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I’m usually hesitant to speak on these types of issues, mostly because I don’t feel like it’s my place to comment on something that I don’t fully understand/haven’t fully researched. However, women’s reproductive justice is something I’ve always been super passionate about. this came right from my heart this morning.
I’ve legitimately never felt more exposed in my life ~femaleINFP6w5 READ ⬇️ ~
Of course I know this doesn’t apply to all INFPs but I do think INFPs prefer to deal with trauma in a people pleasing way rather than a “door slam” way like other MBTI types. Our preferred reaction to people hurting us is sadness and self-blame rather than directing that hatred outwards like other types are more likely to do (although when pushed past a certain point we can get there too). I think it’s also evident in the different types of accounts in the MBTI community. INxP accounts are full of self deprecating humor while INxJ accounts usually have a more self protective and elitist kind of attitude. Neither are wrong...or right necessarily. We just deal with things differently. Cause ultimately I think people find both low self esteem and elitism annoying and neither are healthy mindsets. Perhaps we can learn something from each other and achieve balance 🤔✌️
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Be proud of who you are. Recognise and accept what you are not good at, but focus on what you can do well.
“Every person must decide how much truth he can stand.” 🧡🌱💗
Irvin D. Yalom
1,4781821 hours ago
Ok, so prepare yourselves for a brutally honest caption that’s probably not excessively cheerful. Or cheerful at all... sorry about that.
Lately I’ve been feeling incredibly low and I really don’t know why. I’ve mentioned before that I suffer from anxiety and depression but in case you haven’t read one of those - I currently take medication and was diagnosed with both anxiety and depression when I was 15.
For the past few days (week? I’m not sure anymore) I’ve been feeling so lonely and so down. As in, ‘almost crying in a restaurant’ alone and ‘breaking down on a friend’ low. I have great friends and supportive parents. I’m not sure why I feel so severely lonely. Yesterday was especially hard. I had to spend a lot of the day on my own because people were busy - usually I would go out and get coffee or go take photos but I just couldn’t motivate myself to do so. Instead, I watched Netflix and had a two hour nap. Happy birthday, me. I then had dinner by myself (the almost crying in a restaurant when I was texting a friend saying how lonely I felt) and then my night improved hugely when I went out for cocktails with friends.
Today, the loneliness and the feelings of sadness returned. In the evening I travelled from Paris to Caen and I currently have zero motivation to leave my hotel room... but I need dinner and I also don’t really want to be alone. So, hello conundrum.
All in all I’m just feeling lost. Constantly exhausted and not motivated to do anything. Crying on my birthday. Feeling like I’m completely alone. It’s been a bad few days and I’m not sure how to get myself out of this rut.
So there’s my brutally honest and vulnerable caption for today. Hopefully tomorrow I’ll have some happier fun facts and experiences to share with you 🤷🏻♀️ and I guess I also want to say that no one should have to hide when they’re feeling down - we SHOULD be able to discuss it openly and not feel ashamed of anything.
I would thoroughly appreciate all suggestions on getting through this depression rut 😔 I want to feel like myself again and want to WANT to go out exploring.
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✖️I think there is something that needs to be addressed.. in light of all the DRAMA happening of late on multiple social media platforms, I want to speak up. Yes celebrities, influencers and anyone with a social media account put themselves out there publicity..
But it’s never ok to bully, harass, hate on and abuse someone. If they are celebrities, influencers or someone you go to school with. ITS NOT OK! Getting involved in others drama is such a negative and unnecessary action..
Honestly why? For what purpose, does it make you feel better? Does it give you some sort of weird power trip? Honestly the hate needs to stop! There have been too many instances where people have taken their OWN DAMN LIVES because of the bullying and abuse on social media!.
Instead how about we spread LOVE and POSITIVITY and actually leave others better than when we found them! Anyone with a social following has the responsibility to themselves and their followers to be authentic and real but as a follower you have the same responsibility. If you don’t like what someone stands for UNFOLLOW THEM, if they do something publicly that disappoints you UNFOLLOW THEM! Sending hateful tweets, msgs and death threats is not ok!.
Don’t be a keyboard warrior and say nasty shit because you can! How about we be the change we want to see in the world! Let’s support one another, be kind, and use our social reach for good!
You never know what is going on in someone else’s life and some nice words may just be what helps get them through the darkest time in their lives. It costs nothing to be a kind human!.
Positivity and light sis! Be done with the TEA the DRAMA and the negativity on the Internet!.
Tag a friend if you support this! ❤️✖️
📸 - @kbtimages .
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5,9396712 hours ago
All these ✨inspirational✨quotes you see on social media that are full of pseudo-wisdom about #selflove , staying positive, and being complacent in your own mediocrity are nauseating 💁🏻♀️how are you ever going to be aware of your own inadequacies, let alone strive for self-betterment, if you’re always being told that you’re fine just the way you are? Our desire to always be coddled from criticism makes us weak-minded and perpetuates the idea that we don’t have to take responsibility for ourselves, it’s everyone else’s perception of us that needs to change.
Even though these quotes are supposed to make you feel better, they just come off as insincere and lazy. What’s worse is that these self-indulgent feel-good messages don’t actually provide a means to overcome issues such as anxiety or depression. Instead of facing the harsh reality that we could always improve ourselves, we’d rather drink the validation koolaid 🍷
Tonight i had the pleasure and honour to attend one of #mikeking 's talks. Since the movement of @iamhope_nz i have wanted to attend one of these talks. It was exactly how i thought it would be - informative, funny, supportive and full of #love
I have struggled with #mentalhealth issues for as long as i can remember.
If you get the chance to go to one of these talks, i highly recommend you do! Let's stop the #stigma around mental health and allow our children to understand that #itisoknottobeokay and that they do not have to suffer in silence and be alone.
Rest. Reset. And just keep going! It's hard to fill the needs of others when you are struggling with your own. It is okay!! Please take care of yourself. All of the things that make you YOU are important and valid. ❤️ #MentalHealthAwareness#MentalHealthMatters#YouMatter#TakeCareOfYourself#Rest If you know the artist please tag them so that we can properly credit the art work, thanks ❤️
The power of thankfulness with what you already have is so strong and When you learn to practice this, with the smallest things in your life, then get ready to feel the power of positive energy.🔥❤️🌸☀️😘🥰 Are you already growing this?
Let me hear how below👇
Follow @happyreveal for more positive energy in your life.🙏🏻
To let go doesn't mean to stop caring;
It means I can't do it for someone else.
To let go is not to cut myself off...
It's the realization that I can't control another...
To let go is not to enable,
but to allow learning from natural consequences.
To let go is to admit powerlessness,
which means the outcome is not in my hands.
To let go is not to try and change or blame another,
I can only change myself.
To let go is not to care for, but to care about.
To let go is not to fix, but to be supportive.
To let go is not to judge,
but to allow another to be a human being.
To let go is not to be in the middle arranging all the outcomes,
but to allow others to affect their own outcomes.
To let go is not to be protective,
It is to permit another to face reality.
To let go is not to deny, but to accept.
To let go is not to nag, scold, or argue,
but to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.
To let go is not to adjust everything to my desires,
but to take each day as it comes and cherish the moment.
To let go is not to criticize and regulate anyone,
but to try to become what I dream I can be.
To let go is not to regret the past,
but to grow and live for the future.
To let go is to fear less and love more.
#JRoaming Life is full of playgrounds. That means you have to find time for your inner child to have fun. New York had a school and the gate was open, I don’t think I was supposed to “trespass” but I asked a cop and she just said “Don’t get caught...” I risked it 🤷🏾♂️. New places get Playground photo shoots. This was Harlem. #NewYork#mentalhealthawareness
313 hours ago
Back out on the blades! 🙌🏻
Me blading always starts off a bit like Bambi on ice - limbs all over the place, lack of control, and I certainly don’t know how to stop (unless grabbing my boyfriend, blading straight into the fence, or throwing myself onto the grass count as a legitimate stopping techniques 🤔). BUT I bloody love it anyway!
This got me thinking about how much we (especially perfectionists) struggle to enjoy things we don’t consider ourselves ‘amazing’ at. 🙅🏼♀️
Nobody wants to be considered ‘average’. And tbh even just being ‘good’ at something doesn’t quite cut it anymore. Which is ironic, because by the very nature of averages, we cannot possibly all be above average. 🤷🏼♀️
If the idea of being ‘average’ makes you uncomfortable, don’t allow that discomfort to hold you back from doing things you might enjoy. If you can push through the initial discomfort, you might find something you love to be average at. 😎
103 hours ago
Last week was mental health awareness week, this year looking at problems which surround body image! (The Mental Health Foundation (2019) “ Research has found that higher body dissatisfaction is associated with poorer quality of life, psychological distress and the risk of unhealthy eating behaviours and eating disorders.”)
Body imagine has such an affect on mental health! That’s why we all need to stand together and be proud of who we are! We are strong beautiful individuals who are going to take the world by storm. I myself have struggled with depression as a result of body image, this is something I am going to talk about in a blog which will be out on 27.05.2019! Please watch this space for more details!! 💕 #bebodykind#mentalhealthawareness#bodyimage#loveyourself#loveyourbody#zzoho#strongertogether#bepositive
Let’s be nice to each other today, smile at a stranger, hold the door open for someone or a simple thank you.
If you feel overwhelmed at work, school or with whatever you’re doing today, ask for some time out, speak to a friend, colleagues or a teacher. So many charities exist also.
Have a great Monday and remember it’s ok not to be ok. Males remember, it’s ok for you not to be ok and strong all the time. Because speaking out is the first sign of strength. #mentalhealthawareness#itsokaynottobeokay#samaritans#NSPCC#bekind
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How often do you give yourself a break? Not just physically but mentally -
When living in pursuit of your goals it can be easier to push forward regardless. This is often born from the fear that if we are not moving forwards then everything will go backwards. We become so consumed with this way of thinking that we push ourselves to the limits -
Imagine the petrol light comes on your car but you have 10 miles left on your journey. What do you do? Take a risk and try and make it? Or stop for 5 minutes, re-fuel and get back on the road? -
Our mind and bodies are the engines of our lives. Don’t try and drive on empty in your attempt to get to your goals. Give yourself the fuel you need to reach your destination and enough left over to keep on driving. Your life isn’t a destination it’s a journey. Equip yourself to travel the distance not just the trip -
This morning I have woken up feeling overwhelmed. It happens, life is full on. My petrol light is flashing the warning sign at me and I’m going to pay attention. I having a time out -
Now I’m not suggesting you do nothing. Your car still needs fuel remember. Instead I decided to give myself the patience, time and care we find so easy to give to others but forget to give ourselves. An overwhelmed brain needs to be ordered. So this morning instead of opening my laptop first thing and pushing through the day on empty I decided to go for a walk, grab a coffee and organise my week. I decided to give myself 5 minutes -
The result...I have re- mapped my week around me. I’ve listened to my head and my heart and decided to focus this week on re-investing my energy and my focus on me. Living focused on your goals allows you to re-align your journey without losing your direction -
Don’t be scared to give yourself a break, life is a journey not a race💛
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May is also Mental Health Awareness Month. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
“I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.” - Robin Williams. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
This month and from this month onwards try to check up on your friends who are putting on a brave face and those who aren't. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We all face difficulties in our lives, doesn't mean that you should face it alone. Because you aren't. Make sure to check up on yourself too. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Good mental health enables people to realize their full potential, cope with the normal stresses of life, work productively, and contribute to their communities.
However the growing burden of mental illness today is staggering. At a global level, one-in-four people will likely experience a mental health problem at some point in their lives. Meanwhile, over 300 million people are estimated to suffer from depression, equivalent to 4.4% of the world’s population, and 800,000 people take their own lives each year.
Suicide cuts across high- and low-income countries, with lower and middle-income countries bearing the largest burden (80% of all suicides) but with it continuing to be a serious problem in high-income countries as well.
By 2030, it is predicted that mental health problems leading to suicide will be the leading cause of mortality and morbidity globally. Currently, untreated mental health problems account for 13% of the total global burden of disease.
A baseline objective for any organization intending to address this issue is to open a dialogue around mental health and create an environment that accepts the fact that everyone has mental health and therefore could be susceptible to a mental health challenge at some point in their lives.
The economic consequences of poor mental health are equally significant. A World Economic Forum/Harvard School of Public Health study estimated that the cumulative global impact of mental disorders in terms of lost economic output will amount to $16.3 trillion between 2011 and 2030.
The good news is that evidence is showing that treating anxiety, depression and other mental health conditions is an affordable and cost effective way to promote wellbeing and prosperity.
Just $1 of investment in treatment for depression and anxiety leads to a return of $4 in better health and ability to work.
This is good for individuals, families, communities, economies and societies at large.
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The following information regarding a phased framework of trauma recovery is from Dr. Judith Herman's book, "Trauma and Recovery" (1992) as well as other various online sources.
Phase 1: Safety and Stabilization
Trauma can lead to an activation of the survival response that never ends. Neurological, physiological, biological, psychological, and emotional habits and responses take over and it creates fear by anticipating bad things happening and bad outcomes. Fear creates chaos; safety comes from things you can depend on. When you re-develop your ideas about, recognition and experience of safety, you can counter the chaos with calm. How?
- Start being aware of positive, supportive, protective things you can already depend on such as a compassionate friend, a schedule, a moment of stillness, etc.
- Certain thoughts, feelings, or situations can bring up past traumas. Through identifying your triggers, one can start to avoid these feelings or notice when they are around.
- Identify what feelings come up when feeling unsafe and which of your difficult emotions, like intense fear or rage, are linked to the trauma, then learn how to manage these emotions (typically done through talk therapy)
- Nonverbal/self-soothing practices such as exercise and meditation have been known to bring calmness and clarity to the mind as well.
Stay tuned for phases 2 & 3!
Babies need to live and play in healthy spaces with opportunities to learn and grow. And they need you to learn how to recognize when they are tired, or hungry, or stressed or that they want a cuddle or hug from you. Responding warmly and predictably to your baby and creating routines help babies feel safe.
More of this please 👏
From personal experience of losing my dad at a young age, I know how difficult certain days of the year, such as Father’s Day, can be. Constant reminders via email around these times can make it more difficult for people who are struggling. Great to see @thortful giving people the option to opt out of receiving these emails 🌟
NEW EPISODE - full episode via link in bio
Matthew Briggs: A Journey of Discovery - Episode 2: Family Fortunes @matthewbriggs_17 bravely discusses his family background including not having a father in his life, the pressure of trying to support your family as a youngster, the death of one of his key influences in tragic circumstances and much more.
Great contributions from @officialtownsend Liam Rosenoir and Ray Lewington who talk openly and supportively.
Thanks to @cpfc@officialbhafc for access @pauljkvincent@glensymes Tom Traies for 🎥 & Smith & Williamson for partnership on this project.
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323 hours ago
You guys were right, the stars in the cape make it- thanks for your input! So this guy is yet to be finished but I won’t say too much right now. This has been really helpful for keeping my hands & mind busy. I like to stay relatively private-ish because I hate being wrapped up around people that have nothing better to do with their lives than to spout on others’; but to recognise that everyone has their own shit for some shit is compassion. I keep things toned down a bit more but a while ago I used to be quite transparent and that’s something I don’t want to lose. I don’t want to come across as someone that calls themselves an advocate. Social media is a really fucking weird place, it’s another realm, I feel like we lose ourselves through the desire to be seen and known, through our social conditioning that we sometimes don’t realise is completely out of our control. We can reclaim that, and we can try learn as much as we can to try change the best we can. I try not lose the aesthetic of my work. But I also recognise that, in being an artist, comes with so much. It’s the constant practice of removing pressure from trying to be perfect or reaching a level of perfection. It’s finding a voice that is your own, that reflects a part of your soul and being able to unlearn and learn and repeat. It’s bloody exhausting but it’s wonderful and it keeps me alive. So my point in all of this, is to always find your voice and to never lose yourself and who you are, not to allow others to control those things you have already learned and continue to learn, stick to your guns, know when is right to dive, to self preserve and to grow. I’m not going to lose a little transparency. I learnt recently that someone I spent most of my life growing up with and my first love has passed, it’s been a slow reaction and a really weird and difficult thing to stomach so I’m going to be transparent with this one seen as I have a few eyes. If any of you are ever struggling hard, there are some contact numbers in my comments, they help, you are not weak to feel like you need to call them// there will be a continuation on this topic on my next post because I have more I need to roll on about//
“I would rather try to live life as myself than live a life to please someone else and drown myself in anxiety.”
Doing some reflecting about some insecurities, co-dependent behaviors, and fear of abandonment that were triggered by some deep conversations and situations recently.
And how perfect the timing that this would be the chapter from GSA. Alexa is playing during my bath?🛀🏻 You see oftentimes when we observe someone we care about, feeling unhappy, even though it most likely has nothing to do with us, we tend to immediately transform into fix-it mode. We stress about trying to be the solution, to make sure their needs are being met FIRST. 💁🏼♀️But Girl, it’s NOT our job to make sure the other person is happy. The purpose for our existence isn’t to please someone else.🤯 Unless we are able to recognize our responses to situations and have begun to do the work on ourselves to grow from past negative experiences or toxic relationships, those feelings can sneak into our relationships, it’s like they know when WE are happy.
We need to stop shrinking and playing small because guess what?! We have the power to break the habits that are holding us back. Stop dating toxic people. You don’t have to be besties with a person who isn’t your biggest cheerleader also, and don’t let your family members off the hook either. They don’t have to understand it, but it would be great if they have your back.