"Self care" Oh that loaded term... in all honesty, "survival" was how I treated myself for the first 4 years of being a mom. For me, "self care" was like a big guilt trip, another item on my to-do list. I did as much as I could to keep me going and my kids going. Survival for me was putting a little extra into my kid's lunches - because he was falling off the growth chart - and eating cheese and crackers for lunch myself.⠀
I think it's okay to call survival "self care" for a season. We don't need another guilt trip in survival seasons, right? ⠀
I think it's funny, when in survival seasons "self care" is almost always something that will help us care for others better and make our job a teeny bit easier - or at least that's how it is for me. Is that how it is for you?⠀
Things have been a little cray-cray for me since September...more food prep demands with Big M needing snacks and meals for school, two jobs, trying to figure out a life balance that works for us. My brain has been like on the verge of exploding with all the things I'm keeping track of (do you have 2 kids with different school schedules? 🤯). ⠀
One of the things I did to take care of myself before things got too crazy was to make a versatile one-time menu that I can use all school year. Just having the load of “menu planning” off my mind has been amazing. I know you've been asking about it - and I can't wait to have it take a load off your mind too! I would have had it out already...but there's that other day job thing I have to do too. 🤣 It's coming though - You can see me working on it in my stories the next few days (I’m even taking a few days off work to make progress)! There are 60 meals/snacks in it... so yeah. 😂⠀
What questions do you have about the menu? I'm going to do a LIVE soon!⠀
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The only true love-hate relationship is the one between you & your personal trainer. 💁🏻♀️ This isn’t a race, it’s a lifestyle. Simply take it one day, one step, one workout & one meal at at time. I couldn’t have asked for anyone better than @hydrofitteam to be with me on this fitness journey. He’s a friend first and then my trainer. We’re honest and straight up with each other. I try and squeeze in workouts on any free days (which can sometimes be very few and far between). Here, we’ve come together to give you guys a glimpse of my workout routines, starting off with something that most people dread, LEGS! 🏋🏻♀️ Watch the full video on my YouTube channel (link in bio).
More workouts to follow soon!!! Don’t forget to subscribe to my youtube Channel as well! ❤️💥💋 .
Yesterday - Luke 18:1-8
We long to live authentic lives of Faith, yet how often do we instead act out of fear? We go along with the status quo. We pray as if God really were the judge and will only do right if we pester Him. We check off boxes to appear the way others want us to be on the outside.
A life of Faith, acceptance, and authenticity can only be accomplished through prayer. It cries out from the depths of a suffering heart. Jesus speaks this parable to encourage us to never give up on prayer. God is much more than someone we must pester for justice. He is a Father sensitive to our suffering who meets every need. God will not delay. We have His attention. We have His love. While others may strip us of dignity, rights, and love, God is with us. We must trust Him rather than humans and their laws.
I would like to ask God to keep me persevering in prayer. Do I pray because of who He is or to get what I want? I pray for God to help me live authentically as He made me and to love those around me from out of that authentic space. May God help us to feel the freedom this brings.
Things aren't just going to happen.
You need to find out the WORTH of what you want and GO FOR IT.
Can't find the time to workout? Your Netflix account tells me otherwise.
Don't have the money? I see your monthly gym subscriptions- whereas this gives you access to 60+ workouts for a YEAR at less than $13 a month. I also see those coffee stops, eating out... I just want to say YOU DESERVE TO SPEND THIS MONEY AND THIS TIME ON YOURSELF. Trust me! It took ME months and MONTHS to commit. And now that I have I realize just how IMPORTANT it truly was to focus on ME. Not just "mom me" or "wife me" - me as a singular. I deserve this.
You. Deserve. This.
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Find Me in a Reality
Find me at the bottom of the ocean amongst a thousand dreams,
Find me where the Selachi people live and the fish swim upside down,
Find me where Invenie is queen but the Selachi are trying to steal her crown,
Find me in this land of fantastical inverse reality,
You see this is not my world,
My world stands on the edge screaming "remember me"
This world is only fantasy but it belongs to me,
Each action and word uttered comes from my mind to the page,
I alone prepare the script and I alone can set the stage,
So tell me friend, from this world of make believe,
Why ever would I want to break free,
When in this kingdom of my own making there is so much more I can achieve.
Yet louder she calls, more persistently, crying out 'remember me',
But I respond, you hold nothing but agony and pain,
Tell me, in returning to you what would I gain,
"Fine then remain here, but if you won't remember me then remember this,
These feelings of excitement and happiness are nothing but pseudo bliss,
None of this is real and in a world of fantasy how do you expect to heal?" Still in agony and not wanting to feel but her words making too much sense to me,
This is not where I belong, in a fantastical inverse reality,
So with a sigh, I nod my head and decide to say goodbye,
Farewell my friends, I shall return to where sea is sea and sky is sky,
Farewell and good riddance you evil Selachi,
Farewell my queen Invenie, always remember me.
I have returned home so my world has no more need to cry remember me,
What an adventure, what a journey,
But firmly on my feet on planet earth is where you'll find me.
What ever ANYONE SAYS, don't matter to me (even if it's something good, because some people can be really good at being fake.) It's what I see in people that matters. Like actions, personal thoughts and beliefs. Those are the things I pay attention to.
Divinity is not just soft and sacred. It’s also strong, seductive and powerful.🔥 •
I got really tired of hearing “spiritual leaders” wax on about Goddess energy, in some fake ass, airy-fairy zen voice... •
ONLY talking about one side of the coin. Only revering the light, sweet compassionate parts. •
Y’all, that is some bullshit.
So I decided to do something about it. 🔥
For centuries, people have been ignoring some of the most powerful parts of “Goddess” energy.
The spiritual community has done a huge disservice by diluting the complex nature of Integrity.
Love, for example, is not JUST kindness and compassion. It’s also fierce at times.
A mother Lion defending her cubs? That’s LOVE and it’s not nice or polite.
Most of the Goddesses that initiated all the “goddess energy” you’ve come to know were ruthless, fearless bitches sometimes too.
Who tolerated zero bullshit.
Who unleashed fury when crossed.
So...I’m here to serve up the Truth and show you how to embody ALL aspects of your Integrity – the sweet AND the bold. The spiritual AND the sensual. The beauty AND the fire.
Aphrodite Rising is here. 🌙🔥 •
This is the MOST magical, enlightening, empowering, beautiful program I’ve ever created. And the doors are officially OPEN 🎉
3 reasons why you should join @heavymetalyogasg
1. @shirlyntanvox is a famous singer-song writer and yoga teacher. The combination is a lethal weapon to become zen as f*ck
2. Enough of spandex and Lycra? Wear anything! Especially metal band T-shirts!
3. Let it all out! Add some air guitar-playing and head-banging between the regular poses. A deep howl or a warrior scream is more than welcome.
I don’t need to add an extra reason if you are already a heavy metal fan!
I DON'T KNOW🤷♀️ Someone asked me, "So what's really in that shake you drink?" Truth.
I don't know.
I mean don't know the list of ingredients, just as I don't know the list of ingredients from the Doritos I ate the other day either.
What I DO know is that 👍It tastes good, 👏Makes me feel good,
👌I notice a difference when I don't drink it (in a not so good way),
🤜It fills me up, 👉And I can make lots of stuff with it besides a shake
I mean who memorizes nutritional information?! #thatsweird
If you ever wanna try some, just let me know. #donthateparticipate
Mama always said, “if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, quacks like a duck then it must be a duck”. Stop listening to words and being blind to the actions.
Drop a 🦆 if actions speak louder than words.
TapTapTapTapTap & share 🙏🏾🙏🏾 #Dailyshift#DREAM @dream_mentality
I am not a huge selfie person (anymore). That’s mainly because in the last couple of years I’ve put all my effort in to making everyone around me feel beautiful and I’ve left myself at the bottom of the list. Believe it or not, not all too long ago I had size ten jeans dropping off me... those days are gone 😂 It’s easy when you’re really focused on something to lose yourself and I genuinely feel like I’ve become a little lost. It makes me laugh when people say to me “oh but you always look glam” 🙈 I literally wear whatever is washed and comfy and the most beautifying I do is wash my face and If I feel fancy throw on a bit of concealer. Determination is exhausting. Trying to do it all is isolating. I just want to be real on social media and show you that nobody has it all together. I actually surprised myself on Sunday when I managed to scrub up and feel like my old self. I’m hoping that once I feel “established” enough, I’ll let myself come first a little more often.