This morning I came across these words by English novelist and art critic, John Berger. It made me think about the way in which women and men see themselves and how this internal perception of the self determines their power and relationship with other genders and the 'self'. I think what he writes is broadly accurate in that some women can instinctively turn themselves into objects to be surveyed by men. If women derive their value from being appreciated or unappreciated by men they will always be in an inferior social position.
No one should wait to be recognised and given value by anyone but themselves. If someone doesn't appreciate you or give you recognition, move on. They are probably projecting their own insecurities on to you by denying you attention. We cannot live our lives meaningfully waiting to be noticed. We just have to forge on, confident in the knowledge that we are worthy and valuable.