Happy Friday! Today I am officially adding another letter to my LGBT arsenal. I’m coming out (again). 💕🌈🌸
Coming out for the first time as transgender was one of the scariest moments of my life and took a lot of planning and self-preparation in case things didn’t go the way I had hoped. The next time I came out was last June when I came out at Bisexual (technically Pansexual, but Bi is a bit easier to explain.) Because I was already trans, I didn’t think much about being Bi and coming out was more of a formality at the time. Gender identity and sexual orientation are important topics to educate and show visibility, but something less talked about (and lesser known) is the asexual spectrum.
So today, May 24rd, 2019, I am officially coming out as Demisexual! “Demisexual- characterized by only experiencing sexual attraction after making a strong emotional connection with a specific person.” This is something I realized about myself a long time ago, but only learned there was a term for it about a year ago. It may seem like a tiny detail to some, but because of “hookup culture”, it makes dating a bit awkward and fairly daunting. I hope that spreading more awareness and others being more comfortable/understanding as themselves as Demi’s, it will help easily explain why we might not want to “come upstairs for coffee” at the end of the date.
Visibility matters and I am proud to say that I am a DemiPansexual Transgender Woman! (holy cow that’s a mouthful!). All of the LGBT terms can be a bit confusing, but I plan on spending more time focusing and showing support for all of them in the near future.
I am so excited to share this with everyone here. Recently, I finally decided to be more open about my personal life on this account to promote the involvement of trans people in STEM. Last fall, I was the subject of a student documentary to share my journey as a transwoman pursuing a STEM PhD at a conservative catholic university. It was an incredible experience and I cant believe the feedback that its received at film festivals across North America.
When I was first approached by the friend who was proposing this for her class documentary, I saw it as an opportunity to have ~100 students (wow did I underestimate its potential reach) reflect on their perceptions of transwomen in society. We are not men in dresses, but we also dont need to conform to traditional "female" occupations either. My field of engineering is still over 90% Male - making me very nervous about my potential future career if I went through with transitioning. I now know that this was just another attempt to deny that I was trans because i feared all of the backlash I might receive. There was very few LGBT role models at all that I knew of in my field and at my school in general. My decision to come out in light of all that I had going for me as a "middle class straight white male," was the hardest thing that I ever had to do. I couldn't be more proud of the Notre Dame community and their ability to support me no matter what.
Thank you so much Saskia and Grace for giving me an amazing platform to share my story. The film was more impressive than I ever could have imagined it to be. In person, I know I have changed many of my peers' perceptions about trans people, and I know that message is finally getting to reach more people through your film.
I can't publicly post the link to the documentary right now because of rules for upcoming film festivals, but if you would like to watch it, DM me for a link
A Uber, conhecida por apoiar bastante a comunidade gay, vai levando o projeto Cine na Praça de volta ao seu palco de origem, a Praça Victor Civita. Com uma programação especial com temática focada no orgulho LGBTQIA+, a programação vai acontecer entre 6 e 27 de junho.
baby, what you waiting for?
you got the green light.🚦
don't you hold back no more.
let's live our best life.
so baby don't stop, don't stop.
we're getting to the sweet spot, sweet spot. 🍭
baby it's a sure shot, sure shot.
we're getting to the sweet spot, sweet spot. 🍩
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nobody gets to define who I am, and what I want to be. fuck labels, fuck all the toxic mindset people try to cramp me in.
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My bendy arms doing their thing vs Lyle's ramrod straight arm 😂
Today I just want to give up on everything. Lyle phoned the GP surgery, which has been stressing me out for months now, & again we just have them passing me along and telling us to phone next week...being told to call week after week has been going on since 19th March, & we've been waiting for a dr to listen about ME since January. There is no ME specialist near our area, so we HAVE to rely on a GP for management & a diagnosis, which they won't do as they 'don't know enough', but they're also refusing to look at the info we will provide (some of which is written by NICE). ME can *easily* be diagnosed by a GP .
The constant NHS stress, not knowing what's happening, & having a medical interaction hanging over me week after week, is leaving me hugely struggling with my autism & much easier to trigger meltdown. I literally just want to curl into a ball, cry, & hide for the next year. I can't live like this. This without even having a face-to-face appt, & the bullying/abuse/belittling & misgendering that comes with that....the NHS is a line of traumatic bullying twats that refuse to listen, refuse to make accommodations for disability, & where I just accept I WILL be treated like shit everytime I need help.
I keep trying to deal with one health issue at a time, but it's impossible. I've had no help about seizures (1st appt March 2017, still waiting), no help for dysautonomia (April 2018), no help for ME (January 2019) - so when am I supposed to bring up the likelihood of #ehlersdanlossyndrome , or ask for support for my autism? I'm overwhelmed & they're fecking useless...then you finally get to see someone, & they say "you can't have this otherwise you'd have been seen sooner"! 😑🙄 #medicaltrauma#medtrauma#actuallyautistic#autisme#hypermobile#myalgicencephalomyelitis#pwme#severeME#chronicpain#dysautonomia#disabled#disability#spoonie#seizures#transgender#trans#thenhssucks#dallyupdates
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Per the transition... We’re getting closer to the one year mark. I can definitely say I’m more comfortable and confident than I was. I’m sure, out of all of the couples out there to go through something like this in their relationship, we’re well suited to do so. I’ve felt guilty for thinking thoughts like, I miss my wife or I miss her curves... really, I miss lots of things. Opening up & identifying as a lesbian was really hard, giving that identity up is even harder. On the other hand, I’m excited to see how much happier he is, how much more confident & comfortable he is. (Comfortable & confident seems to be a reoccurring theme.) I’ll admit, being able to hold hands or kiss in public and not get the double take is a relief. I’ve really appreciated how supportive and respectful our family and friends have been, it’s made the transition easier for us both. Anyway. That’s that part of my life. #transgender#transition#ftm#relationships#marriage#mypartneristrans#comfortzone#growth#therealstory#keepingitreal