6 years ago I worked around the clock.
My kids were in school
We had full time nannies
By the worlds definition I was a huge success
I was MISERABLE ✨
Today I still struggle with this worldly pull to DO MORE!
Since publishing our book The 5 Hour School Week I’ve remained in career limbo.
Not sure what to do next.
I’ve been asked to coach, start a program, write another book, become a speaker.
Yes I want to do all that!
I want to do all the things!
I never want to miss all those moments I missed before.
I never want to be too busy to sit down and read to my littles.
Never again will a day pass that I regret the way I showed up as a mom and a wife, because I felt something else was more important.
I know who I am and I am learning my limits. ✨
I’m still needed.
They still want to cuddle and hang out.
I’m still a very present fixture in their lives.
We are having important discussions daily.
There’s no real schedule and it’s busy.
I mean it’s already really really busy!
And I realize It won’t always be like this.
I’m already noticing the change in my older 2. ❣️ For me
In this season
I’m reminding myself
It’s ok to pause
To not repeat history
To be incredibly intentional in everything I do! ✨
I had a friend once say “No for now, not no forever.” There is time
This is a marathon
I never thought there would be a book
Copies have been shipped all around the world and it’s on audible!! I guess I don’t know what I’m doing or what’s next, but I have a feeling it’s gonna be great 😉
Just me in my “grandma mode” as my husband likes to call it. Every day I carve out time in my day to enjoy a cup of something warm (and caffeinated). It’s my time to rest and recharge and it’s something I look forward to.
Before kids, I never took any time for myself. On my days off I would constantly be filling the time, or cleaning. I never napped or watched tv.. I actually never spent time home, I was always on the go. Man, I wish I would have!!! These days I have way less time to myself, so it’s moments like this that I treasure.
Do you take breaks or time outs for yourself throughout your day?
✨F O U N D A T I O N S✨ This morning I woke up with what I can only describe as a mental hangover. That feeling of dread, of defeat, over overwhelm so bad it cripples your ability to carry out basic tasks.
I could attribute this to the ruminating I’ve been doing on words given to me by someone I look up to, the words stinging me just enough to cause feelings of self-doubt, of unworthiness, of disappointment. When you thought you could trust someone only to be regarded otherwise.
I could also blame it on my need to do everything oh, so perfectly. To load up my schedule to show everyone how busy I am, how I can juggle multiple projects and wear multiple hats at one time. Because “if I don’t do it, it won’t get done right”. Then the kick in the gut that oh, maybe I can’t do it right. That I’m not good enough.
So I as rolled out of bed, headache creeping in through my right eye, I walked into my living room in the dark and just sat. That’s it. Just sat. Sitting with my pain, my uncertainty, my frustrations. Letting it happen.
Since routines are such an integral part of my mental health, I then rolled out my mat, grabbed my cushion, rubbed some Balance on the bottoms of my feet to ground me and added some cypress in my diffuser to help move through it all. Through a guided meditation and a few slow sun salutations, I started my day slowly…intentionally. It’s all I can do. I’m a work in progress and these rituals of pause and slowing down help create foundations from which I move. Do you also feel the need to always be doing? Always be producing? Always be the best?
Where can you find ways to slow down throughout your day? #slow#pause#mentalhealth#mentalhangover#foundations#nonnegotiable#slowmornings#practice#meditation#rolloutyourmat#tichnhathanh#mindfullness#notperfect#perfectionist#yogaeveryday#dailyroutines#mornings#morningroutines#morningrituals#oils#essentialoils#essentialoilswork
#reflect 🌵 sometimes we need to stop and check in on where we are going in order to get to the right #destination
I woke up with a terrible cold today and for those of you that know, I have put a bit of a #pause on #coaching in order to focus on my MBA program 🤓
Being sick is a reminder that I need to #rest and #reflect sometimes before moving forward
Pausing is okay!
I have felt #guilty for wanting a break, for feeling #tired , and for saying no!
But today, I am telling you, that sometimes you have to stop! Get back to the #present moment and start with some #selfreflection 🌾
Who is with me?
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A glimpse of far away galaxies perhaps?? ...available at your nearest seashore!
Just pause→Look down at your feet→Get down on your knees→Take a deepbreath→And surrender to your imagination!
Breathing in deep, and treasuring every.single.second. ✨
In the blink of an eye, he won’t delight in raspberries on his finger. He won’t run to the window at the sound of a bird. He won’t snuggle his head on my shoulder as I lift him asleep from the car. There will new markers, new treasured moments, new captivations. But it won’t ever be the same, as this. ✨
I morgen har samboeren bursdag, og for første gang har jeg ikke fått fikset så mye som en pakke sokker til han engang 🙄😶😑 Tiden altså, den flyr altfor fort om dagen...Jeg trenger en pause knapp!💛 Hva gjør du for å pause hverdagen? Noen gode triks?
M I S T A K E S 💫
We often give ourselves a hard time for things that we’ve done that we consider to be mistakes and have caused worry and concern - they might be the source of much anxiety, even regret. We are only human and mistakes are inevitable.
An unhelpful way of thinking about past mistakes is when we beat ourselves up, shame ourselves and we are highly self-critical. Ruminating on past mistakes or things that we wish had been different takes our attention and energy away from the present moment and can interfere with how we want to be living our lives, aligned with our values.
It's ok to think about past mistakes in a helpful way. Sometimes it's important to reflect on what we could have done differently from a learning perspective; speaking kindly to ourselves at the same time.
For a moment, right now - can you think of a mistake you might have made that you are now glad about and brought you closer to this moment in time? Or something that you can now see- with a self-kindness head on- that you tried your best, it just didn't work out the way you wanted, and although you may still regret it, you're only human?
For many, this exercise takes a lot of practice and can be really hard to do. But revisiting the same past event in our minds without anything changing or new conclusions drawn can be unhelpful. As Dr Russ Harris paraphrased Mark Twain in his YouTube video 'Introducing Fusion - Evolution of the Human Mind': "I've lived through thousands of frightening experiences in my life, and only one or two of them actually happened".
Mindfulness techniques help us to stay grounded in the present by allowing us to be focussed on the here and now, but should not be used as a distraction away from the past. Mindfulness can help us to notice where our minds are focused and then we can acknowledge this but make a choice whether to stay there or do something more helpful.