 2003). Many pathological narcissists, for example, start smear campaigns against their partners — even as they profess to their partners that they are still in love with them — so that they will seem justified to outsiders when they “discard” without warning. #pathologicalnarcissists#pathologicalnarcissist#narcabuserecovery#narcissisticabuse#narcsupply#learningandgrowing#flyingmonkeys#smearcampaign#triangulation#gaslightingawareness#gaslightingsurvivor#gaslightingisabuse
566449 October, 2018
Narcissists pick out the sweet souls; the kind, giving, loving people. So if you ever feel stupid or naive for letting a narcissist in your life, just remember that.
I got flowers today. It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night. He said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he was sorry and didn't mean the things he said. Because I got flowers today.
🌸I got flowers today. It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry Because he sent me flowers today.
🌸I got flowers today. It wasn't Mother's Day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. And it was much worse than all other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of my kids? What about money? I' m afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry Because he sent me flowers today.
🌸I got flowers today. Today was a very special day. It was the day of my funeral. Last night he finally killed me. He beat me to death.
🌸If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today.
🌸This poem is dedicated to all the victims and survivors of Domestic Violence. - @Chrisgqperry
is a form of psychological manipulation that seeks to sow seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or in members of a targeted group, making them question their own memory, perception, and sanity. Using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction, and lying, it attempts to destabilize the victim and delegitimize the victim's belief.
3 signs that you’re a victim of Gaslighting:
1. You’ve stopped trusting your own judgements
2. You’re afraid of speaking up or expressing how you feel
3. You feel the need to apologise all the time for what you do or who you are
Trust your gut - don’t let anyone gaslight you #gaslightingawareness #film#shortfilm#mentalhealthawareness
37331 January, 2019
Gaslighting is a form of persistent manipulation and brainwashing that causes the victim to doubt their perception of reality and ultimately lose their sense of identity and their sanity. 🤯🥺
The term is derived from the 1944 film Gaslight, in which a husband tries to convince his wife that she’s insane by causing her to question herself and her reality. 🎬 #gaslighting#mindmanipulation#mentalabuse