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  • 753 41 8 July, 2019
  • A Frolo’s Story:
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My story of single motherhood is a little unique, I think. Following the birth of my daughter, I was left disabled. I then became a single mum when she was 18 months old. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For a while we went through a huge adjustment period. I was adjusting to my new disability, losing the majority of my mobility and consequently getting a myriad more diagnoses at the same time as adjusting to single parenting and all the challenges that brings. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
My daughter is now five. We’ve been through a house move, a custody case, multiple family bereavements and a serious health complication which led me to needing to use a feeding tube for six months. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Every night for six months, I attached myself to tubes to have this medicine for 10 hours over night. Night feeds, nappy changes, etc - I had to do while attached to tubes and using crutches. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Sometimes I look back and can’t believe how tough the first few years of single motherhood were for both of us. But I know it’s all of those experiences are why we are now so close. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
At almost six, she’s now at an age where she recognises how much I push myself to be the best mother I possibly can for her and she can show her appreciation which is lovely and can make all the difference on those tough days. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If I had to sum up single parenting for me, I’d say it’s the hardest but most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. I feel so lucky to be her mum.
#singleparent #singleparents #singlemum #singledad #mentalhealth #frolo #coparenting #soloparenting #community #puttingthekidsfirst #frololife #singleparentlife #mymotherhood #parenthood #singleparenting #singlemums #singlemumlife #singleparentproblems #singledads #singledadlife #singlemumlife #singleparentsupport #frololife
  • A Frolo’s Story:
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    My story of single motherhood is a little unique, I think. Following the birth of my daughter, I was left disabled. I then became a single mum when she was 18 months old. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    For a while we went through a huge adjustment period. I was adjusting to my new disability, losing the majority of my mobility and consequently getting a myriad more diagnoses at the same time as adjusting to single parenting and all the challenges that brings. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    My daughter is now five. We’ve been through a house move, a custody case, multiple family bereavements and a serious health complication which led me to needing to use a feeding tube for six months. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Every night for six months, I attached myself to tubes to have this medicine for 10 hours over night. Night feeds, nappy changes, etc - I had to do while attached to tubes and using crutches. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Sometimes I look back and can’t believe how tough the first few years of single motherhood were for both of us. But I know it’s all of those experiences are why we are now so close. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    At almost six, she’s now at an age where she recognises how much I push myself to be the best mother I possibly can for her and she can show her appreciation which is lovely and can make all the difference on those tough days. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    If I had to sum up single parenting for me, I’d say it’s the hardest but most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. I feel so lucky to be her mum.
    #singleparent #singleparents #singlemum #singledad #mentalhealth #frolo #coparenting #soloparenting #community #puttingthekidsfirst #frololife #singleparentlife #mymotherhood #parenthood #singleparenting #singlemums #singlemumlife #singleparentproblems #singledads #singledadlife #singlemumlife #singleparentsupport #frololife
  • 157 27 17 hours ago
  • Apparently it’s National Single Parent Day today 🎉

That’s been my life for the last 3 and a half years, and so far it’s been the most rewarding, tiring, challenging, and at times most lonely  period of my life. 
My situation is quite unique. Because Jude and Tommy need 1-1 care and cant be around each other, I have Jude for half of the week, and Tommy for the other, swapping with their mum every day or two.

I can feel quite sad at times knowing they struggle so much together, but it also means I get to see at least one of them every single day, and they are both happy and have their needs met. Not everyone is that lucky. 
Autism and the challenges both boys have means life can be isolating at times. I find myself looking forward to school meetings and professional appointments as it means I actually get to talk to other adults 😂

But I’m one of the lucky ones. I have support from my parents, I get the odd night off (becoming rarer and rarer these days) and I also have a good relationship with their mum. 
With both boys being non-verbal we have to speak each and every day, and always put the boys needs above anything else.

I’m also lucky that I have all of you on here to support me and the boys every step of the way, and I really do feel the virtual love and appreciate it.

So tonight I’m taking the chance to congratulate and celebrate all of you fellow single parents out there doing an amazing job. 
Whether you’re completely alone with little help, or have the support of your ex, friends and family. I know you do everything you can for the sake of your kids.

And for all of you single parents out there who have children with special needs, I’m sending an extra virtual hug your way. I know how exhausting it can be fighting so hard all the time to make life better for your child. 
Take a moment tonight to recognise what a good job you’re doing. Pour yourself a glass, watch that box set, you deserve it ❤️
  • Apparently it’s National Single Parent Day today 🎉

    That’s been my life for the last 3 and a half years, and so far it’s been the most rewarding, tiring, challenging, and at times most lonely period of my life.
    My situation is quite unique. Because Jude and Tommy need 1-1 care and cant be around each other, I have Jude for half of the week, and Tommy for the other, swapping with their mum every day or two.

    I can feel quite sad at times knowing they struggle so much together, but it also means I get to see at least one of them every single day, and they are both happy and have their needs met. Not everyone is that lucky.
    Autism and the challenges both boys have means life can be isolating at times. I find myself looking forward to school meetings and professional appointments as it means I actually get to talk to other adults 😂

    But I’m one of the lucky ones. I have support from my parents, I get the odd night off (becoming rarer and rarer these days) and I also have a good relationship with their mum.
    With both boys being non-verbal we have to speak each and every day, and always put the boys needs above anything else.

    I’m also lucky that I have all of you on here to support me and the boys every step of the way, and I really do feel the virtual love and appreciate it.

    So tonight I’m taking the chance to congratulate and celebrate all of you fellow single parents out there doing an amazing job.
    Whether you’re completely alone with little help, or have the support of your ex, friends and family. I know you do everything you can for the sake of your kids.

    And for all of you single parents out there who have children with special needs, I’m sending an extra virtual hug your way. I know how exhausting it can be fighting so hard all the time to make life better for your child.
    Take a moment tonight to recognise what a good job you’re doing. Pour yourself a glass, watch that box set, you deserve it ❤️
  • 1,192 133 21 March, 2019
  • A quick feed before entering The Great Hall to Graduate with my PhD. My daughter was only 2 months old here. The plan was to feed her, pop her in a stretchy wrap carrier worn by my sister who would bounce her to sleep and then hopefully stay asleep (I.e quiet) throughout the graduation ceremony. Guess what? It worked 😄🙌🏼 ⠀⠀
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Having my baby girl there alongside my Mum and sister, walking across the same stage we spoke on at Dad’s funeral, accepting my degree in memory of him and for the future of Us - one of the most sacred, proud, special moments of my life for sure. Also feeding her successfully while wearing this gown and with her tongue tie - just as much of an achievement as the PhD yes!? 😋
  • A quick feed before entering The Great Hall to Graduate with my PhD. My daughter was only 2 months old here. The plan was to feed her, pop her in a stretchy wrap carrier worn by my sister who would bounce her to sleep and then hopefully stay asleep (I.e quiet) throughout the graduation ceremony. Guess what? It worked 😄🙌🏼 ⠀⠀
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    Having my baby girl there alongside my Mum and sister, walking across the same stage we spoke on at Dad’s funeral, accepting my degree in memory of him and for the future of Us - one of the most sacred, proud, special moments of my life for sure. Also feeding her successfully while wearing this gown and with her tongue tie - just as much of an achievement as the PhD yes!? 😋
  • 538 56 29 April, 2019
  • If you’d have told me this time last year that I would be completely over my marriage I would have laughed. I believed wholeheartedly that my marriage was the end game and it ending really was the end of me and love. But as he’s moving on in big ways I’ve started to see how little he means to me at all. I’m even struggling to believe it was love at all. 
The shit head swooped in at the right time in my life, I was with a boy who to put it politely had no get up and go, he just sort of bumbled through life with no idea what was happening tomorrow let alone thinking about a future. Then comes along the shit head promising commitment, marriage, babies and obviously at 23 my ovaries grew two sizes bigger, my womb exploded all over him and I was his for the taking. Now I’m not saying that what we had wasn’t good, what I’m saying is the idea of us was amazing but the reality was we just weren’t right for each other (especially after I lost weight and he happened to prefer a larger lady 🤷‍♀️). What I’m saying is that I’m at peace with the whole sorry mess. Don’t get me wrong it hasn’t been an easy place to get to and I’ve taken my time getting here but I’m done and it feels pretty good on the other side
#whoneedsahusbandanyway #separated #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #better #deservebetter #gotbetter #happy #singlemum #singlemums #singlemumsclub #singlemumlife #singlemumsrock #soloparenting #coparenting #mademestronger #strongsinglemum #strongwomen #strongmum #stronggirl #wevegotthis #happier #happy
  • If you’d have told me this time last year that I would be completely over my marriage I would have laughed. I believed wholeheartedly that my marriage was the end game and it ending really was the end of me and love. But as he’s moving on in big ways I’ve started to see how little he means to me at all. I’m even struggling to believe it was love at all.
    The shit head swooped in at the right time in my life, I was with a boy who to put it politely had no get up and go, he just sort of bumbled through life with no idea what was happening tomorrow let alone thinking about a future. Then comes along the shit head promising commitment, marriage, babies and obviously at 23 my ovaries grew two sizes bigger, my womb exploded all over him and I was his for the taking. Now I’m not saying that what we had wasn’t good, what I’m saying is the idea of us was amazing but the reality was we just weren’t right for each other (especially after I lost weight and he happened to prefer a larger lady 🤷‍♀️). What I’m saying is that I’m at peace with the whole sorry mess. Don’t get me wrong it hasn’t been an easy place to get to and I’ve taken my time getting here but I’m done and it feels pretty good on the other side
    #whoneedsahusbandanyway #separated #divorce #divorced #divorcedlife #better #deservebetter #gotbetter #happy #singlemum #singlemums #singlemumsclub #singlemumlife #singlemumsrock #soloparenting #coparenting #mademestronger #strongsinglemum #strongwomen #strongmum #stronggirl #wevegotthis #happier #happy
  • 606 56 8 July, 2019

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  • Dear body, I’m sorry for everything I put you through 😞
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I’m sorry for starving you and then binging on cookies and wine 🖤
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I’m sorry for hating you and only ever seeing flaws instead of beauty 🖤
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I’m sorry for the cruel things I said to you and about you... I’m sorry 🖤
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Dear body, I promise to appreciate everything you allow me to do and to be 💖
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I promise to nourish you with the best foods to fuel you and keep you healthy 💖
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I promise to let you rest, recover and continue to amaze me with what you are capable of 💖
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I promise to love you and treat you how you deserve to be treated... I promise 💖
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Which of these statements would you say to yourself? Are you at the "I'm sorry" stage or the "I promise" stage? ✨
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For the longest time I hated my body. I'd look in the mirror, put myself down and wish it could change. The thing is, if you don't switch your mindset to self love mode, it doesn't matter how much you physically change your body... You will never appreciate and love it 💔
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From my own years of struggle and lack of self confidence, I've developed a system that boosts self esteem and helps women love themselves the way they're supposed to 😍
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If you’re ready to fall in love with your body again, DM me with “I’M READY”
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P.s. I still occasionally binge on cookies and wine, because... Cookies and wine?! 🍪🍷 but I've learned to have balance and I no longer hate myself after 💁🏽‍♀️
  • Dear body, I’m sorry for everything I put you through 😞
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    I’m sorry for starving you and then binging on cookies and wine 🖤
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    I’m sorry for hating you and only ever seeing flaws instead of beauty 🖤
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    I’m sorry for the cruel things I said to you and about you... I’m sorry 🖤
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    Dear body, I promise to appreciate everything you allow me to do and to be 💖
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    I promise to nourish you with the best foods to fuel you and keep you healthy 💖
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    I promise to let you rest, recover and continue to amaze me with what you are capable of 💖
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    I promise to love you and treat you how you deserve to be treated... I promise 💖
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    Which of these statements would you say to yourself? Are you at the "I'm sorry" stage or the "I promise" stage? ✨
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    For the longest time I hated my body. I'd look in the mirror, put myself down and wish it could change. The thing is, if you don't switch your mindset to self love mode, it doesn't matter how much you physically change your body... You will never appreciate and love it 💔
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    From my own years of struggle and lack of self confidence, I've developed a system that boosts self esteem and helps women love themselves the way they're supposed to 😍
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    If you’re ready to fall in love with your body again, DM me with “I’M READY”
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    P.s. I still occasionally binge on cookies and wine, because... Cookies and wine?! 🍪🍷 but I've learned to have balance and I no longer hate myself after 💁🏽‍♀️
  • 8 3 21 minutes ago
  • Legit a mermaid in my past life🐚 my favourite part of my day is putting the kids in the pram and going on a big walk by the beach, the second I see the water and smell the salty air, it clears my head and changes my entire mood. If I’m ever missing this is where you will find me💦🧜🏻‍♀️🌾💕
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Also shout out to @jemma_lawrence for taking this cute little candid pic on our walk today, you da real MVP😏💃🏼
  • Legit a mermaid in my past life🐚 my favourite part of my day is putting the kids in the pram and going on a big walk by the beach, the second I see the water and smell the salty air, it clears my head and changes my entire mood. If I’m ever missing this is where you will find me💦🧜🏻‍♀️🌾💕


    Also shout out to @jemma_lawrence for taking this cute little candid pic on our walk today, you da real MVP😏💃🏼
  • 32 11 5 hours ago
  • How gorgeous am I? This pic was taken recently by my daughter. What did she say to get me to pull this face? .
Well something along the lines of "Think about farts & poos. You know, when you used to change our nappies as babies." .
Oh the memories. .
But I have to say - I do have a weird side and it's not often I choose to put it out there to the world. I am seen as an extrovert but what most people don't realise it that even though I seem to be really outgoing, there's a LOT going on inside and it's often really difficult to put myself in social situations. .
This is the inside face I'm pulling. haha I am sooooooo a limited addition!
  • How gorgeous am I? This pic was taken recently by my daughter. What did she say to get me to pull this face? .
    Well something along the lines of "Think about farts & poos. You know, when you used to change our nappies as babies." .
    Oh the memories. .
    But I have to say - I do have a weird side and it's not often I choose to put it out there to the world. I am seen as an extrovert but what most people don't realise it that even though I seem to be really outgoing, there's a LOT going on inside and it's often really difficult to put myself in social situations. .
    This is the inside face I'm pulling. haha I am sooooooo a limited addition!
  • 2 1 5 hours ago
  • Hey what up😃 Rach Williams here!🤗. I have some new faces here so I thought I’d take a quick moment to reintroduce myself. 
I’m a single mum of 3 boys (or I should really say young men) & I’m well on my way in working towards living my dream life. Ya know.... not being stuck working and building someone else’s dream just to keep my lights on.🤨 Sound familiar?🤔 I’m an extremely independent tattooed chick that really enjoys single life. I mention my tattoos because they play a big part in who I am. I’m different & I’ve come to learn that’s an awesome thing.👊 CEO of my own online business and brand where I help busy women build an income from home while finding their passion and purpose. And most importantly not having to sacrifice spending time with their family. 💻📱⌚️ Fun facts about me... I grew up racing dirt bikes & riding horses and now I’m a makeup junkie to the nines💄. 😂Playing with makeup is a creative outlet for me and I love it. 💜
I didn’t even finish year 10 at high school and made my living as a cleaner for many years before finding and branching out into the online space where I now work and run my business full time from home or often from the side of the soccer field / in the car. 😂 🤣

My fav quote of the moment is: “Be a breathe taking mosaic of the battles you’ve won” 😘😘😘 #singlemumandceo #rachwilliams
  • Hey what up😃 Rach Williams here!🤗. I have some new faces here so I thought I’d take a quick moment to reintroduce myself.
    I’m a single mum of 3 boys (or I should really say young men) & I’m well on my way in working towards living my dream life. Ya know.... not being stuck working and building someone else’s dream just to keep my lights on.🤨 Sound familiar?🤔 I’m an extremely independent tattooed chick that really enjoys single life. I mention my tattoos because they play a big part in who I am. I’m different & I’ve come to learn that’s an awesome thing.👊 CEO of my own online business and brand where I help busy women build an income from home while finding their passion and purpose. And most importantly not having to sacrifice spending time with their family. 💻📱⌚️ Fun facts about me... I grew up racing dirt bikes & riding horses and now I’m a makeup junkie to the nines💄. 😂Playing with makeup is a creative outlet for me and I love it. 💜
    I didn’t even finish year 10 at high school and made my living as a cleaner for many years before finding and branching out into the online space where I now work and run my business full time from home or often from the side of the soccer field / in the car. 😂 🤣

    My fav quote of the moment is: “Be a breathe taking mosaic of the battles you’ve won” 😘😘😘 #singlemumandceo #rachwilliams
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“What if no one likes me?”
“What if they’re all prettier than me?”
“I’m NEVER going to get better”
“I’m so stupid”
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Sound like something a child would say? Uh huh. Everyone has an inner child. And anxiety is your inner child talking. Not adult, logical you but fragile, scared and unsettled younger you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Chances are what’s underlying the anxiety stems from childhood. Either trauma, the parenting you received (or didn’t receive) or some environmental trigger.
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Whatever it was it was obviously so intense that despite you now having become an adult and grown in years, part of you (your inner child) remains stuck back there. In other words, the anxious part of you today is just that frightened little kid trying to get your attention.
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Allow me to give you some hope...
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Anxiety responds EXTREMELY well to therapeutic treatment. A well trained therapist can help you heal that inner child to the point where you ABSOLUTELY can recover from living with anxiety.
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If you struggle with anxiety, it would be my pleasure to help you through it. My services are available Australia wide 🇦🇺 so don’t suffer in silence. 💗
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    “What if no one likes me?”
    “What if they’re all prettier than me?”
    “I’m NEVER going to get better”
    “I’m so stupid”
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    Sound like something a child would say? Uh huh. Everyone has an inner child. And anxiety is your inner child talking. Not adult, logical you but fragile, scared and unsettled younger you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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    Chances are what’s underlying the anxiety stems from childhood. Either trauma, the parenting you received (or didn’t receive) or some environmental trigger.
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    Whatever it was it was obviously so intense that despite you now having become an adult and grown in years, part of you (your inner child) remains stuck back there. In other words, the anxious part of you today is just that frightened little kid trying to get your attention.
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    Allow me to give you some hope...
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    Anxiety responds EXTREMELY well to therapeutic treatment. A well trained therapist can help you heal that inner child to the point where you ABSOLUTELY can recover from living with anxiety.
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    If you struggle with anxiety, it would be my pleasure to help you through it. My services are available Australia wide 🇦🇺 so don’t suffer in silence. 💗
  • 23 4 7 hours ago
  • Took the kids out for tea, had a lovely chat with my very grown up little girl 🥰

#3goingon13 
#singlemumlife
  • Took the kids out for tea, had a lovely chat with my very grown up little girl 🥰

    #3goingon13
    #singlemumlife
  • 20 3 11 hours ago
  • 🌍On his very last day in primary school...here is my boy with his wonderful headteacher.  Such a incredibly kind man, who I really believe cares so much about each individual child.  He even brings his dog Patch to school everyday, which is so lovely! I would have loved to have a school dog when I was little! Joshua’s feeling a little sad this evening, and can’t quite believe he will be in a big big school in just a few short weeks.  Leaving the school for the last time today felt pretty weird for me too.  It’s quite sad to think of how quickly time goes by, it doesn’t seem long ago that I was packing him off in his tiny school uniform for his first day.  Sending out all my love to all the children going through big changes this year! It’s scary but there is a big world out there! 🌏
  • 🌍On his very last day in primary school...here is my boy with his wonderful headteacher. Such a incredibly kind man, who I really believe cares so much about each individual child. He even brings his dog Patch to school everyday, which is so lovely! I would have loved to have a school dog when I was little! Joshua’s feeling a little sad this evening, and can’t quite believe he will be in a big big school in just a few short weeks. Leaving the school for the last time today felt pretty weird for me too. It’s quite sad to think of how quickly time goes by, it doesn’t seem long ago that I was packing him off in his tiny school uniform for his first day. Sending out all my love to all the children going through big changes this year! It’s scary but there is a big world out there! 🌏
  • 394 59 14 hours ago
  • I have cried I am so proud of you my little boy you are the kindest most beautiful little person I have even met I love you I'm so excited for this summer holiday 🏖🛩🛳
  • I have cried I am so proud of you my little boy you are the kindest most beautiful little person I have even met I love you I'm so excited for this summer holiday 🏖🛩🛳
  • 17 9 15 hours ago
  • Being on my own was never part of my big life plan. Divorced, single and an independent mum of two girls. Not really what I was aiming for in life. Well, I didnt think it was.

So many mums I speak to and work with have highlighted the same struggle.

Around eighteen months ago I knew I had to make a decision that would change the trajectory of my life but do you know what kept me from doing it? The fact I didnt want to be on my own. I stayed in a situ I wasnt happy in because fear of being on my own was winning.

When I finally had the balls to make the decision to leave my marriage, I threw myself into life as an independent mum and gave myself no option but to swim. The early days were hard!

The fear of being on my own kept me up at night, I hated it to begin with but d'you know what? I absolutely love my own company now. I knew I had to do the work to get comfortable being on my own before I could ever welcome a significant other into my life. All the work about healing past wounds, smashing through limiting beliefs and a lot of work around self worth, acceptance and finding my new identity.

It was tough and I learned soooo much. I ate, slept and breathed mindset work and it led me to launch my business and find happiness. It took time but now I coach this in a fraction of the time...so you dont have to take the scenic route like I did.

If you're in a similar situation, take the steps and do the work to learn to be okay on your own. Don't fill that void with someone else, mindless sex or excessive partying. It will just cover it up only for it to reveal itself further down the line a hell of a lot worse.

Do the deep work on you now so that you build an incredibly strong foundation for designing your happiest life going forward.

If I can do it, you can do it too.

Ps - academy relaunches on the 28th. Just saying 😉
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  • Being on my own was never part of my big life plan. Divorced, single and an independent mum of two girls. Not really what I was aiming for in life. Well, I didnt think it was.

    So many mums I speak to and work with have highlighted the same struggle.

    Around eighteen months ago I knew I had to make a decision that would change the trajectory of my life but do you know what kept me from doing it? The fact I didnt want to be on my own. I stayed in a situ I wasnt happy in because fear of being on my own was winning.

    When I finally had the balls to make the decision to leave my marriage, I threw myself into life as an independent mum and gave myself no option but to swim. The early days were hard!

    The fear of being on my own kept me up at night, I hated it to begin with but d'you know what? I absolutely love my own company now. I knew I had to do the work to get comfortable being on my own before I could ever welcome a significant other into my life. All the work about healing past wounds, smashing through limiting beliefs and a lot of work around self worth, acceptance and finding my new identity.

    It was tough and I learned soooo much. I ate, slept and breathed mindset work and it led me to launch my business and find happiness. It took time but now I coach this in a fraction of the time...so you dont have to take the scenic route like I did.

    If you're in a similar situation, take the steps and do the work to learn to be okay on your own. Don't fill that void with someone else, mindless sex or excessive partying. It will just cover it up only for it to reveal itself further down the line a hell of a lot worse.

    Do the deep work on you now so that you build an incredibly strong foundation for designing your happiest life going forward.

    If I can do it, you can do it too.

    Ps - academy relaunches on the 28th. Just saying 😉






    #life #love #inspire #inspiration #empowermentcoach #uplevel #selflove #manifest #abundance #lifestyle #LiveYourBestLife #adventuremom #mindset #strength #determination #perspective #happiness #motivation #dream #instaquote #freedom #believe #transformation #singlemumlife #singlemum #independentmum #selfcare
  • 8 2 15 hours ago
  • A Frolo’s Story:
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My story of single motherhood is a little unique, I think. Following the birth of my daughter, I was left disabled. I then became a single mum when she was 18 months old. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
For a while we went through a huge adjustment period. I was adjusting to my new disability, losing the majority of my mobility and consequently getting a myriad more diagnoses at the same time as adjusting to single parenting and all the challenges that brings. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
My daughter is now five. We’ve been through a house move, a custody case, multiple family bereavements and a serious health complication which led me to needing to use a feeding tube for six months. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Every night for six months, I attached myself to tubes to have this medicine for 10 hours over night. Night feeds, nappy changes, etc - I had to do while attached to tubes and using crutches. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Sometimes I look back and can’t believe how tough the first few years of single motherhood were for both of us. But I know it’s all of those experiences are why we are now so close. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
At almost six, she’s now at an age where she recognises how much I push myself to be the best mother I possibly can for her and she can show her appreciation which is lovely and can make all the difference on those tough days. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If I had to sum up single parenting for me, I’d say it’s the hardest but most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. I feel so lucky to be her mum.
#singleparent #singleparents #singlemum #singledad #mentalhealth #frolo #coparenting #soloparenting #community #puttingthekidsfirst #frololife #singleparentlife #mymotherhood #parenthood #singleparenting #singlemums #singlemumlife #singleparentproblems #singledads #singledadlife #singlemumlife #singleparentsupport #frololife
  • A Frolo’s Story:
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    My story of single motherhood is a little unique, I think. Following the birth of my daughter, I was left disabled. I then became a single mum when she was 18 months old. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    For a while we went through a huge adjustment period. I was adjusting to my new disability, losing the majority of my mobility and consequently getting a myriad more diagnoses at the same time as adjusting to single parenting and all the challenges that brings. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    My daughter is now five. We’ve been through a house move, a custody case, multiple family bereavements and a serious health complication which led me to needing to use a feeding tube for six months. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Every night for six months, I attached myself to tubes to have this medicine for 10 hours over night. Night feeds, nappy changes, etc - I had to do while attached to tubes and using crutches. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    Sometimes I look back and can’t believe how tough the first few years of single motherhood were for both of us. But I know it’s all of those experiences are why we are now so close. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    At almost six, she’s now at an age where she recognises how much I push myself to be the best mother I possibly can for her and she can show her appreciation which is lovely and can make all the difference on those tough days. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
    If I had to sum up single parenting for me, I’d say it’s the hardest but most rewarding thing I’ve ever done. I feel so lucky to be her mum.
    #singleparent #singleparents #singlemum #singledad #mentalhealth #frolo #coparenting #soloparenting #community #puttingthekidsfirst #frololife #singleparentlife #mymotherhood #parenthood #singleparenting #singlemums #singlemumlife #singleparentproblems #singledads #singledadlife #singlemumlife #singleparentsupport #frololife
  • 157 27 17 hours ago
  • Tell me a joke, a funny story.... I haven't slept. There has been poo, wee and tears. And those bruises on my tits are indeed from being bitten by the hulk baby. Apparently its a necessary part of being 15 months old. #singlemumlife
  • Tell me a joke, a funny story.... I haven't slept. There has been poo, wee and tears. And those bruises on my tits are indeed from being bitten by the hulk baby. Apparently its a necessary part of being 15 months old. #singlemumlife
  • 3 0 20 hours ago
  • One day shy of 13 months old & Stevie decided to SHOCK me (and judging by these pics, she was shocked too) and finally sleep through the night 🙌 she has always been a two hourly waker and I honestly don't know how I've survived this long on no sleep. I woke up at 4am in a panic because she hadn't woken. I purchased the @glowdreaming sleep aid and last night was the second night using it. I don't know if it was a total coincidence or it is actually working - I guess only time will tell. All I know is I woke up feeling like a new woman and super excited to dress Stevie in this gorgeous dress from @cybershopau for her school photos today. Happy Friday y'all!!
  • One day shy of 13 months old & Stevie decided to SHOCK me (and judging by these pics, she was shocked too) and finally sleep through the night 🙌 she has always been a two hourly waker and I honestly don't know how I've survived this long on no sleep. I woke up at 4am in a panic because she hadn't woken. I purchased the @glowdreaming sleep aid and last night was the second night using it. I don't know if it was a total coincidence or it is actually working - I guess only time will tell. All I know is I woke up feeling like a new woman and super excited to dress Stevie in this gorgeous dress from @cybershopau for her school photos today. Happy Friday y'all!!
  • 48 6 20 hours ago
  • I don’t know if using an eating disorder as a coping mechanism ever goes away. Sure, there are days, months, years even, when anorexia doesn’t come calling and recovery seems like a job done. But, when it does come to your door, the urge to listen and do are strong. So, you step on the scales, you say no to a treat, you count or limit your calorie intake, you feel guilty about every meal, you shove your fingers down your throat. You just can’t help it. 
I’ve been having a bit of a wobble... round my belly and thighs as well as in my head. Some has definitely been exhaustion and lack of routine. Some has been worry about money and financial settlement (the current battleground of my divorce). And a huge part is lack of exercise. The result is that I have started to feel “blobby” (you know that feeling when you walk or dance and you stop but your tummy and thighs ripple on? That.). My clothes feel tighter round those parts and I feel guilty about every sweet treat that passes my lips yet I can’t stop myself eating them (double guilt!!)! I have been weighed a few times as part of health checks which definitely doesn’t help. I see a set of scales when I’m out and have to work hard not to step on. I hate my reflection and avoid looking. I compare myself to others and to photos of myself as a slimmer but miserable woman. And I berate myself for eating too much peanut butter daily and not doing anything about it. 
I’m aware it’s mostly an emotional blobbiness and my logic is patchy at best: I’ve had a LOT going on, my eating habits haven’t really changed, I’ve not run 5k but I’ve remained active, I ordered new clothes in my “old” size and they still fit. All this forms a rational explanation. Yet, no matter how often I tell myself this, I can feel my long lost pal, anorexia, tiptoeing nearby, whispering louder and louder by the day, and my anxiety about an imminent and unwelcome visit rising. I absolutely DO NOT WANT TO BE ANOREXIC EVER AGAIN. I can’t do it to myself. Or my kids. 
SWIPE FOR BLOBBY PIC: 👉🏼 (I couldn’t bear to lead with it. 🤮) Continued in the comments... 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
  • I don’t know if using an eating disorder as a coping mechanism ever goes away. Sure, there are days, months, years even, when anorexia doesn’t come calling and recovery seems like a job done. But, when it does come to your door, the urge to listen and do are strong. So, you step on the scales, you say no to a treat, you count or limit your calorie intake, you feel guilty about every meal, you shove your fingers down your throat. You just can’t help it.
    I’ve been having a bit of a wobble... round my belly and thighs as well as in my head. Some has definitely been exhaustion and lack of routine. Some has been worry about money and financial settlement (the current battleground of my divorce). And a huge part is lack of exercise. The result is that I have started to feel “blobby” (you know that feeling when you walk or dance and you stop but your tummy and thighs ripple on? That.). My clothes feel tighter round those parts and I feel guilty about every sweet treat that passes my lips yet I can’t stop myself eating them (double guilt!!)! I have been weighed a few times as part of health checks which definitely doesn’t help. I see a set of scales when I’m out and have to work hard not to step on. I hate my reflection and avoid looking. I compare myself to others and to photos of myself as a slimmer but miserable woman. And I berate myself for eating too much peanut butter daily and not doing anything about it.
    I’m aware it’s mostly an emotional blobbiness and my logic is patchy at best: I’ve had a LOT going on, my eating habits haven’t really changed, I’ve not run 5k but I’ve remained active, I ordered new clothes in my “old” size and they still fit. All this forms a rational explanation. Yet, no matter how often I tell myself this, I can feel my long lost pal, anorexia, tiptoeing nearby, whispering louder and louder by the day, and my anxiety about an imminent and unwelcome visit rising. I absolutely DO NOT WANT TO BE ANOREXIC EVER AGAIN. I can’t do it to myself. Or my kids.
    SWIPE FOR BLOBBY PIC: 👉🏼 (I couldn’t bear to lead with it. 🤮) Continued in the comments... 👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼👇🏼
  • 12 9 21 hours ago
  • Having  fun doesn’t need to be anything costly or complicated. Here are a ten ideas:
1. Have a tickle fight
2. Put some music on and have a dance. 🕺
3. Go on a picnic and have fun planning the menu 
4. Play passing an orange 🍊from under your chin to under the next person’s chin. You totally get the giggles with that game. 
5. Play hide and seek - in the house or park. 
6. Tell your children funny stories from when you were young 
7. Let them give you a silly hairstyle 💆‍♂️
8. Play charades (you have to act out a book📕, film 📽or tv programme 📺title and they guess)
9. Make pizza together 🍕- buy bases and everyone can design their own
10. Watch early series of Modern Family - they are SO funny. 😂
What are your favourite things to do? 
#haveagreatweekend
  • Having fun doesn’t need to be anything costly or complicated. Here are a ten ideas:
    1. Have a tickle fight
    2. Put some music on and have a dance. 🕺
    3. Go on a picnic and have fun planning the menu
    4. Play passing an orange 🍊from under your chin to under the next person’s chin. You totally get the giggles with that game.
    5. Play hide and seek - in the house or park.
    6. Tell your children funny stories from when you were young
    7. Let them give you a silly hairstyle 💆‍♂️
    8. Play charades (you have to act out a book📕, film 📽or tv programme 📺title and they guess)
    9. Make pizza together 🍕- buy bases and everyone can design their own
    10. Watch early series of Modern Family - they are SO funny. 😂
    What are your favourite things to do?
    #haveagreatweekend
  • 23 19 22 hours ago
  • I do love my time out Tuesdays! It makes me feel very lucky to be able to enjoy a bit of time to myself. And what a way to start the day!

I went shopping this afternoon and needed help form a sales assistant. I told her what I needed and the size etc and she came back with some suggestions. She completely ignored everything I said and brought in various items in the size I clearly said I didn’t want. In steps my ‘people pleaser’! I tried them all on 🙄, they didn’t fit, she tried to convince me they did.  I asked her once more to get the correct size. Reluctantly she did and they fit. As she left the changing room she commented ‘well if that’s what you want, you know best’ I felt hurt and upset. Why?! I was right! It turned out they didn’t have the items she was trying to sell me in my size and the style I wanted. I realised fast her agenda was completely different to mine. 
I kicked my ‘people pleaser’ into check and when she returned told her I didn’t want any of her original suggestions and would go with what I wanted in the size I wanted. She smiled gave me the items and left me to find the accessories myself. 
When I got home I was pleased, not only had I got what I wanted, I’d not let myself be talked into walking out of the shop with someone else’s decision about what was best for me. 
This is relevant in all aspects of life. It’s ok for people to have an opinion about what you do in your life, it’s ok for them to make suggestions. But at the end of the day it’s your life. Your free to make mistakes, your free to make decisions and your free to chose what you want. The people with no agenda will be there whatever you decide and whatever happens, no matter what ❤️ #itsnevertolate #bewhoyouwanttobe #peoplepleasing #lifecoach #behappy #shoppingdrama #timeouttueadays #itsyourlife #itsyourchoice #dowhatyoulove #dowhatyouwant #dontwastetime #singlemumlife
  • I do love my time out Tuesdays! It makes me feel very lucky to be able to enjoy a bit of time to myself. And what a way to start the day!

    I went shopping this afternoon and needed help form a sales assistant. I told her what I needed and the size etc and she came back with some suggestions. She completely ignored everything I said and brought in various items in the size I clearly said I didn’t want. In steps my ‘people pleaser’! I tried them all on 🙄, they didn’t fit, she tried to convince me they did. I asked her once more to get the correct size. Reluctantly she did and they fit. As she left the changing room she commented ‘well if that’s what you want, you know best’ I felt hurt and upset. Why?! I was right! It turned out they didn’t have the items she was trying to sell me in my size and the style I wanted. I realised fast her agenda was completely different to mine.
    I kicked my ‘people pleaser’ into check and when she returned told her I didn’t want any of her original suggestions and would go with what I wanted in the size I wanted. She smiled gave me the items and left me to find the accessories myself.
    When I got home I was pleased, not only had I got what I wanted, I’d not let myself be talked into walking out of the shop with someone else’s decision about what was best for me.
    This is relevant in all aspects of life. It’s ok for people to have an opinion about what you do in your life, it’s ok for them to make suggestions. But at the end of the day it’s your life. Your free to make mistakes, your free to make decisions and your free to chose what you want. The people with no agenda will be there whatever you decide and whatever happens, no matter what ❤️ #itsnevertolate #bewhoyouwanttobe #peoplepleasing #lifecoach #behappy #shoppingdrama #timeouttueadays #itsyourlife #itsyourchoice #dowhatyoulove #dowhatyouwant #dontwastetime #singlemumlife
  • 25 4 14 May, 2019
  • Taking time out for a lie in today. A well earned lie in with a brew and Lorraine! Reflecting on a busy but massively productive week! Coaching sessions completed, new referrals received and now time for a rest!

A last minute impromptu night out last night lead to new friends, plans for the future and fun connections. I was given two choices give in to the thoughts of, I’m tired, still in my work clothes, I need an early night or just go have a break and see what happens! I made the right choice. Sometimes not listening to yourself is a good idea. Go with the flow don’t be pulled along by your ‘usual’ routine. Try something new. You never know who you will meet or where it may lead!

#lifecoach #feelthefearanddoitanyway #routines #changeitup #friends #nightsout #mumsnightout #justdoit #havefun #timeforabreak #relax #singlemumlife
  • Taking time out for a lie in today. A well earned lie in with a brew and Lorraine! Reflecting on a busy but massively productive week! Coaching sessions completed, new referrals received and now time for a rest!

    A last minute impromptu night out last night lead to new friends, plans for the future and fun connections. I was given two choices give in to the thoughts of, I’m tired, still in my work clothes, I need an early night or just go have a break and see what happens! I made the right choice. Sometimes not listening to yourself is a good idea. Go with the flow don’t be pulled along by your ‘usual’ routine. Try something new. You never know who you will meet or where it may lead!

    #lifecoach #feelthefearanddoitanyway #routines #changeitup #friends #nightsout #mumsnightout #justdoit #havefun #timeforabreak #relax #singlemumlife
  • 17 3 3 May, 2019