NEI, vi skal ikke alltid snakke om det. Et innlegg om hvorfor det ikke alltid hjelper å snakke om det vanskelige, en klargjøring i debatten rundt åpenhet og forhåpentligvis en forklaring til alle de som får det verre av å prate om det.
Tilbake i de herrens dagers da jeg gikk på vdg slutta jeg rett og slett å sove på natta (ufrivillig). Dette endte med en tur til helsesøster og hs mente jeg var stressa på grunn av skolen og at vi skulle prate om det. Og vi prata og prata og jeg fikk det dårligere og dårligere. Tankene ble mørkere, klumpen i magen ble større og jeg satt der, overtrøtt og stressa mens jeg lurte på hva slags håpløs case jeg var som ikke fikk det bedre av å prate om det.
Saken er den, at man ikke alltid skal snakke om det. Noen ganger skal man snakke om hva som skjer i en, når man snakker om det.
Det som vi gjerne vil at skal skje når vi snakker om ting, er at følelsene våre skal passere samtidig. Den helsesøstertimen skulle altså sett sånn her ut: Vi snakka om stress, jeg begynte å grine fordi jeg var lei meg over det, jeg skulle føle meg letta og vips ville det hjulpet å snakke om det.
Det skjer imidlertid ikke alltid. Noen ganger gjør blir følelsene vi har blokkert. Det kan være at man i stedet for å føle, blir anspent, kvalm, ukonsentrert, begynner å tenke mye, begynner å tenke negativt, eller helt andre ting (det er faktisk såpass mange ulike ting som kan skje her at jeg snart har skrevet en hel bok om det).
Det som skjer da, er at når man snakker om det så får man mer anspenthet, mer kvalme, mer negative tanker osv i stedet for å få det bedre. Det er litt som når du trekker med deg en sånn handlevogn som kjører til høyre hele tiden. Alle ber deg om å kjøre rett frem, men du ender alltid med tuten først inn i frysedisken.
I sånne situasjoner må vi prate om hva som skjer i oss når vi prater om det. Samtalen med hs skulle altså handlet om hvordan jeg ble anspent og selvkritisk hver gang jeg pratet om meg selv og hvorfor det hadde blitt sånn dette halvåret.
Med andre ord synes jeg vi skal ta oss ta en prat. Om at det ikke alltid er like lett å prate om det.
1,3723720 January, 2020
How’s this for a Monday face?! 😃
(full disclosure: we have the day off 😉) Hope you all have a great start to the week 🙌🏼
Twilight velvet scarf by @wixomswhimsies (save $ with code: WWNORTHERN)
El Capitan, which is Spanish for ‘The Capitan’, is a major landmark in the Yosemite valley and an important migratory nesting habitat for @alexhonnold.
1,6853520 January, 2020
Got to witness a mesmerizing sunrise today as the mountains peaked out behind the clouds back and forth for a couple of hours. It felt good to get a photo I was happy with since last year wasn’t the most productive in terms of getting out and shooting. With some new work responsibilities this year, I’ll be getting out and taking photos a lot more and in more areas other than just landscapes. Looking forward to trying to grow as a photographer and seeing some beautiful sunrises along the way like this morning.
Adirondacks, NY ( (1/18/20) - Your fingers turning almost completely numb from the intense cold sure has a way of draining all enjoyment you're supposed to get from an otherwise wonderful day of winter hiking. This was the case 5 min after we got out of the car in the parking lot and started slipping on our gears. I had only my liner glove on initially but my hands might as well have been bare. I couldn't put on my thicker gloves fast enough over it. It took about 10 min, a couple of hand warmers on each hand and clasping/unclasping of my fingers till the numbness subsided. The hand warmers were a definite lifesavers however. I've made a mental note to perhaps also apply them inside my boots next time as my toes were also feeling the frost for most of the hike.
Sei que todos estão ansiosos, mas os app de sorteio que usamos não carregaram até o momento, mas vou deixar a noite carregando e amanhã com certeza ja estará completo, e quando eu acordar ja vejo o sortudo ou sortuda desse grande viagem dos sonhos 😍 .
Espero a compreensão de todos, mais somos refém de INTERNET
📌Estradas dá Chapada (esse dia Não precisou de filtro 😍)
1712 House in Stone Bridge offers 81 acres of completely private winter landscapes to explore. Whether on foot or snowshoes, this beautiful property is filled with postcard worthy views at every bend. And a large fire place to retire next to for a very cozy evening afterwards. Hot chocolate and s'mores anyone?
Stone Ridge, $15,000/month.
7 Bedrooms | 10 Bathrooms | 23 Total Rooms | 9744 sq | 4 Car Garage | 81 acres
To schedule a viewing, contact me via email. email@example.com Additional photos and information about this listing at: www.garydimauro.com
Photos by Jim Smith
On first glance, you might think that this is a photo of an adventurous young chap pondering something deep and meaningful. In reality, this is me looking at the power transmission lines and wondering what voltage they’re running at and whether all that lovely flat land nearby would be suitable for solar PV 🤓😳⚡️☀️
Quintessential winter fun!
Truthfully, the kids did have some fun, so it was worth it, but this particular hour felt so. hard. I hadn't planned on going sledding, just planned on a walk, but Eden asked and given our lack of snowfall this winter, I thought I'd better take the opportunity if they were going to sled at all this winter. So I didn't do my usual morning prep to get us out the door during Zoe's nap. It somehow took about an hour to get everyone from their pajamas to their snow gear, and out the door.
Zoe is teething and fairly fussy (swipe to see unamused Zoe), and she wasn't a big fan of this activity. My parents were visiting, so my Mom and I alternated between pulling Zoe in the baby sled and holding her, but her snow suit was super slippery against our winter coats, so it was challenging. She just wasn't content. 😔 Jesse had a few typical toddler meltdowns - his monster truck wouldn't go all the way down the hill and his fruit pouch was crooked so he couldn't eat it. Eden is still recovering from the virus she had this past week but has been fever free for several days so we've taken her out a bit, it just requires more work from me. Sigh. All in all, I'm always glad we got out, but I'll just say this: It was a hard earned hour.
These two genuinely make my life better with their friendship, sass, alcohol, and @whatthe.tux (the real reason I hang out with them.) Plus they sure do make a cute picture. Their love is inspiring and a photographer couldn’t ask for better subjects or better friends.
We had an awesome weekend hanging out in the backcountry with our friends at @arcteryx this weekend! Lots learned and fresh lines earned!! Up next... Winterstoke 🤘
52121 January, 2020
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