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  • Isn’t that the damn truth.
  • Isn’t that the damn truth.
  • 2,131 62 5 March, 2019

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  • Remember, nothing comes easy & you never know the sadness that may be hidden behind someone’s smile. It’s a process!
  • Remember, nothing comes easy & you never know the sadness that may be hidden behind someone’s smile. It’s a process!
  • 0 1 56 seconds ago
  • The doers are the accusers 🤦🏻‍♀️
  • The doers are the accusers 🤦🏻‍♀️
  • 726 17 3 hours ago
  • You do not have to compromise, confuse nor cloud yourself to be in anyone’s view. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You don’t need Facebook, Instagram or Twitter to make friends, you need a heart full of love and your self sabotage undressed in the rearview.
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xo
  • You do not have to compromise, confuse nor cloud yourself to be in anyone’s view. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    You don’t need Facebook, Instagram or Twitter to make friends, you need a heart full of love and your self sabotage undressed in the rearview.
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    xo
  • 23 1 4 hours ago
  • Monday Myth Buster:

I want to be as transparent as I can on my journey with all of you. 
As a woman and in particular a mother, but with no less acknowledgement to those who've had significant weight loss, even though we can watch the numbers on the scale get smaller and smaller, a lot of times our skin doesn't always follow suit.

Hello!!! I have had 5 babies!! FIVE little humans grew inside of this body of mine. I grew (to full term) 10 arms, 10 legs, 100 little fingers and toes, 5 beautiful hearts, brought 5 little souls earthside with brains that are going to impact this world. 
Because of these blessings I would never expect to look as though my body had never birthed babies! 
I work hard to keep it healthy, toned and strong enough to carry what ever blessings or challenges I am given!! I strive to be lean and fit! I sweat my ass off to be stronger today than I was yesterday.

So the next time you look at that lose skin that hangs, LOVE IT!!! I can look toned and fit if I stand upright and flex, but as you can see, when I sit or lay in a plank, my skin goes back into loose mode to remind me exactly who I'm getting strong for.

Embrace the skin you are in and what it has done for you!

#embracetheskin
#lovewheremybabiesgrew
  • Monday Myth Buster:

    I want to be as transparent as I can on my journey with all of you.
    As a woman and in particular a mother, but with no less acknowledgement to those who've had significant weight loss, even though we can watch the numbers on the scale get smaller and smaller, a lot of times our skin doesn't always follow suit.

    Hello!!! I have had 5 babies!! FIVE little humans grew inside of this body of mine. I grew (to full term) 10 arms, 10 legs, 100 little fingers and toes, 5 beautiful hearts, brought 5 little souls earthside with brains that are going to impact this world.
    Because of these blessings I would never expect to look as though my body had never birthed babies!
    I work hard to keep it healthy, toned and strong enough to carry what ever blessings or challenges I am given!! I strive to be lean and fit! I sweat my ass off to be stronger today than I was yesterday.

    So the next time you look at that lose skin that hangs, LOVE IT!!! I can look toned and fit if I stand upright and flex, but as you can see, when I sit or lay in a plank, my skin goes back into loose mode to remind me exactly who I'm getting strong for.

    Embrace the skin you are in and what it has done for you!

    #embracetheskin
    #lovewheremybabiesgrew
  • 234 8 5 hours ago
  • Setting boundaries is something I work with clients on on a regular basis. Usually, regardless of the main problem we are addressing, we can all work on these things. Honing this skill is so helpful in having healthy relationships and maintaining a sense of peace and well being. .
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I’d love to hear any thoughts, comments, or even questions about boundaries in your life! Comment below ❤️😊👇🏻👇🏻
  • Setting boundaries is something I work with clients on on a regular basis. Usually, regardless of the main problem we are addressing, we can all work on these things. Honing this skill is so helpful in having healthy relationships and maintaining a sense of peace and well being. .
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    I’d love to hear any thoughts, comments, or even questions about boundaries in your life! Comment below ❤️😊👇🏻👇🏻
  • 24 6 6 hours ago
  • When I'm struggling to Respond instead of React
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I separate myself and ask what is the reason behind the strong feelings
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By separating it becomes less personal and I get a chance to See their emotions as well
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There is nothing wrong with taking time to figure this out either, take a break and come back to the situation
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Set your boundaries and give yourself time to process so you can Respond according to who You are instead of Reacting according to strong emotions
#GodHeals #RespondNotReact #boundaries #takeabreak
  • When I'm struggling to Respond instead of React
    .
    I separate myself and ask what is the reason behind the strong feelings
    .
    By separating it becomes less personal and I get a chance to See their emotions as well
    .
    There is nothing wrong with taking time to figure this out either, take a break and come back to the situation
    .
    Set your boundaries and give yourself time to process so you can Respond according to who You are instead of Reacting according to strong emotions
    #GodHeals #RespondNotReact #boundaries #takeabreak
  • 6 1 6 hours ago
  • Most of us, going through this type of recovery .. are overcoming the notion that our time belongs to everybody else.
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We feel or at a point in time felt entirely obligated to be available and present 24/7 for someone else's trauma or emergencies. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And while the idea seems loving and attentive, -- this ongoing behavior quickly turns into irritation and resentment because we keep on doing shit we really don't want to do. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Like, ...picking up the phone when we really don't have the energy to talk or listen. 
When we really just want those next 5-10 minutes to ourselves or maybe we just aren't really in the mood. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And that's okay. We are human and sometimes we just don't have it.
It's healthier to honor that instead of pushing ourselves to the edge which most often will end up in us being extremely bitter and unhappy and we don't want that either. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So let it ring, girl. 
Reschedule if you have to. 
You can always call back when you have the time or energy.
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And if there's any push back on the limitation of your availability -- remember that you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
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Obviously use your manners but your time is YOURS and you can politely clarify your boundaries and let the other person have their own experience. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
cheers to taking down codependency, one day at a time.
xo
  • Most of us, going through this type of recovery .. are overcoming the notion that our time belongs to everybody else.
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    We feel or at a point in time felt entirely obligated to be available and present 24/7 for someone else's trauma or emergencies. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    And while the idea seems loving and attentive, -- this ongoing behavior quickly turns into irritation and resentment because we keep on doing shit we really don't want to do. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Like, ...picking up the phone when we really don't have the energy to talk or listen.
    When we really just want those next 5-10 minutes to ourselves or maybe we just aren't really in the mood. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    And that's okay. We are human and sometimes we just don't have it.
    It's healthier to honor that instead of pushing ourselves to the edge which most often will end up in us being extremely bitter and unhappy and we don't want that either. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    So let it ring, girl.
    Reschedule if you have to.
    You can always call back when you have the time or energy.
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    And if there's any push back on the limitation of your availability -- remember that you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Obviously use your manners but your time is YOURS and you can politely clarify your boundaries and let the other person have their own experience. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    cheers to taking down codependency, one day at a time.
    xo
  • 14 1 6 hours ago
  • 8 years ago I was a shell screaming to get out of, so lost that I only find comfort behind gray contacts that hid my real eye
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I was trying to Heal from narcissistic type abuse without even knowing what had happened to me
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I spent most everyday in my bedroom without human contact and replayed all "I" had done wrong
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How "I" was not good enough, skinny enough, quiet enough and how I was always called "drama" for standing up for myself
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I'm no longer that person. I have the ability and power to stand-up and say no more
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No more backhanded comments from Anyone, no more cutting me down or short to make me feel less than, no more spinning my head by trying to change reality with clever words and no more cornering me into taking a tongue lashing I don't deserve
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I'm not that girl that was controllable anymore, and I'm so proud of that!
#GodDidIt #notaffraid #warriorlife #cantabusemeanymore #survivortothriver
  • 8 years ago I was a shell screaming to get out of, so lost that I only find comfort behind gray contacts that hid my real eye
    .
    I was trying to Heal from narcissistic type abuse without even knowing what had happened to me
    .
    I spent most everyday in my bedroom without human contact and replayed all "I" had done wrong
    .
    How "I" was not good enough, skinny enough, quiet enough and how I was always called "drama" for standing up for myself
    .
    I'm no longer that person. I have the ability and power to stand-up and say no more
    .
    No more backhanded comments from Anyone, no more cutting me down or short to make me feel less than, no more spinning my head by trying to change reality with clever words and no more cornering me into taking a tongue lashing I don't deserve
    .
    I'm not that girl that was controllable anymore, and I'm so proud of that!
    #GodDidIt #notaffraid #warriorlife #cantabusemeanymore #survivortothriver
  • 17 5 7 hours ago
  • Your truth may fall into the path of someone that will hear it and tell others.....”that isn’t her truth” thinking that their perception of you is more true than what you know for yourself.

You must speak your truth anyway.

It never truly matters who outside of yourself validates what you feel or speak as being THE truth. You must remember, they are worried others may believe you, lessening their story. 
When we choose to walk away from people, situations and even ways of living that change what others are used to, it WILL INVOKE FEAR and RESISTANCE from their truth no longer matching your storyline you used to live along side them.

Speak your truth anyway, set the new pattern in motion for the next generation to not live in someone else’s box. Teach by example to do what you must do to live authentic. 
Sometimes it will mean rocking the boat.
Sometimes it will mean walking away from things that are unhealthy.
Sometimes it will mean relinquishing people from your inner circle.

Do it anyway!

Teach the little ones watching that they deserve to feel happiness at all costs.....you dream that for them anyway....so you must show them how!

Speak Your Truth
Live Authentic
Love Always
  • Your truth may fall into the path of someone that will hear it and tell others.....”that isn’t her truth” thinking that their perception of you is more true than what you know for yourself.

    You must speak your truth anyway.

    It never truly matters who outside of yourself validates what you feel or speak as being THE truth. You must remember, they are worried others may believe you, lessening their story.
    When we choose to walk away from people, situations and even ways of living that change what others are used to, it WILL INVOKE FEAR and RESISTANCE from their truth no longer matching your storyline you used to live along side them.

    Speak your truth anyway, set the new pattern in motion for the next generation to not live in someone else’s box. Teach by example to do what you must do to live authentic.
    Sometimes it will mean rocking the boat.
    Sometimes it will mean walking away from things that are unhealthy.
    Sometimes it will mean relinquishing people from your inner circle.

    Do it anyway!

    Teach the little ones watching that they deserve to feel happiness at all costs.....you dream that for them anyway....so you must show them how!

    Speak Your Truth
    Live Authentic
    Love Always
  • 26 1 8 hours ago
  • Your truth may fall into the path of someone that will hear it and tell others.....”that isn’t her truth” thinking that their perception of you is more true than what you know for yourself.

You must speak your truth anyway.

It never truly matters who outside of yourself validates what you feel or speak as being THE truth. You must remember, they are worried others may believe you, lessening their story. 
When we choose to walk away from people, situations and even ways of living that change what others are used to, it WILL INVOKE FEAR and RESISTANCE from their truth no longer matching your storyline you used to live along side them.

Speak your truth anyway, set the new pattern in motion for the next generation to not live in someone else’s box. Teach by example to do what you must do to live authentic. 
Sometimes it will mean rocking the boat.
Sometimes it will mean walking away from things that are unhealthy.
Sometimes it will mean relinquishing people from your inner circle.

Do it anyway!

Teach the little ones watching that they deserve to feel happiness at all costs.....you dream that for them anyway....so you must show them how!

Speak Your Truth
Live Authentic
Love Always
  • Your truth may fall into the path of someone that will hear it and tell others.....”that isn’t her truth” thinking that their perception of you is more true than what you know for yourself.

    You must speak your truth anyway.

    It never truly matters who outside of yourself validates what you feel or speak as being THE truth. You must remember, they are worried others may believe you, lessening their story.
    When we choose to walk away from people, situations and even ways of living that change what others are used to, it WILL INVOKE FEAR and RESISTANCE from their truth no longer matching your storyline you used to live along side them.

    Speak your truth anyway, set the new pattern in motion for the next generation to not live in someone else’s box. Teach by example to do what you must do to live authentic.
    Sometimes it will mean rocking the boat.
    Sometimes it will mean walking away from things that are unhealthy.
    Sometimes it will mean relinquishing people from your inner circle.

    Do it anyway!

    Teach the little ones watching that they deserve to feel happiness at all costs.....you dream that for them anyway....so you must show them how!

    Speak Your Truth
    Live Authentic
    Love Always
  • 64 4 8 hours ago
  • So true.Where are my empaths at.I relate.You cut them off👉They hurt👉You forgive or take them back and the same thing happens again.Its a struggle.Its important to learn to put your foot down Empaths.Its hard, I know cause one!
Repost @narcissist.sociopath.awarenes2
  • So true.Where are my empaths at.I relate.You cut them off👉They hurt👉You forgive or take them back and the same thing happens again.Its a struggle.Its important to learn to put your foot down Empaths.Its hard, I know cause one!
    Repost @narcissist.sociopath.awarenes2
  • 209 6 9 hours ago