kadang kita tidak tahu apa yang orang lain rasakan ketika kita bicara sesuatu tentangnya. kadang kita tidak sadar mengatakan sesuatu yg menyakiti seseorang.
Eh kamu gendut bgt sekarang
Kok kamu kurus banget sih kaya tengkorak
Btw itu kulit kamu iteman dan kusam ya
Pipi atau bolu, ngembang banget
Gaji kamu berapa
Katanya kamu gagal menikah ya
Kok kamu resign sih padahal kan enak udah kerja
Kamu kok belum punya anak kenapa
Diet woy, udah kaya gajah
dan lain lain
Kita tidak pernah tahu, mungkin saja di belakang semua itu, seseorang nyaris pingsan kekurangan energi akibat dietnya, seseorang minum obat penggemuk demi badan ideal, seseorang menyisihkan uangnya untuk membeli pembersih wajah, seseorang tersiksa di lingkungan kerjanya, seseorang hampir putus asa akibat kegagalan pernikahannya, seseorang baru saja keguguran anak pertamanya. Kita semua tidak ada yg tahu
Teruntuk kalian semua yang sering menerima omongan jahat dari orang lain, jangan dipikirin ya. Mereka saja gak mikirin omongannya sendiri. Gak harus nunggu jd orang yg sempurna dulu kok untuk berbahagia :) 🎼 @fiersabesari
I cannot count the number of times I've listened to you clear your throat over the phone and lost track of what you were saying. You do that a lot, you know.
But I can count the number of freckles on your body that I want to kiss. The number of movements it would take me to reach them and the number of gasps and sighs you would let out in between.
Lover, I don't remember what you said your favourite colour was. I don't know your favourite movie or your favourite song. It must be a Steven Wilson song, but I don't know which one.
But I do remember the white and green tiles in your apartment, where we first kissed, and the silver of your ring as you tucked my hair behind my ears.
I remember the movements your fingers made as you listened to Guthrie Govan and couldn't resist playing air guitar. It was like watching you paint magic in the air.
We talked about music and science and how poetry flows like water and disappears just when you look away. I asked you if you'd consider Neruda a Renaissance Pope and you laughed, cleared your throat and I lost track of what you were saying, again.
Lover, the other day when we were talking about Bergman, and you asked me to write you love letter, I refused because I don't know the words for telling you that every single time you speak, I close my eyes and imagine rest of my life in the pauses you take.
There are no metaphors, no beautiful analogy, for the way your eyes light up when you talk about something you love. And I don't know how to tell you that we don't need to make it to Manhattanhenge. I see it in the brown of your eyes.
Lover, I know a paper cannot carry the weight of all the things I want to say but haven't yet.
So, I won't write you a love letter.
SIMPLY IMPERFECT ... but happy! 😉
DE| ... genau hier liegt die Magie. Nicht perfekt, aber dennoch glücklich, zufrieden, zielstrebig & motiviert zu sein! .
Schau uns an. Anika hat keine 90-60-90. Ein bisschen Cellulite hier, ein paar Makel hier und da. Ich selbst schaue mir oft die Fotos anderer Leute an und Vergleiche mich. Ich habe weder einen männlichen Bartwuchs, einen perfekten Sixpack und ein Ansatz von Bizeps ist leider auch nicht wirklich vorhanden. 🤷🏻♂️
Und genau deswegen lieben wir uns! Weil wir für einander perfekt unperfekt sind! ❤️
Aber genau da fängt es an: Sich zu vergleichen bringt nichts, denn wenn du das eine Makel im Griff hast, geht es beim nächsten weiter und du strebst etwas hinterher was es so nie geben wird. 😳
Strebe anderen Dinge nach. Zum Beispiel Frei zu sein, Entscheidungen ohne dritte treffen zu können & schlichtweg innerlich für dich allein perfekt zu sein! ❤️
Wie stehst du zu Dir ? 💭 .
ENG| ... here the magic begins! Not to be perfect but happy, focused and determined for the future. 🤙🏽
Look at us. Anika is not a perfect seize Model with 90-60-90. A little cellulite, some flaws here and there. I mean look at me. I am not the pure definition of a perfect male model. The beard I have right now took me 26 years to develop. That’s not masculine. My six pack ? Come on. Not existent. And my Bizeps is not a biceps. .
BUT ... look into our faces. We are simply imperfect perfect for each other. We love us with all flaws, downs & even if I sometimes want to kill anika (she feels 100% the same for me 😛) we love us from the bottom of our heart. .
Tell us what you think about this 💭 ❤️
👙 @wearwyse . #lovelifepassport#selfie#lovelifepassportpreset#letmetakeaselfie#playa#puravida#imperfect#travel#costarica#visitcostarica#santateresa#beachlife#travelcouple#couplegoals#reiseblogger#coupleselfie#wearwyse
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When faced with hard things we can either take it on or turn away. 2019 was one tough year for me AND one full of growth, revelations, and awareness. I’ve learned some stuff and I’m continually learning more ways to navigate this life|
I thought I’d start to share more of what I’m doing in hopes that you’ll do the same|
Perhaps the most elusive, yet most powerful for me right now is growing ZEN. I currently capture quiet moments in the morning before my boys wake, or a quick meditation on the bus or in my parked car. I feel it most when in nature, so I try to prioritize being outside. It is in these quiet moments that I feel most grounded|
I also try to model this for my kids. We use an app called @insighttimer as a family. It is a free app that has a timer option as well as guided meditations. We love it and my boys use it to fall asleep at night|
Instead of focusing on what the perfect meditation space or practice would look like, I’m imperfectly fitting in moments and making it work with what I have right now|
Hello imperfections! Hello no filter!
This is me real life this morning. Hair in a pony tail, no make-up, bags under my eyes, gym clothes, sipping on my coffee. The fact that I even thought to take a picture is progress let alone post it! WHAT!!! .
You see being completely transparent I never took selfies or even many pics because well I was not happy in my own skin and only wanted to portray being done-up and put together. MY NEED for PERFECTION was holding be back. Am I always done up-HA rarely!
Am I always put together-HARDLY!
This same NEED FOR PERFECTION spilled/s (I am def still a work in progress) over into all areas of my life. Things are NEVER going to be perfect! .
So take the selfie. Put away the filter. Take the risk. Put yourself out there. Be the imperfect person you are! And love yourself for it!❤️
. @focusedfitnutrition@cfbayarea . #leaguecitytx#nutritioncoach#nutrition#nutritionist#health#wellness#selflove#selfie#imperfect#no#time#is#perfect#beyou#bereal#loveyourself
Masalah pasti ada, konflik pasti terjadi. Pecahkan dan lalui dengan kepala dingin tanpa tubian emosi. Selesaikan setiap hal yg pelik dengan diskusi, bukan dengan caci maki tiada arti. Mari koreksi diri, agar siap mengahadapi hidup setelah mati. 🙏
La sorpresa más linda que me lleve del museo de Rodin es que no solo estaba interesado en la perfección del cuerpo, lo imperfecto también puede ser bello ❤️. Esta obra se llama “mask of the man with the broken nose” y representa el rostro de un trabajador de nombre Bibi. #Rodin#rodinmuseum#Escultura#Philladelphia #imperfect#is#beautiful
I’m currently reading @donmilleris Scary Close—and it’s been affecting me in so many ways.
How many people really know the 𝓻𝓮𝓪𝓵 𝔂𝓸𝓾? I mean the real, true, beautiful, messy, 𝓲𝓶𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓯𝓮𝓬𝓽𝓵𝔂 𝓹𝓮𝓻𝓯𝓮𝓬𝓽 you?
In my life there’s probably...5
This year I’ve been really clear on something: I’m not interested in putting energy into things, relationships, or people who aren’t willing to drop the facade & connect on an authentic level.
And furthermore...𝓅𝑒𝑜𝓅𝓁𝑒 𝓌𝒽𝑜 𝒹𝑜𝓃’𝓉 𝓇𝑒𝒶𝓁𝓁𝓎 𝓈𝑒𝑒 𝓂𝑒.
Whether that means letting go of friendships I’ve outgrown, giving more time to people who I truly connect with, or spending more time with myself.
And it feels really good.
Life will never be perfect. But that doesn't mean it can't be awesome. ⠀
You will never be perfect. But that doesn't mean you can't be awesome. ⠀
I will never be perfect. But that doesn't mean I can't be awesome.⠀
We do, however, all need to make it work. ⠀
Shine on ⭐️ ⠀
Nieuwe blogpost over het niet leiden van een instagrammable leven en hoe dat dik oke is!
Een meer persoonlijk verhaal dit keer. Maar hey, dat mag ook eens!
En zoals de blogpost preacht, ook van mij de niet meest flatterende foto. En ik ben er trots op ;)
Laten we allemaal instagram net iets minder perfect maken. 😂
Ps: er is ook een nieuwsbrief vanaf deze week, dus niet vergeten inschrijven! #zelfvertrouwen#imperfect#onflatterendeselfie#proudofit
904 hours ago
🧁Before giving birth the first time, I was watching all kinds of great shows on @netflix . I love drama, true crime, fantasy, and suspense. All the things I try to avoid in real life 😉 A few days after returning home from the hospital with my new bundle of joy, I tried tuning in to one I was almost through. @loveonnetflix is a comedy with some kind of dark undertones, but mostly just interesting and funny. I was shocked when I couldn’t even make it through an episode. It felt so sad and depressing, and while I couldn’t name it at the time, it spiked my anxiety. My hormones and emotions were so out of whack, I couldn’t handle it.
🧁The first thing I started watching instead, especially during nursing sessions, was mommy YouTubers. I found an especially sweet British woman who was blonde and beautiful with a seemingly picture perfect life. And honestly it’s exactly what I needed in that moment. However, I went through her newborn videos quickly and was far from ready to hear her talk about the future obstacles I’d undoubtedly face as a new mom.
🧁Cue- @britishbakeoff The Great British Bake Off! I’ve never been into cooking shows, but had heard this was easy watching. It was perfect! Beautiful food and connection. The most stressful times were when someone made a mistake in their baking and, unlike American reality shows, everyone supported them and tried their hardest to help. The contestants and hosts are all rooting for each other. No negativity, no stress. It was a nice way to relax in front of the tv, alone or with my baby, without increasing my already present postpartum anxiety. I also appreciated how it doesn’t have cliffhanger endings. It was easy to just watch a few minutes at a time in the middle of the night without wondering what would happen next.
🧁Eventually I was able to tune back in to my old favorites, and when I became pregnant the second time I intentionally didn’t watch the newest season of The Great British Bake Off. When my youngest was born I knew exactly what to watch while I relaxed and recovered from his birth.
🧁What were your favorite shows or forms of entertainment while pregnant or postpartum?
Normally this is something I would just share in my story. You may flick by and read but not fully soak in.
So I wanted to elaborate.
So many times people talk to me and say. I wish I could go vegan, or I wish I could be more sustainable but it's so hard. Yes. Going 100% vegan, sustainable and zero waste is really hard and spoiler alert I have friends who are really deep into zero waste and they are not perfect either.
(check out @thelittleredheart for a bunch of great zero waste info and posts. Also she is starting a refill shop here in Wpg! Woot, follow them at @refill.market )
But the important thing is to take a step. Just one.
Make 1 day a week vegan day or is a day too much? Start with 1 dinner a week.
Make a commitment to audit your trash at the end of a set period of time. One week, two weeks or even a month. See what you are throwing out the most and try to find a way to reduce it!
Lots of food waste? Sign up for the compost Winnipeg program. It's $25 a month and they pick up your pail and bring you a clean one every week!
For me, diet soda was my biggest waste issue. I know I know, diet soda is not good for you. But you know what, it is something I enjoy and I balance it out with PLENTY of other really healthy choices.
So this year for the holidays I asked for a soda stream.
It doesn't fully cut down our plastic waste but it has made a dramatic impact on it. That is the first step!
If you are so inclined share some of the first steps you want to take, or not even first steps but just new challenges you want to take on, here in the comments so we can all be inspired!
I do not know the original creator of this content to credit. If you do let me know so I can credit appropriately. . #bekind#becourageous#beyou#zerowaste#vegan#sustainable#ecominimalist#imperfect#veganwitch#veganathlete#smallchanges#becompassionate
1634 hours ago
In recent years, there’s been more focus on bullying in the workplace and how we can improve our work environment. Which is good.
Here’s the problem. Almost all of the focus is on men. What we don’t talk about is that, often, the bully of a woman is another woman.
I am flawed and so are you,yet, 4 years back we choose to take a plunge and flaunt our flaws together 💖
Love they say has no boundaries,but our way to express love was respecting each other's boundaries.
Marriage they say is all about adjusting,but for us it was the driving force to step out of our comfort zone and rediscover our hidden strengths. #nofilter#twinning#imperfect#anniversary#love