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  • Sharing @justine_intuitive_coaching ⁣
post and caption entirely because of what I am experiencing currently.⁣
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Just because you don’t understand it, it doesn’t mean that it’s not important. Try to listen with empathy and understanding rather than dismissal and invalidation. People who invalidate someone else’s experience only shows they haven’t dealt with their pain. ⁣
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Repost from @justine_intuitive_coaching - What does it mean to actually emotionally validate someone’s feelings? ⁣
First, let’s break down invalidation. The invalidating of someone’s feelings is to reject, ignore, or judge their feelings as opposed to validation; to accept, understand, and nurture. ⁣
When we emotionally invalidate others we are saying without saying; your feelings do not matter. ⁣
Everyone, especially highly sensitive and empathic people, want to be loved and understood. A good way to provide that to a loved one is to hold space empathetically and if words need to be said; pick an emotionally valid response.⁣
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You can see by this chart that an emotionally valid response allows great empathy to be shared. The invalidating responses are sympathetic, which is completely different from being empathetic. ⁣
Invalidating someone’s feelings on a regular basis can create a lot of emotional distance and can absolutely be categorized as emotional abuse- even if our intentions are not malicious. ⁣
The world needs a lot of emotional healing and this is definitely a small step in that direction if we can use our consciousness in emotional situations. ⁣
#validation #emotionalvalidation #befree #emotionalfreedom #emotions #feelings #invalidation #empathetic #empathy #spiritualrelationships
  • Sharing @justine_intuitive_coaching
    post and caption entirely because of what I am experiencing currently.⁣

    Just because you don’t understand it, it doesn’t mean that it’s not important. Try to listen with empathy and understanding rather than dismissal and invalidation. People who invalidate someone else’s experience only shows they haven’t dealt with their pain. ⁣

    Repost from @justine_intuitive_coaching - What does it mean to actually emotionally validate someone’s feelings? ⁣
    First, let’s break down invalidation. The invalidating of someone’s feelings is to reject, ignore, or judge their feelings as opposed to validation; to accept, understand, and nurture. ⁣
    When we emotionally invalidate others we are saying without saying; your feelings do not matter. ⁣
    Everyone, especially highly sensitive and empathic people, want to be loved and understood. A good way to provide that to a loved one is to hold space empathetically and if words need to be said; pick an emotionally valid response.⁣
    ✨⁣
    You can see by this chart that an emotionally valid response allows great empathy to be shared. The invalidating responses are sympathetic, which is completely different from being empathetic. ⁣
    Invalidating someone’s feelings on a regular basis can create a lot of emotional distance and can absolutely be categorized as emotional abuse- even if our intentions are not malicious. ⁣
    The world needs a lot of emotional healing and this is definitely a small step in that direction if we can use our consciousness in emotional situations. ⁣
    #validation #emotionalvalidation #befree #emotionalfreedom #emotions #feelings #invalidation #empathetic #empathy #spiritualrelationships
  • 1,453 48 4 March, 2019

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  • Check out my Blog post:
Setting Boundaries With Toxic People
Boundaries are a healthy tool for knowing where you end, and another begins. They helps us know what we are willing to do, and what we are not willing to do, and convey these limits with those around us.... If you need help navigating a toxic person in your life, PM me.  I offer a free consultation, and then only $30 for an hour-  if you find you need further help.

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  • Check out my Blog post:
    Setting Boundaries With Toxic People
    Boundaries are a healthy tool for knowing where you end, and another begins. They helps us know what we are willing to do, and what we are not willing to do, and convey these limits with those around us.... If you need help navigating a toxic person in your life, PM me. I offer a free consultation, and then only $30 for an hour- if you find you need further help.

    Link to website in Profile
  • 4 2 51 minutes ago
  • Meine 3. Podcastfolge ist auf YouTube online. Ich erzähle euch, wie es mir in den letzten Wochen ergangen ist und über meine Trennung von meinem Narzissten. Also wenn ihr Lust habt, der Link ist in meiner Bio😍 #toxischebeziehung #nocontact #manipulation #narzisst
  • Meine 3. Podcastfolge ist auf YouTube online. Ich erzähle euch, wie es mir in den letzten Wochen ergangen ist und über meine Trennung von meinem Narzissten. Also wenn ihr Lust habt, der Link ist in meiner Bio😍 #toxischebeziehung #nocontact #manipulation #narzisst
  • 3 0 3 hours ago
  • Looking back on a relationship with a Narc like...
  • Looking back on a relationship with a Narc like...
  • 14 1 3 hours ago
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find the words you can believe in
and hold on to them with all your might
it could be as simple as everything is ok
it could be as simple as everything is alright ⠀
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    find the words you can believe in
    and hold on to them with all your might
    it could be as simple as everything is ok
    it could be as simple as everything is alright ⠀
  • 9 3 3 hours ago
  • You do not have to compromise, confuse nor cloud yourself to be in anyone’s view. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You don’t need Facebook, Instagram or Twitter to make friends, you need a heart full of love and your self sabotage undressed in the rearview.
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xo
  • You do not have to compromise, confuse nor cloud yourself to be in anyone’s view. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    You don’t need Facebook, Instagram or Twitter to make friends, you need a heart full of love and your self sabotage undressed in the rearview.
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    xo
  • 23 1 4 hours ago
  • Setting boundaries is something I work with clients on on a regular basis. Usually, regardless of the main problem we are addressing, we can all work on these things. Honing this skill is so helpful in having healthy relationships and maintaining a sense of peace and well being. .
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I’d love to hear any thoughts, comments, or even questions about boundaries in your life! Comment below ❤️😊👇🏻👇🏻
  • Setting boundaries is something I work with clients on on a regular basis. Usually, regardless of the main problem we are addressing, we can all work on these things. Honing this skill is so helpful in having healthy relationships and maintaining a sense of peace and well being. .
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    I’d love to hear any thoughts, comments, or even questions about boundaries in your life! Comment below ❤️😊👇🏻👇🏻
  • 24 6 6 hours ago
  • Most of us, going through this type of recovery .. are overcoming the notion that our time belongs to everybody else.
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We feel or at a point in time felt entirely obligated to be available and present 24/7 for someone else's trauma or emergencies. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And while the idea seems loving and attentive, -- this ongoing behavior quickly turns into irritation and resentment because we keep on doing shit we really don't want to do. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Like, ...picking up the phone when we really don't have the energy to talk or listen. 
When we really just want those next 5-10 minutes to ourselves or maybe we just aren't really in the mood. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And that's okay. We are human and sometimes we just don't have it.
It's healthier to honor that instead of pushing ourselves to the edge which most often will end up in us being extremely bitter and unhappy and we don't want that either. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
So let it ring, girl. 
Reschedule if you have to. 
You can always call back when you have the time or energy.
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And if there's any push back on the limitation of your availability -- remember that you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
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Obviously use your manners but your time is YOURS and you can politely clarify your boundaries and let the other person have their own experience. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
cheers to taking down codependency, one day at a time.
xo
  • Most of us, going through this type of recovery .. are overcoming the notion that our time belongs to everybody else.
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    We feel or at a point in time felt entirely obligated to be available and present 24/7 for someone else's trauma or emergencies. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    And while the idea seems loving and attentive, -- this ongoing behavior quickly turns into irritation and resentment because we keep on doing shit we really don't want to do. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Like, ...picking up the phone when we really don't have the energy to talk or listen.
    When we really just want those next 5-10 minutes to ourselves or maybe we just aren't really in the mood. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    And that's okay. We are human and sometimes we just don't have it.
    It's healthier to honor that instead of pushing ourselves to the edge which most often will end up in us being extremely bitter and unhappy and we don't want that either. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    So let it ring, girl.
    Reschedule if you have to.
    You can always call back when you have the time or energy.
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    And if there's any push back on the limitation of your availability -- remember that you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.
    ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Obviously use your manners but your time is YOURS and you can politely clarify your boundaries and let the other person have their own experience. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    cheers to taking down codependency, one day at a time.
    xo
  • 14 1 6 hours ago
  • NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AWARENESS & RECOVERY
  • NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AWARENESS & RECOVERY
  • 67 1 9 hours ago
  • So true.Where are my empaths at.I relate.You cut them off👉They hurt👉You forgive or take them back and the same thing happens again.Its a struggle.Its important to learn to put your foot down Empaths.Its hard, I know cause one!
Repost @narcissist.sociopath.awarenes2
  • So true.Where are my empaths at.I relate.You cut them off👉They hurt👉You forgive or take them back and the same thing happens again.Its a struggle.Its important to learn to put your foot down Empaths.Its hard, I know cause one!
    Repost @narcissist.sociopath.awarenes2
  • 208 6 9 hours ago
  • ‎ من الطبيعي أن زيارتكم لبعض الأماكن قد تثير لديكم الذكريات، أو ربما الاستماع لبعض الأغاني أو شم بعض العطور سيحفز لديكم مناطق بالذاكرة تثير الألم، لذا لا مانع من الإبتعاد عن هذه المثيرات لطفاً بأنفسكم. ومن الأفضل لكم في هذه المرحلة التوقف عن متابعة من انفصلتم عنهم في وسائل التواصل الاجتماعي، وربما حتى بعض الأفراد من عائلتهم ليس لأمر شخصي وإنما محاولة للابتعاد عن كل ما قد يُساء تفسيره على انه رسالة ما، الاستمرار في متابعة حساباتهم الشخصية ومعرفة أخبارهم بالتفصيل سيؤخر من عملية التشافي، السماح لهم أيضاً بمعرفة أخبارك ومتابعتك لن يفيدك أو يفيدهم، فلا تنتظر أبدا منهم الندم او التعاطف ، مشاعرهم الان وما يفعلونه في حياتهم لم يعد من دائرة اهتمامك، اعتني بمشاعرك أنت الشخصية لأنه لا أحد سيهتم بها كما تفعل أنت. 
According to psychologist Jill Weber, staying out of contact with your ex is one of the most important things you can do when recovering from a break up or from a divorce.#nocontact #nocontactrule #avoid #triggered #healing #divorce #breakup #طلاق #تشافي
  • ‎ من الطبيعي أن زيارتكم لبعض الأماكن قد تثير لديكم الذكريات، أو ربما الاستماع لبعض الأغاني أو شم بعض العطور سيحفز لديكم مناطق بالذاكرة تثير الألم، لذا لا مانع من الإبتعاد عن هذه المثيرات لطفاً بأنفسكم. ومن الأفضل لكم في هذه المرحلة التوقف عن متابعة من انفصلتم عنهم في وسائل التواصل الاجتماعي، وربما حتى بعض الأفراد من عائلتهم ليس لأمر شخصي وإنما محاولة للابتعاد عن كل ما قد يُساء تفسيره على انه رسالة ما، الاستمرار في متابعة حساباتهم الشخصية ومعرفة أخبارهم بالتفصيل سيؤخر من عملية التشافي، السماح لهم أيضاً بمعرفة أخبارك ومتابعتك لن يفيدك أو يفيدهم، فلا تنتظر أبدا منهم الندم او التعاطف ، مشاعرهم الان وما يفعلونه في حياتهم لم يعد من دائرة اهتمامك، اعتني بمشاعرك أنت الشخصية لأنه لا أحد سيهتم بها كما تفعل أنت.
    According to psychologist Jill Weber, staying out of contact with your ex is one of the most important things you can do when recovering from a break up or from a divorce. #nocontact #nocontactrule #avoid #triggered #healing #divorce #breakup #طلاق #تشافي
  • 30 2 12 hours ago
  • We often wonder if the narcissist's new 'relationship' is better, if they feel more fulfilled, happier, more content, etc. The answer is - no. These cycles of abuse repeat ad nauseam. They do not know anything else outside of the idealise, devalue, discard and hoover behaviour. Just speak to any of their exes if you are unsure and want to find out more (If this is feasible for you). When I went through the discard, the narc said to a friend of mine 'I can get any woman I want.' (Something along the lines of 'If she leaves, I don't care, I don't need her anyway.') At this point, he was already cheating on me with the new supply (for about a year according to the evidence in the emails and abuse on social media we received) so his new victim was lined up. Myself and my family were abused and harassed for a year by her online and left malicious voicemails, sent nasty emails and received hundreds of missed calls from no caller ID for the best part of a year. Who needs that abuse and mistreatment?  I thought to myself 'Yeah, you can get any woman you want (big deal) but building a loving, trusting relationship over time, feeling real love and commitment is something that you will never experience.' They only know how to use and abuse and manipulate situations to their advantage. That isn't love. The new supply has been duped into thinking that this is different, special and of course the narcissist will do everything in their power to make it look special to everyone and to feel special to the new supply - but it isn't. It is the idealise phase. You have already been through the process and you know what this is about.  #narcissisticsociopathicabuserecovery #pathologicalliars #narcissisticabuse #healingfromtoxicrelationships #sociopaths #newsupply #thegrassisnotgreener #relationshipproblems #psychologicalabuserecovery #covernarcissisticabuse #nomorenarc #NPD #narcissisticabuse #narcissistdiscard #endthedrama #emotionalabuserecovery #psychologicalabuse #idealisedevaluediscardhoover #psychopathicabuse #cycleofabuse #walkaway #nocontact
  • We often wonder if the narcissist's new 'relationship' is better, if they feel more fulfilled, happier, more content, etc. The answer is - no. These cycles of abuse repeat ad nauseam. They do not know anything else outside of the idealise, devalue, discard and hoover behaviour. Just speak to any of their exes if you are unsure and want to find out more (If this is feasible for you). When I went through the discard, the narc said to a friend of mine 'I can get any woman I want.' (Something along the lines of 'If she leaves, I don't care, I don't need her anyway.') At this point, he was already cheating on me with the new supply (for about a year according to the evidence in the emails and abuse on social media we received) so his new victim was lined up. Myself and my family were abused and harassed for a year by her online and left malicious voicemails, sent nasty emails and received hundreds of missed calls from no caller ID for the best part of a year. Who needs that abuse and mistreatment? I thought to myself 'Yeah, you can get any woman you want (big deal) but building a loving, trusting relationship over time, feeling real love and commitment is something that you will never experience.' They only know how to use and abuse and manipulate situations to their advantage. That isn't love. The new supply has been duped into thinking that this is different, special and of course the narcissist will do everything in their power to make it look special to everyone and to feel special to the new supply - but it isn't. It is the idealise phase. You have already been through the process and you know what this is about. #narcissisticsociopathicabuserecovery #pathologicalliars #narcissisticabuse #healingfromtoxicrelationships #sociopaths #newsupply #thegrassisnotgreener #relationshipproblems #psychologicalabuserecovery #covernarcissisticabuse #nomorenarc #NPD #narcissisticabuse #narcissistdiscard #endthedrama #emotionalabuserecovery #psychologicalabuse #idealisedevaluediscardhoover #psychopathicabuse #cycleofabuse #walkaway #nocontact
  • 33 0 15 hours ago
  • Betty was ready to dump her boyfriend-then she found out she was pregnant. 🤰🏻🤷🏻‍♀️
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She opens about what it was like to be a senior in college, pregnant, and in a toxic relationship. •
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In the episode she discusses the lack of intimacy in her relationship during and after her pregnancy.  She reveals the difficulty she had embracing the beauty early motherhood, and things like breastfeeding, because of her emotionally compromised partner. •
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After discovering a huge secret and his escalating anger, Betty decided to leave. •
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  • Betty was ready to dump her boyfriend-then she found out she was pregnant. 🤰🏻🤷🏻‍♀️


    She opens about what it was like to be a senior in college, pregnant, and in a toxic relationship. •

    In the episode she discusses the lack of intimacy in her relationship during and after her pregnancy.  She reveals the difficulty she had embracing the beauty early motherhood, and things like breastfeeding, because of her emotionally compromised partner. •

    After discovering a huge secret and his escalating anger, Betty decided to leave. •

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  • 80 5 17 hours ago