My mental illness has been a real jerk lately. Telling me that I’m imagining things, that I’m not sick I’m just lazy, that I’m a garbage human who can’t get her shit together, that I’m feeling this way because I’m not trying hard enough.
Can you relate?
I’m betting yes, because that’s how mental illness works. It tries to trick you into believing terrible things about yourself.
This is when it is so important to remind ourselves:
𝐈 𝐚𝐦 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐦𝐲 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡𝐭𝐬.
Mental illness is a legitimate condition. It has real effects and is an exceptionally heavy burden to bear. It lies to you constantly. Telling you things like:
“You’re not worthy of feeling better. You deserve to feel this way.”
“You’ll never be enough.”
“You’re weak and lazy and you’re making this whole thing up.”
Well, today I’m here to remind you:
1) Your worth is NOT dependent on anyone’s inability to see it (including your own). You are worthy always.
2) You are NOT making this up. You have a real condition. You are a human being who is hurting and figuring out some heavy shit. That is okay and it is valid.
3) You are doing your best and (despite what your brain tries to tell you) that is ALWAYS enough.
4) You are needed in this world. We only have one of you and what a gift that is.
5) You are not alone. The thoughts and self-doubt that you are having are not your burden to carry alone. We are all walking this path together. Don’t be afraid to reach out.
6) You are so much more than your illness, than your trauma, than the burdens you carry... they don’t have likes and dislikes or a favourite song or loved ones, but you do.
So, whatever lie your mental illness tries to tell you, I hope you are able to recognize it for what it is - a thought - not an absolute truth, but a thought. It does not automatically equal reality. Acknowledge them then remind yourself that you are not your thoughts. You are a strong, resilient human being doing their best.
Go bravely, warriors.✨
Can you add any to the list? Cognitive distortions are not helpful they increase anxiety, stress and lower our mood and self esteem. Take a look at your inner critic, do you find yourself falling into any of these traps?
-Whenever you recognise a cognitive distortion, write down what you have noticed. And question it. If there is no factual evidence for the thought write down a replacement thought and continue questioning your inner narrative. When we show the mind there is more than one way of thinking, we can start to rewire our thinking patterns and break any negative cycles of irrational thoughts. Like anything this takes an investment in time. I know each one of you has the courage and strength to put in the time to continue on your journey to recovery 💕
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7,2047223 January, 2020
Here's what your anxiety doesn't want you to know:
That every time you avoid that thing that you think is making you anxious, it grows!
The feeling of anxiety urges us to AVOID.
And at first, avoiding feels good! It gives you temporary relief... and that relief makes you think that avoiding was the right choice all along.
But long-term, avoidance just creates more problems.
Avoiding the things you're anxious about:
😬decreases your confidence in your ability to handle stress
😣increases your anxiety about the things you're avoiding
😞restricts your lifestyle and your future options
This anxiety-avoidance cycle is why most good therapies for anxiety include some element of exposure. Exposure means slowly approaching the things that make you anxious in a strategic, scaled way.
A therapist skilled in working with anxiety disorders will be able to teach you distress tolerance and stress management skills like grounding, paced breathing, and progressive muscle relaxation.
Once you are able to manage your anxiety in the moment, they will guide you through a structured process to gradually start approaching some of your anxieties.
Eventually, you will reverse the cycle and start reclaiming your life.
Does this cycle resonate with anything in your life?
I honor myself where I am today.
I honor my emotions.
I honor my tears.
I spent a lot of my first couple months postpartum right here on my bathroom floor or in this closet right next to me. I spent most every day uncontrollably crying because I felt like I wasn't enough. I didn't deserve a baby that slept through the night because my body couldn't feed her. I didn't deserve any of it. You see, depression is an ugly beast. It makes you believe these horrible thing. But they are just thoughts and emotions jumbled together. Acknowledge how you feel, tell someone. Don't let the lies win. Because that's what those thoughts are. Lies. Not you. It does not define you. You are strong. You are amazing.
Your mind can be a very powerful thing if you let it. You don't get to choose what thoughts pass through your mind but you get to choose which ones you let take root. I will be posting 7 days of mindfulness activities that helped me in my stories this week. ❤❤❤ Also, I'm a medicated mama because PPMD can be mostly chemical. I'm always willing to talk about that too. #ppdsurvivor#postpartum#postpartumjourney#mindfulness#lies#ocdawareness#ppdawareness#keepgoing#ppmdawareness
1602 hours ago
Children grow and mature and change every day. But sometimes, they seem to regress. Perhaps a child starts using baby talk or starts wetting the bed. Or maybe a child loses the ability to focus and starts performing poorly at school.
PANS and PANDAS are autoimmune conditions in which a child suddenly develops neurological and behavioral abnormalities — almost overnight.
Aggression, insomnia, and anxiety are all ways to recognize your child has PANS or PANDAS. We talk extensively about the symptoms below, as well as potential treatments and considerations.
PANS/PANDAS can be scary. It’s rare, but parents should understand the signs and symptoms of such a catch-you-off-guard disorder. We’re here to equip you with the information you need to help your child survive and heal from this condition.
Read on to learn more about PANS/PANDAS, symptoms, diagnostic criteria, and treatment options by clicking the link in my bio.
Welcome to OCD Mythbusting Volume 2! Today we’ll be diving into one of the biggest stereotypes about OCD. Both in real life and online, I’ve heard a lot of people make comments about how everyone with OCD “wants everything to be clean” or “washes too much”. The fear of getting contaminated by germs and/or getting sick is typically called contamination OCD, which is a subtype of obsessive compulsive disorder that actually impacts about only 25% of OCD fighters (via intrusivethoughts.org). I personally deal mainly with contamination OCD- to summarize my contamination related obsessions, I’m scared of certain things “contaminating” myself and some of my possessions. I want to make something very clear though: not everyone with the same obsession has the same compulsions! My contamination OCD first manifested in washing my hands repeatedly due to my obsessive thoughts and triggers, but I personally know so many people who don’t wash their hands due to their contamination OCD. And even thought two people might both deal with contamination OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder is different for everyone who it impacts. There’s different obsessive thoughts as well as different triggers for everyone who deals with it.
Did you learn anything in this edition to OCD Mythbusting? What’s a myth you’ve heard about OCD that you’d like me to debunk next time? Let me know in the comments! Love you all so much and hope you have a wonderful rest of your day!! ~ Abby ❤️🍅❤️ #mentalhealthmatters#mentalhealth#ocdawareness#ocdrecovery#edrecovery#edawareness#youarenotalone#recoveryispossible#yougotthis
As much as I’m ready for spring, I really will miss Quincy in his beanie when the season is over. And despite his OCD being on an upswing (we’re currently trying homeopathy to treat his PANS and are still trying to find the sweet spot with his remedy) we had a really fun afternoon together playing Peppa Pig, his new obsession. He’s actually quite good at speaking with a British accent. As challenging as the age can be sometimes (and extra so when you add PANS and OCD on top) I really do love 4. It’s one of my favorites ❤️ #quincyrhys#panspandasawareness#panspandas#ocdawareness#homeopathy#beaniemodel#longhairedboy
how many times have you lost and found your own voice? was it lost in that moving box in the closet of your old home because of an argument that you felt silenced in? was it found when someone offended you in a group dynamic and you just *had* to say something? our voices move in and out many times throughout our lives & it’s our responsibility to caretake as necessary to keep them with us as our truth.
sending love to y’all this mercury retrograde time! mama is here to read ya cards if ya would like - have you peeped my new sliding scale? seriously, go check it out! tarot readings for as low as fifteen bucks! i would love to work together. you can also pledge my patreon for monthly goodies! get yours!
Loved reading this!!!! ❤️❤️• @counselorkenzie Here’s my school counselor why: As a child I silently suffered from Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and, to some extent, still do to this day. Keyword here: silently. I knew I was different but didn’t understand why I would compulsively touch door knobs in my bedroom 5 times each night or why I felt the need to strategically re-read sentences in my school books so that nothing bad would happen to my family. I never told my family or my friends about this hidden part of me because I didn’t understand what was wrong. I was afraid of what others would think or say and I never thought it would be possible to be “normal” like everyone else. It wasn’t until pursuing degrees in psychology and school counseling that I realized what I was suffering from was an actual disorder. Yes. You read that correctly. I didn’t know until I was in college. Another perfect example of how the stigma attached to mental health is immobilizing.
I met someone just like me at my state school counseling conference in January and it was one of the best moments of my life. For the first time I didn’t feel like I had to hide who I was deep down inside because there was someone else who understood me. Maggie (@maggieandfriend) is a high school student who wrote a children’s book about OCD. She personified her own obsessive thoughts and compulsions as a character named Otis. Now Maggie’s book will help MY students who are just like US! I wish I would’ve had access to books like this throughout my school years because I probably would’ve discovered my “Otis” sooner. I’m a school counselor because I want to help children who were just like me, flying under the radar, needing someone to notice that something on the inside wasn’t quite right. I want to seek EVERY student out regardless of what they present on the outside and let them know I notice them and that I’m here. Always. 💞 #schoolcounselor#schoolcounseling#elementaryschoolcounselor#elementaryschoolcounseling#obsessivecompulsivedisorder#ocdawareness#ocdproblems#ocd
4726 hours ago
Change is inevitable. It can be scary, but is can also be the best thing ↓
As humans (especially those of us struggling with anxiety) it’s easy for us to resist change. We want to stay in our comfort zone and stay with what’s familiar, because we like familiar.
But how often are we holding on to things that no longer serve us, just because it’s comfortable? How often are we limiting so many new opportunities because we’re afraid of the unknown?
There are no guarantees in life. But when we hold on to toxic situations/environments and resist change because of fear, we are limiting ourselves to so many possibilities and fully living our lives.
My best advice is to release what no longer serves you. Growing is exciting. Change is exciting. Be open to it. Say yes more. And get excited about saying yes more. Stop letting anxiety and fear control your life, because they don’t. You do. 🤍
A lot has been going on! Dalton and I have officially been in our new place for a month. We’ve gotten ourselves a brand new king size adjustable bed. (We were using my parents 35 year old mattress before that). We got a 75 inch tv for our living room, along with a sectional and one of those coffee tables that lifts up. Our place has really come together and I’m so proud of us. Almost everything we owned up until now was a hand me down or was gifted to us. It feels good to be in a home full of things we picked out together.
Speaking of together, today marks FOURTEEN YEARS of dalton and I being together. We went on our first date on February 17, 2006. We were only sixteen. We saw Final Destination 3 at a theater that no longer exists. We ate dinner in a restaurant that no longer exists. We were on again off again for a while but we never went more than a week without talking. He is a perfect partner for me. He is my exact polar opposite but we agree on what matters. He is so patient with my anxiety and ocd. He knows how to calm me down and works with me every day. I am a very lucky girl.
This post was very little about coloring but my husband deserves this shout out 🥰. @dhanson810 .
1927 hours ago
Then head on over to The OCD Series at my website!
You can find the link in my bio ⬆️ There's eight articles in this series (so far!), all about nutrition and other tools for your OCD recovery.
Written by me, a survivor of 19 years of OCD, now in recovery going on 9 years, and a registered clinical nutritionist.
Helping you learn how to use nutrition to nourish your nerves and recover from OCD is a big reason WHY I became a nutritionist.
I've just updated all the articles in The OCD Series, with new information and links to scientific research.
If you're new to nutrition for OCD, these articles are a great starting point.
And if you're already working with me, these articles will help reinforce what you've been learning and putting into action in your lives.
Here's what some of my clients have said after working with me as their nutritionist. They're men and women of all ages who'd been struggling with OCD for years.
"Of everything I've tried, nutrition has made THE biggest difference."
"Since working with you I've experienced a dip in the frequency and intensity of my OCD.... it used to be 7 out of 10, now it's 3 out of 10."
"OCD dragon is still there but it's not fucking with my life anymore."
"Your kindness is so genuine."
The OCD Series.....Link in bio ⬆️
Recovery from OCD IS possible.
PS. No time to read right now? Why not save this post as a reminder to come back later?
Hey insta, remember me? I used to post daily. But it started to feel like maintaining a social media presence was directly conflicting with my values, so I took a step back.⠀
I love sharing mental health tips and offering support. But I found that the more I posted, the more pressure I felt to continue creating new content and interacting with everyone, and the less I felt present in my ACTUAL life.⠀
I’ve learned that there’s a fine line between using social media in a way that enhances my quality of life, and using it in a way that detracts from it. ⠀
It’s a slippery slope from learning, sharing, and engaging, to having my attention stolen.⠀
I recognize it’s a touch ironic to rant about this ON social media but I can’t be the only one who feels it. ⠀
What do you think? Is your attention a valuable commodity, or is it up for grabs to the highest bidder? ⠀
After all, advertisers and influencers are paying big 💰to get in front of a mindless click-happy audience whose time, attention, and money they can steal.⠀
That time we spend consuming content is time we can’t get back. Life is fleeting. Every moment is precious. It’s okay to be protective of your time and attention.⠀
If you’ve read this far, let’s take this chance to share a peek into our off-screen lives. Tell me, if you looked up from your phone right now, what would you see? #mindfulmondays#digitalminimalism
For Want Of A Nail...COMING SOON! “Marty's great. He has potential to be even better but, of what we get, there's this clear cheeky and funny guy. A very welcome change from how people with OCD are normally presented in media. I felt compelled by him and his struggles. And that just made me want to see them even more. I would have loved to see Marty really dive in with his internal conflicts.” [Reece. Film and Creative Industries tutor - The Feedbackers]
I couldn’t agree more! Going to therapy once a week to open up to my therapist helped me out of a dark place in my life. Being able to get things off my chest and knowing someone is listening is so healing. Besides just listening therapists can help guide you and give you direction.
I always thought of therapists as people who were cold and unapproachable. I grew up watching tv shows where they would sit quietly across the room just taking notes. Boy was I surprised because the few therapists I have had in the past few years have been AMAZING! They were welcoming, caring and encouraging! They listened without judgement yet gave helpful tools and advice.
I love therapy and look forward to seeing my therapist every week. I have truly been so blessed when it comes to my past therapists and I hold a special place in my heart for each one! If you have not found a therapist or don’t feel you have experienced what I have...I encourage you to look around. You can find local therapists in your area by going to @iocdf in which they share resources on their website!
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Written on a bad day, this is an ode (or anti-ode lol) to my OCD. I'm no poet but writing helps me at times and this is what came to me in the moment. The orange butterfly is me. May we all find the strength inherently within us to keep on keepin on. 💪
Chocolate orange brownies. I have been baking recently - in between a massive clean and de clutter. Granny OCD is visiting for half term and it’s so nice to have extra help with the kids. Obvs it’s also good to see her too! I’m feeling pretty rotten about my eating and weight - which I’m convinced is rapidly increasing - but I’m still acting in accordance with my goals and values. “In what way?!” I hear you cry! Well, eating regular meals feeds Theory B as well as my empty and growling belly. I’m not fat or greedy. I’m someone who worries that I am fat and greedy but who still needs to eat to function as a parent and to enjoy my life. I ate a brownie. It was very tasty but it has left me feeling worried. I’m worried about my self control, about getting fat, about what it means to not be able to resist my primal need to eat. OCD be like “If you eat the brownie it proves that you can’t control yourself and therefore you’re a risk to those around you” Theory B “nah mate it’s just a brownie”.
Living with mental illness can often making you feel awkward af. Social situations can make you feel uncomfortable, especially if you’re trying to hide what makes you “abnormal” in order to fit in. Embracing your awkwardness isn’t always easy, but when you’re finally able to it makes life so much freer. Just like vocalizing your mental illnesses, speaking out about feeling awkward and just rolling with it shows people that it’s ok to be their natural self and stop pretending. And honestly, doing so helps you find truer, more real friends that love you for who you are, regardless. ♥️
Hey friend 🖐🏼
Are you tired?
Do you feel like you’re always running behind?
Is there someone who often picks out where you’re falling short (and maybe not even in a bad way, they’re just trying to encourage you to do more because they believe you’re capable of more)? 😳
Yeah, I’ve been there. The hard and yucky part about mental illness is that it can cause you to lose parts of yourself if you’re not careful, and for a while there I lost a lot, especially my motivation and my creativity. I lost the motivation not only to start but to even try at all. I stopped writing, reading books, painting for fun. I don’t want to do that anymore. So now, I’m committing. All in. Jumping face-first into some things that might terrify me or challenge me. I’m writing my dreams down, I’m journaling every morning, and I’m just doing the “damn thing” to become the BEST version of myself. 💖
Because I have things I want to do. I have people I want to help. And none of that is going to happen if I keep letting my mental health get the better of me. I am strong. I am capable. I am determined. Let’s do this! #keepgoing #ibelieveinyouboo #starttodayjournal
When did you learn that you were supposed to get it right the first time? -
When did you learn that you weren’t allowed to make mistakes? -
Let’s talk about expectations and how they can set us up for disappointment and negative self-talk!! -
What do YOU think? Tell me in the comments. -
This picture was taken about 10 minutes after I was diagnosed with OCD, January 30th 2020.
I sent it to my sister with the caption “Lol just got out of therapy. Guess who has a muffin and OCD apparently?” I definitely wasn’t “lol”ing, though.
I was downright confused and in denial- “Ha! No! I have anxiety and depression! I have for over ten years!!! I was tested and prescribed medication for it! Besides, I don’t count things or have to have everything look straight or cleanly to the point of sterile or do everything repetitively *like I’ve seen in the movies*” Oh boy, and there was the kicker, folks.
Now, a couple weeks later, after more sessions with my psychotherapist, I’ve gained a bit more knowledge into this highly misunderstood “OCD” character. In terms of representation, it’s a total iceberg- what I saw and understood of it (from tv/films/books/etc) was a very very small fraction of how it can actually present itself in people. It’s absolutely no wonder now how I missed it in myself: because it was invisible, yet somehow still essentially controlled my entire life.
So my next steps?
Face that gnarly brat OCD head-on.
The thing that I was attempting to do with my anxiety was to “lower” it- lower my stress levels, lower the anxiety, lower what will accumulate into the perfect storm to create a period of depression.
But since my anxiety is actually a PART of my OCD cycle, I have to do the opposite: drive my anxiety right up for as long and as often as possible, and actually seek out opportunities to make myself hella uncomfortable. Thus, stopping the never-ending cycle of responding to my OCD.
Glad you think so, because you’re coming too!
And it’s for points! Weeeeee! #ocd#obsessivecompulsivedisorder#ocdawareness#realocd#pureocd#exposuretherapy#erp#anxiety#anxietyawareness#anxietyattack#panicattacks#mentalhealthcanada#mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealthmatters#mentalhealth#therapyworks