Starting out on this work, I learned so many things; which probably I would have missed out in life in other cases. This is going to be a message to every girl or guy who aims to get into this business or as a matter of fact anybody!
1. People will judge you no matter what! (You are so thin/fat, you have pointed nose, your nails are too long wgrah wgrah). 2. If there are people who will point out flaws in you, there will be people who will love you for these flaws too.
3. You need to trust yourself and have self-confidence. (I used to freak out posing even with people at busy streets, wondering what others will think. While now, I am confident enough to pose on a crowded street too.) 4. You need to accept your body the way it is, else there will be people objectifying you, and demoralising you.
5. Networking is important. Know the people who follow you, know the people who belong to this industry, know their stories, interact to the level you are comfortable.
6. Gratitude is a must! Do not ever leave your roots. Know where you come from. Understand who has helped you. Understand the people who follow you accepted you in every condition.
7. Respect every person's work; be it a fellow creator, photographer, editor or your follower.
8. Be yourself! (I hope this does not need any explanation.) Photography- @oyebhoi
I loved modeling.
I loved meeting the people and other talented creatives, loved getting to wear cool things and feel needed. But unfortunately, my anorexia loved it, too.
I would see the photos of me after edits and I would notice parts of me that...were not me. My body would have been liquified, which caused my brain to ask “why? Obviously I should be looking like how they have me in this photo so let’s cut out more calories?”
Flash forward to my 13th round of treatment and I’ve gained back weight. I have hips and thighs, my ribs cannot be counted anymore and my cheekbones aren’t as harsh. While it’s incredible to have myself back, photographers no longer wanted to use me any longer because of the weight gain.
Which is the exact reason that when I photograph a model, I refuse to edit their body in any way that is NOT them. Do not ask me to make you slimmer, or change how your nose looks. You were made the way you were for a reason, and that reason is beautiful. I know what it’s like to beg to fit into a mold, and it destroyed me.
I’m here to show others just how perfect they are without the photoshop tools.
I myself stepped back in front of the camera after a bit of encouragement. It feels good to be in a body that is appreciated for as it is, healthy and strong and just as it should be.