As someone living with Social Anxiety, I do a lot of apologizing. Being in a restaurant and asking for more water, being in class and asking clarifying questions, being in a clothing store and asking an employee to help me find a piece of clothing, asking for simple directions. I get overwhelmed almost immediately. Why? I’m still not sure. It kind of has to do with the fact that I don’t like feeling like I’m bothering someone or interrupting them. The fact that I fear the fact that someone might get annoyed if I ask questions or for assistance. Saying “no,” is such a difficult situation for me. I don’t like confrontation and sometimes feel that someone might be upset with me afterwards. When I say “no” I always feel the need to give a reason or explanation for saying “no.” I was recently told that “no” is a complete sentence. I didn’t understand at first until I remembered that I tend to feel that I need to justify my answers. I tend to feel that I need to apologize to people about my past mistakes, things I could’ve done but didn’t, for not being able to change things that have already been done. Sometimes I say no because I have other plans or things that are more important to do, but then I feel guilty because I feel like I’m telling someone else that they’re not important to me or that their needs aren’t important enough. It all goes back to something simple.. overthinking. Again, as a reminder, “no” is a full sentence and does NOT require an explanation. Stop beating yourself up for things that are normal, things that you cannot change. 🧠💖✨ // #mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealthblog#mentalhealthblogger#mentalhealthadvocate#advocacy#selfcare#mentalhealthrecovery#breakthestigma#breakthestigmaofmentalillness#endthestigma#endthestigmaofmentalhealth#mentalillness#selflove#no#noisenoughexplanation
Today I give up. My cpn decided to tell me I have no mental health issues and threatened if I don’t get my act together I’ll end up in hospital and won’t be out for a while. She completely disregarded my emotions and feelings towards this and twisted my violent outbursts to make me feel like a bad person. Today I am angry that I trusted my cpn and told her things I haven’t opened up about before. I am tired of people turning on me and calling me out to be a liar. Today I am hurt that me and my family are the only people willing to fight for me. My cpn wants to discharge me as there is “nothing” wrong with me mentally and therefore cannot help me. I am hurt that she called me out for being quiet whilst she told me this. I’m hurt because of the confusion she caused me. I am hurt because now I have no idea who’s will stand by me and who won’t. I am terrified of my future and I’m angry she patronised me for leaving my session. Today I am astounded that she thinks I lie about hearing voices making threats about hurting me and my family, about seeing bugs crawl all over me until I’m trying to rip apart at my skin. Today I am let down by a professional who claimed to be able to help and has done nothing but hurt me. Today was just another day. I feel like I’m fighting a battle I am destined to lose and I’m so tired. She doesn’t see how bad things get daily, if she had to walk in my shoes, she wouldn’t be walking at the end of the day. #actuallybpd#anxietyrecovery#bpdawareness#sadquotespage#borderlinepersonalitydisorderawareness#borderlinepersonalitydisorder#borderline#borderlinepersonality#bpdrecovery#bpdwarrior#bpdlife#mentalhealthawareness#mentalillness#mentalbreakdown#mentallyill#mentalhealthblogger#sad#sadquotespage#depressionkills
277911 hours ago
(3/4) The truth is, nobody is required to stay in your life - no matter how much you care about them or how well you’ve treated them. I did everything in my power to love, respect and support this friend for nearly 9 years. Out of nowhere, they flipped and decided I was the one perpetuating pain inside in their head. Even though that pain never stemmed from me.
Without too many details: This person never communicated how deeply they felt a mutual friend had hurt their feelings a year prior. When that mutual friend was going to a party at my house, they were angry at me for not knowing their unhealed pain, and blamed me for “purposefully putting them in a situation where they had no choice but to leave the party”.
The kicker? They communicated nothing about their feelings until the next morning. I woke up to a long text saying the way they felt was my fault, I should have known what was on their mind and I was selfish for wanting the mutual friend there at all.
To be clear, I know how surface level and dramatic it sounds to admit things blew up over who went to a party. We’re both adults in our mid-20’s. When I say I am still shocked to my core this happened, I mean I am embarrassed to share any of this. But I feel context is important.
Rather than going inward and questioning why the idea of seeing this person them hurt so much, they lashed out and insisted I knew exactly how they felt and didn’t care. They thought I was selfish and passive aggressive for inviting my friend when, honestly, I had no idea they felt they couldn’t physically stand to be in the same house. They played it like they were fine whenever they talked about the mutual friend in the past. There were zero warning signs they’d react the way they did.
It still, to this day, does not make any rational sense to blame me. But they never budged from their point of view. I’d send a text imploring them to understand there was a giant lapse in communication, and they’d reply by picking out a single line in my text and twisting it to fit their narrative: I knew, I didn’t care, and I forced them to feel this way.
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1,5521316 hours ago
“Focus on the things you can control!”-AND understand the impact of the things we cannot .
☝️That’s what we always say to empower individuals, we build on strengths, focus on solutions and help along the healing process...AND this works, until a certain point, because sometimes the problems are bigger than the individual.
Sometimes, it’s a whole system, a culture, a social construct that needs change. There’s only so much a person can heal before we understand that in addition to individual healing, we need social healing.
Until we understand the individual as a part of whole, embedded within relational structures, we will continue to treat symptoms rather than root causes. .
We may provide tools and techniques for healing but if we don’t assess how reinforced social beliefs have played a role in the creation of the problem, we are missing the big picture! .
So, yes, let’s work on the things we can control AND talk about/advocate on these so called “political” subjects. More often than not, they play a huge role in an individual’s sense of wellbeing and worth.
Have you considered how the external helps in the construction of our internal problems?
1,2123415 April, 2019
I have no idea why I don’t like myself!
Hmmmmm maybe because all our lives we have been told (directly or indirectly) that we are “too much” of this or “not enough” that. Repeat for years and years...internalize the belief and voila...here we are! (If you ever find yourself having similar thoughts, ask yourself: “where did belief come from?”)
The amazing thing about learning? We can un-learn and learn new things, replacing the old beliefs. For me, it’s been a process unlearning the diet mentality and being grateful for my body even as it takes up more space. Some days are easier than others.
What is something that you feel would be worth un-learning?!?
1,4174910 April, 2019
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How easy it is for us to degrade ourselves!! Often we tell such harsh things to ourselves that we cannot imagine telling someone else because of the hurt that such words would cause. Whereas, when it comes to oneself, we are reckless in lowering our worth, degrading our standards, deteriorating our own self.
We’re just going to leave this here 😊
We’ve been going through a few wobbles the last month and have on occasion forgotten our true strength and potential. When these times happen it is so important not to judge the feelings and to remind yourself that you are exactly where you need to be and are learning the perfect lessons to take you to the next step/project/event.
You’ve got it! 🙌🏽
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What would you tell your younger self if you had the chance? ⬇️☀️ ———————————————————
I would tell her, that life goes by to fast to be worrying about becoming an adult, you’ll be one for a VERY long time. But you can never go back to being a kid. I would tell her, that despite mental, emotional and sometimes physical abuse, how strong she is. How pure her heart is. How what void she longs to fill, can be found in helping others. But ultimately to let her know, that she is so intelligent and should never ever doubt herself. And to thank her, for never giving up on herself even while experiencing suicidal ideations as young as the age of 8. I would tell her that she is so beautiful. And not just as a physical attribute, but a beautiful soul that deserves all of the love back, that she shows to others. ✨💜
You can fail at what you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on what you love! Happy 3rd Birthday, Pietruck Therapy Services PLLC! We have moved twice, tripled in size and have had the pleasure of treating over one hundred clients in the Ann Arbor area over the past few years. Some days it feels I’m living in a dream, that it couldn’t be real life that my dream (plus more) has come true. I’ve certainly worked hard, but everyday I’m grateful for my business, the best colleagues and all of the support that allows us to celebrate this milestone! Check us out @pietrucktherapyservices.
Happy birthday, PTS! Pietruck Therapy Services PLLC has been in business for three years today. We have moved twice, tripled in size and have had the pleasure to provide mental health therapy services to more than one hundred clients. We look forward to continuing to make a positive impact in the Ann Arbor area for many years to come!
13138 minutes ago
A lot can change in a year. Some things in my life for the better, some for the worse. Mentally at breaking point in the left photo and this year I won't lie I've felt the same with my health issues but I'm handling it better than I would have done a year ago with constant binge drinking. It's never too late to change ❤
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. @star.sign.studio was kind enough to reach out to me and collaborate 😍 Each month they support a different Mental Health organization. This month, they are donating to the @mentalhealthfoundation. .
To celebrate my first “gig” I wanted to give one of their beautiful bracelets away
To enter simply like this post, tag a few friends you think would LOVE this bracelet and/or are passionate about supporting #mentalhealthawareness , and make sure you’re following this account 😊
Winner will be drawn and notified 4/25 .
The blog post that I am currently writing is based on PTSD and panic disorder. It's taking me some time to write as for my own sake I have to keep taking breaks. Hoping to post it within the next couple of days 💛
It’s an interesting question that most people do not intentionally think about but tend to chase in life if they are present in their experience (let’s be honest—some people just go through life not caring or trying to improve themselves). My therapist asked me this question and it’s something I’m still thinking about although I’m pretty sure I know the general answer.
I’m curious to know what thoughts you about your own life down in the comments section!
REPEAT after me....
. 👉I am NOT alone🙏🏻
👉DEPRESSION sucks ass, but let me be the one to tell you that you are not alone. Sometimes, we don’t think that others get it. That’s fine, not everyone is going to get it. Just know that somebody in your life will GET it. This being said, find somebody in your life to TALK to. Wether it be a friend, a parent, a teacher, a coworker, a therapist. Because GUESS WHAT, I can guarantee that someone WILL get it.
👉Ask for the damn help and don’t you ever GIVE up. If this resonates with you, just know that I love you and I know that someone else in your life loves you too 💜
👉Does it suck feeling this way?? Fuck yeah!! Will you feel like yourself again? Hell yesss, but it will take time and you need to fight your biggest fight. Just take the first STEP because the first step is honestly the most IMPORTANT step.
One of the books that constantly gets mentioned in the top ten relationship books everyone should read is ‘Hold Me Tight’ by Dr Sue Johnson. She is one of the creators of the highly effective couples therapy model of emotionally focused therapy, and this has to be in my top 3 relationship books of all time. If you have an insecure attachment style or have ever found yourself in or witnessed relationships were the communication is broken down and partners are withdrawing or angrily trying to connect you will find this eye opening.
I even found myself crying at points in the book on the first read, as she demonstrates how you can look underneath the toxic behaviour to see the emotions and attachment needs beneath. Once the partners can learn to express how the really feel in a none blaming and safe way it really transforms their relationships. Click the link on my bio to learn more about attachment styles in relationships and core emotional needs.
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Weißt du eigentlich, wie wichtig du bist? ~
Was sich dir jetzt zeigt, ist ein klarer Schubs in Richtung Eigenverantwortung, Selbstliebe und Selbstfürsorge.
In allem, was dich erstarren lässt und dich einengt, wohnt auch die Magie und Kraft deiner eigenen Befreiung.
Du selbst bist es, der Entscheidungen darüber treffen sollte, wie dein Leben aussehen darf.
Löse dich aus begrenzten Verbindungen, die dir nicht erlauben, frei zu sein.. du selbst zu sein.. echt zu sein.
Du solltest dich nicht verbiegen oder einschränken müssen, nur um jemandem gerecht zu werden. Bedenke bitte, dass du der Mensch bist, der deine Liebe vorrangig über alle Maßen verdient hat. Zuerst darfst du diese Kraft der Selbstliebe wieder integrieren, um so in deine eigene Macht zu kommen und diese konstruktiv nutzen, ganz im Dienste der Liebe.
Vielleicht merkst du, dass du dazu erst etwas Zeit und Ruhe benötigst. Das ist ok. Nimm dir, was du brauchst um dich wieder mit Kraft aufzutanken. Das Universum hält dir so viele Möglichkeiten bereit.
Es ist Zeit, dass du erstmal etwas ganz für dich alleine tust. Es ist dein Leben und darf gemäß deiner Vorstellungen passieren.
Ich wünsche dir eine schöne LiebesWoche. Make Love ~ magisch. .... und schöne Ostern 🌸🐇💕 Psssst🤫 denk an mein OsterAngebot. Auf jede Buchung gibt es 13% Rabatt.
Love ~ Cindy ❥ ｡Spiritꪊelle Lebeꪀsberꪖteriꪀ ｡Deꪀkꪖꪀstöße ｡Kꪖrteꪀreꪖdiꪀg ｡Eꪀergiebehꪖꪀdlꪊꪀgeꪀ ｡Aꪀhꪖltspꪊꪀkt & Impꪊlsgeberiꪀ ☾
Being away from home, I have been stripped bare of my comfort. No parents or sisters or best friends to distract me from my anxious thoughts. Instead I am turning to myself to be my own counsellor, problem solver and cheer leader.
Yoga has now become a part of my daily routine to help quieten the noise and let my kind, logical voice come through. So here's to yoga-ing my way around the world 🌍
Following on from my last post, I am on the lookout for therapists, mental health workers, nationalists, fitness instructors and individuals who would be willing to collaborate on content regarding the topic of the binge eating/restricting / weight gain/weightloss yoyo-ing – whatever you wish to call it! I’m just looking to ask a few question over email or Skype (whatever you prefer). I would like to put together a guide that delves into this topic fully, being able to understand the psychology behind this behaviour and also providing practical advice and guidance from professionals and those who have experienced this and overcome it themselves.
If you would like to get involved in this or you know someone who would then please get in touch via DM or email 📧 firstname.lastname@example.org
Whether speaking from experience of having positively broken the cycle personally or speaking from professional experience of having helped others, it’s so important that we collaborate and put this content out there to help other people who are struggling with this, like me! I’m not afraid to admit, I’m not out the other side yet, I’m a living, breathing, research project and I want to bring this subject to the forefront. There is so much content out there that emphasises how to lose weight but not how to tackle the frustrations of gaining it all back because you didn’t get to the root causes of the weight gain in the first place!
💭S E L F - W O R T H
🧶We are constantly measuring our worth, but we’re often not fully aware of how we’re doing it🤔
🧶Typically, we’re measuring it against some elusive bar we’ve seemingly whipped out of the air🤷♀️
🧶We know how low self-worth makes us feel; often we don’t pause to consider if what we allow determine our sense of worth, is really worthy of holding such power
🔮Things Which Do Not Determine Our Value
🚀Who We ‘Know’
🚀Social Media Following
🚀How Much/Little You Eat
🚀How Far You Can Run
🚀How Much You Can Lift
🚀Grades / Exam Results / Leaving Cert Points
🧵When considering what makes up our sense of self-worth, it’s important to ask ourselves a question: worthy of what exactly?
Love? Equal Treatment? Acknowledgement?
🧵What we get in an exam or what clothes size we fit has zero implication on whether or not we are “deserving” of respect
💡All of the above may make us feel a bit happier on low days- and that’s okay. They’re a temporary boost to our self-esteem
💡It’s important to note that they do not make us any less or more ‘worthy’ of love, respect, or the space we take up
💡It is not enough to simply say we are worthy- we need to believe it. And to believe it, we need to understand what’s getting in the way of that belief. That’s where we start. That’s the work✨
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25971 hour ago
🌼 Healing using food 🌼
I have been on the @medicalmedium protocol for a month and a half now. I want to share with you what I have every morning. Following this lifestyle change has helped me heal so much!!
I am healing my anxiety, through meditation, yoga, reading and using foods to heal to mind, body and soul. My anxiety and worry has dropped by 80%! I’m healing from depression, PTSD, panic attacks and derealisation/depersonalisation.
I’m giving my body all the tools it needs to heal and that all begins with food. Nutrients, vitamins, mineral salts, all pure goodness that my body has been craving.
@medicalmedium has changed my life. My skin is glowing, my tummy in flat from healing my gut. I have more energy! I am more positive and connected to nature. I am 100% healthier than I was before.
Every morning I have a huge cup of lemon squeezed in hot water. I wait 20 minutes-
Celery juice a huge glass 16oz-30oz. Wait 20 minutes and then-
Heavy metal detox smoothie.
This is my everyday ritual then I will have enough green juice and then after a freshly squeezed orange juice.
Throughout the day I snack on fresh fruit and vegetables. If you go to @medicalmediumrecipes you can find so many delicious recipes for meals, deserts and snacks.
Foods to avoid ❌ gluten, dairy, soy, corn, processed foods, processed sugar (only natural sugars found in fruit etc) GMO, preservatives and additives.
You can heal anything using the power of foods. Be consistent and don’t give up 🌟
We forgot about natures resource and instead we look for pills to solve our problems. Thousands of people are healing from following Medical Medium. You can too ⭐️🌼🦋🌱
1511 hour ago
Ask yourself what is really important, and then have the courage and wisdom to build your life around the answers...
Who’s had a go at their WHEEL OF LIFE?
Did you find your lowest score?
Do you know 3 small incremental changes you are going to do this week?
Working out has saved my life... Especially as a creative person I could not begin to tell you how much I needed this in my life.
It has certainly boosted my creativity and has helped me make overall good healthy life decisions.
Musician friends you know what I’m talking about...😉 But in all seriousness looking after ourselves in this way allows for enjoyment in every area in life. Definitely a topic I have not heard much spoken about within the industry.
We can have it all.
It’s that feeling you get when you do something soooo difficult that you start believing you can face any challenge in life.
Physical health=Mental strength=Mental health
CONQUER YOUR MIND
TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE
822 hours ago
Representing @calmzone in the office. This organisation do great things and have helped me enormously in the past, present and no doubt future. Looking forward to repaying them by climbing big things. Link in the bio if you'd like to donate.
Up until last year I used to wear heels for job interviews and special occasions.
But then I realised that it just didnt feel like me. HEELS AREN'T ME! I am 6ft and poorly coordinated, I really dont need another thing in life to make me self conscious.
I feel most confident when I am myself. For some people that is when they are dressed up looking their best.
I would be lying to say I don't feel good when I think I look good.
But body positivity comes when you are comfortable in your skin. For me that comes when I am barefoot or in climbing shoes, running around like a feral child.
Basically, I feel best about myself when I am not afraid to be myself. I am happiest when I am around people who accept all sides of me, not just a polished pretty version.
Physical beauty will fade but an ugly personality will last a lifetime.
I want to be unashamedly me and help anyone else wanting to do the same.
There is a phase come in everyone's life where he wants to be seperate. This separation is actually space that he wants from his surroundings from his close people. Instead of taking these persons as an introverts, accept them and tell them that it is OKAY to be live alone, it is OKAY to demand for space .
Don't argue with them. If you're love them then believe them in their every step that they are taking. DON'T take their attitude as negative attitude towards you.
BE A REASON OF SOMEONE'S HAPPINESS AND LAUGHTER 💖
What is your biggest fear? Mine is not being able to break the yo-yo cycle of losing and then gaining weight back. It’s a fear but it doesn’t rule my thinking because I know that anything is possible if you put your mind to it and this is my focus now.
These pictures represent my body over the last 3 years. They start in chronological order from the top left where I was at my lowest weight in 2016 right through to the bottom right which was taken in March 2019. My weight has fluctuated a lot over the last 15 years and there are many contributing factors but if I had to pick one it would be unstable mental health.
By the age of 12 I was bulimic, by 16 I was addicted to drugs and by the age of 20 I was an alcoholic. The last ten years of my life have been a battle of will to try and overcome all three disorders and it’s a bit like playing Jenga; as you push one block out, another is placed on top weighing you down and shaking your foundations, you can keep stacking the blocks on top but if you don’t create a strong base they will all tumble down eventually. That says to me that the key to breaking any vicious cycle is to get your mental health in order and that’s easier said than done and I know this because I have done years of therapy and rehab, there is no easy route to addressing the trauma and pain you have been trying to block out with food, drugs, alcohol etc.
It's quite common, I think, when we're kids, to learn to punish ourselves for getting sick.
Not consciously, just through little lessons.
If you're off school because your sick then you spend the day in bed, because you're too sick for ice cream or to play with toys or go outside, you're sick so you have to act like it.
So now, as an adult, when I get sick, I feel an obligation to act like it, in bed, in silence, feeling bad. Can't enjoy myself because I'm too ill to work so I'm therefore far too ill to do nice things.
But my new tiny life change is that when I get sick, I'm going to do the opposite, I'm going to be really kind to myself and do things that I want to do because I enjoy doing them.
I've not been well this week, and I'm trying to forgive instead of punish myself for it.
As well as sleeping a lot, I've been to the gym, I bought some (absolutely gorgeous!) new shower gel (from The Bodyshop, would recommend), I've gone for walks when I've felt able. I've turned my phone off; and I've eaten ice cream.
I have chronic illnesses, I'm going to continue to get sick, I can't stop that; but I can learn to be a bit kinder to myself when it happens.
You can be too ill to go to work, and still be allowed to do things that make you happy.
Your illness is not your failure, but kindness is always a victory, especially if the person you're learning to be kind to is yourself.
Does thinking about exercise make you want to crawl into bed?
That's why I started searching for a way to get excited about staying active.
I've finally found something that works for me - tracking it in my journal!
Check out my tried and tested tools in the latest post on hecksplorer.com 💗 (Pssst! Did I mention there's a freebie!?)
1412 hours ago
Lonely Goat RC is an online running community open to any age, any ability. It's designed for those of us that don't have the time to join organised running groups. This may be due to work, social or family commitments but still want to be part of a thriving community of like minded people.
There isn't a formal registration process, so if you've got a passion for running or are just starting out, then follow on Instagram, Facebook/and or Strava club and be part of this amazing community!
I recently joined this community and love the concept, so if this is something that you would like to join, check out their website https://lonelygoat.com to learn more.