♡ Having an emotional hangover can happen to all of us and Im sure you've experienced it already at some point. That feeling of sadness or anger/frustration, or emptiness, loneliness, unworthiness, after you've been in contact with people.
This can work 2 ways: 1. The situation wasnt good and so you feel bad, or 2. The situation was actually good, but now you're feeling bad.
You'll often find yourself with emotional hangovers whenever you've become aware and started your healing. People with childhood emotional neglect can experience this a lot. You, being aware of what happened in your past, what has hurt you and the role of certain people in that. Then having to go to those people for a birthday or something, silently being confronted with the pain and unawareness. After going home you feel completely depleted and hurt. Its been too much being in their presence, while probably acting like everything is fine. Due to your awakening, that bridge of understanding (needed for survival) that you once built, is now crumbling down and so is your tolerance for things/people that do not align with where and who you are now.
On the other hand, what also can happen: you being aware of what has been missing, opening up to the feelings of that lack, then daring to connect with others, which feels really good and fulfilling and then having to let that go again when the gathering is over. Its like getting an emotional high and then having to come off if it again. You want more of it, you crave that deeper connection, or that love, or that playful goofyness, or that joy, or that steady, safe energy etc...but its taken away from you. This can leave you feeling sad, empty and alone.
Emotional hangovers can be rough and cut deep. So, important when having an emotional hangover: selfcare. Be gentle, be loving, support yourself, question why you are feeling what you are feeling and see if you can work with that. You'll have up and downs, but the more you heal and take aligned action, the more these emotional hangovers will die down. ♡
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“When helping a broken person, you may cut yourself on their shattered pieces” —> I want to thank everyone who has sacrificed their time and energy by being there at my side EVERY step of the way during my recent struggles. You have been the constants in my life when everything else seemed so bleak. You have showered me with L💛VE & I don’t know where I would be without you.. I am forever grateful for your compassion, empathy & persistence while I have been sorting through my trauma. #endthestigma 📢
From the outside it may look like malingering, bad temper and ugly behaviour – and who can empathize with such unattractive traits? Depression is actually much more complex, nuanced and dark than unhappiness – more like an implosion of self. In a serious state of depression, you become a sort of half-living ghost. #committed#returntolove#keepcomingback#monkeyonmyback #mentalhealthawareness#depression#traumarecovery#addictionrecovery
Today I choose hope.. Here’s to the next chapter of my life. To the special people in my life: May you be happy, may you be healthy, may you be safe & may you live with ease 🌼
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"Paljoa et tarvitse:
hiljaisuuden, luonnon, lähimmäiset,
järjestys on tämä
jotta luopuminen helpottuisi." (Helena Anhava)
Tänään sain ohjata traumasensitiivistä joogaa osana @surunauha ry:n vertaistukiviikonloppua. Helena Anhavan viisaat sanat tervehtivät fläpillä tullessani aamulla tilaan ja jäivät soimaan jonnekin syvälle sisimpään. Lämmin kiitos osallistujille merkityksellisestä kohtaamisesta.
what do you do when you've lost yourself and don't know how to get back? or wors when you never knew who you really are? you go in search of yourself. Here are some of the things I recommend or do with clients to help them get dind themselves again. * *
it's not an easy process and it does take time but as you do the work, you find more clarity and peace. *
note that it's not a one-time thing. we find and lose ourselves sometimes on a daily basis. the world changes quickly and so do we but we remain consistent at our core. which is why change can be soooooo hard. *
remember that if you need help, helpers are always available so don't be afraid to reach out.
DM me if you need someone to guide you. #traumarecovery#toxicrelationships#traumabonding#selfloveclub#womeninspiringwomen#selfhealing#mentalhealthtips#emotionalhealing#healingjourney#nocontact#narcissists#drsusaye
Co-written by our very own Dr Jacqui Winship and Professor Gill Straker from the school of Psychology at the University of Sydney. ⠀
"The Talking Cure" was born out of a question commonly posed by students: 'But what really happens in the therapy room? How does it work in practice?' ⠀
In an effort to respond to this question, as well as to grapple with why it is that so many of their patients are high functioning individuals in many aspects of their lives yet troubled in others, Gill Straker and Jacqui Winship spent the next two years drawing on their combined decades of experience as psychotherapists to write The Talking Cure. While metaphorically allowing the reader to peek inside the therapy room and observe the process in action, the book also breaks down the divide between therapist and patient and illustrates the kinds of issues that we are all vulnerable to. ⠀
The essence of successful therapy is the relationship between the therapist and the patient, a dance of growing trust and understanding. It is an intimate, messy, often surprising and sometimes confusing business - but when it works, it is life-changing. In The Talking Cure, Gill and Jacqui bring us nine inspiring stories of personal transformation. They introduce us to their patients, fictional amalgams of real-life cases, and reveal how the art of talking and listening helps us to understand deep-seated issues that profoundly influence who we are in the world and how we see ourselves in relation to others. ⠀
To read more and order your copy today head to:⠀
(EXPOSURE DAY 3) CUT IT OUT: STOP SUPPRESSING YOUR GEMS TO MAKE OTHERS FEEL ADEQUATE.
My 20's were a blur, but it was ONE BIG GROWING PAIN. I was stuck in a continuous year. You know same shit different year. I recycled the same issues, same problems, same fight with the person I was dating.
When 30 came believe me I felt like a kid who ended up with a consulation prize.
Why, because I was playing small.. I didn't want to pop any bodies bubbles or bust any balls, because I had taken on that role of emotional complex HERO.
My last relationship and for some of the people in my life my vision was TOO BIG, my drive for more, and my purpose de-masculated those around me. I realized quickly I would bury it within or deal with the fight that came with it. So I would celebrate each promotion alone, and then go home, and never speak of it.
It was a learning lesson I now teach my clients it's not their responsibility to: ->Down play themselves so others aren't triggered by their bad ass magic!
->Worry about if their purpose, vision or gifts offend others.
->Crap on their gifts to make another feel adequate.
->Muffle their voice + shut off their light to make someone else's brighter
Cut it out! You were meant to have your gifts to reach a bigger reach than a peon minded individual who is projecting their nonsense off on you.
IT'S TIME TO SHINE LIKE THE DIAMOND YOU ARE! PLACE YOUR CROWN + WALK IN YOUR TRUTH!
19. Negación/Denial #MayoMúltiple#MultiplicityMay
El tag del día (tarde, pero aquí está) era "fingir". La ignorancia, lo que la ciencia todavía no ha mirado, las terapias estrafalarias y la representación irresponsable en medios han arrastrado un gran estigma sobre la mente múltiple desde hace siglos. Decidí cambiar la palabra del título, porque detrás de una acusación de estar fingiendo una condición de salud mental, hay negación y una creencia inmadura y arrogante de que podemos juzgar la vivencia de lxs demás a partir de nuestro marco de realidad. El universo siempre será más extenso de lo que podemos asir, ¿por qué creer que ya lo sabemos todo? Ten cuidado con tus palabras, porque no sabes con qué está cargando quien te escucha.
A little late, but here it is. Today's prompt was "faking" but I changed the title to "denial" because behind an accusation of faking a mental health issue, there is denial and the arrogant belief that we can judge other's experience based on our own reality. Ignorance, what science still doesn't know, flamboyant therapists, and the reckless representation of the media have weighed a burden of stigma over the plural mind for centuries.
The universe will always be greater than our own knowledge, why believe we already understand everything? Be careful with your words, because you don't know what that person is dealing with. .
I absolutely LOVE Katy Perry’s “Roar”song and music video. I am about to get very raw and real.
The first part where she “fell for everything” reminds me of who I was most of my life. For over 22 of my 28 years I lived where I believed that I had no value of my own because all my value was in “Jesus”, after all I am just a sinner saved by grace! I was pushed to the breaking point day after day as any sign of independence or seeing yourself as anything but a piece of sh*t was evil and you would go to hell for it. Eventually you just shut down to survive.
Over the past 5years it’s been embracing my own value, inner power, beauty and awakening to what life can really be if I choose it. It isn’t always the easy road or popular but it sure does being more freedom in the end.
Freedom to be you. To enjoy life. To bring beauty to life around you. To be comfortable in your own skin. To embrace yourself rather than hate. To live in peace rather than fear. To love because you see that you yourself are lovable. To be authentic. To create a life worth living.
When we use words like CAN’T while tapping, it’s because it FEELS true to our conscious brain, but the non-verbal part of our brain that keeps us stuck in fight or flight actually hears something different... it is validated, it calms, and it only hears “I can”. •
What do you believe you “can’t”, and why? When will you come sit with me so we can •coffee•talk•share•?
Help me get EFT INTO ALL the hands and TAG someone who you know would love EFT. Every TAG enters you & the one you tag for a FREE in person or live video EFT session with me💜 So tag em all cuz 10 tags is 20 entires! #emotionalfreedomtechnique#efttapping#info#christianeft#hope#traumarecovery#selfhelp#raffle#decisions#anxiety#anxietysupport#panicattack
1224 hours ago
I have all 4 of these plus 1 and it really does seem that as one becomes more manageable, another will invariably take center stage and demand attention •
This weekend was honestly a roller coaster of emotions for Riley and I. We were either up or we were down. But thanks to therapy, we were able to process our feelings more clearly and come back together and talk about it without wanting to murder each other. Today I was able to go my beautiful neighbors house and learn about an amazing program “The Mission Driven Mom” and revisit the knowledge of the drama triangle and the empowerment triangle. It was so inspiring, and always nice to relearn/revisit certain areas that always apply to your life. Tonight Riley and I were able to place each other and ourselves in the drama triangle, and talk about where we need to improve not only in our relationship, but within ourselves. We have codependency issues. Who knew... 🤷🏻♀️ but it is so inspiring to surround yourself with people who are wanting to thrive in their own lives and become better! I am so thankful for my neighbor, for thinking of me and inspiring me. I am also very thankful for a husband who is choosing recovery and working on himself daily. #addictionrecovery#betrayaltraumarecovery#traumarecovery#progressoverperfection#ftnd#fightthenewdrug#fightforlove#youareworthit#missiondrivenmom#dontplayintothedrama#thisisus#ourlifeunexpected
Day 18 of #multiplicitymay is “Faking.”
We heavily advocate against system “witch hunts”. Generally they’re made on limited understandings of a person, and on not very solid rationale. By all means, if a system abuses you, or if they spread misinformation about systems, there’s nothing wrong with warning people about them or telling people that they’re sharing things that aren’t true. If a person is being dangerous towards others, it will show in ways other than arbitrary “proof” of them lying about their system. Many people with DID doubt themselves enough as it is, and finding “proof” of fake systems often does more harm to innocent systems than it does to the potentially fake system. Overall it helps nobody. Trust yourself, trust your alters’ experiences. #dissociativeidentitydisorder#dissociation #DID#psychology#mentalhealthawareness#mentalhealthadvice#healingtrauma#traumarecovery #integration#faking
404 hours ago
Such a huge part of Post Traumatic Growth lies within our 'why'.
Trauma can cause depression, anxiety, PTSD, substance abuse, isolation, loss of meaning and loss of faith along with the waves that come with grief & change . But 70% of people who have experienced a significant trauma go through Post Traumatic Growth. They become more resilient, their relationships become more meaningful and they live with greater intention. A huge part of practicing resilience is finding our purpose.
Find out what you would die for - and live for it.
Alone feels safe. Numb feels safe. Abuse makes us find a way to survive. It's hard to take down the wall when each brick is one more scary, painful memory. Please be patient. We are learning. We don't know who we are or how to react. But we're learning. In the mean time we will still try to hide behind our walls. .
About a year ago, I thought I’d be graduating high school this week. I thought I’d be going to prom, wearing a cap and gown, and flying high as a senior. •
Instead, I’ve been a high school graduate since October. I’m watching the people from my old school go through the motions and the final days of their high school experience. •
It’s a bit raw honestly. Watching these people do the things you’d always thought you’d be doing too. Living in a way you’d never imagined, and learning things you never thought you’d know. •
Despite the pain associated with it all, there’s some things that I can’t lose sight of. I’ve been living and taking care of myself as an adult for more than a year. I’ve had my high school degree for eight months. I’ve been taking care of my basic needs despite the cocktail of mental disorders influencing my brain. I’ve survived a bitter divorce between my father and my abuser, and formed a new family of two and a bit (myself, my Dad, and my 7lb dog). I’ve learned more in the last year than I learned in my entire time as a student. I’ve learned about societal issues that we never talked about, life skills we were never taught, and discovered more about myself and the inner workings of the mind than school could ever teach. •
I’ve learned how to live. Without abuse. With trauma. With anxiety. With PTSD. Without an eating disorder. •
So maybe I’m not where I imagined. But I am where I needed to be.
There’s a difference between feeling what needs to be felt and actually staying in a story of victimhood. That’s the difference we’re here to teach around empowerment!
2716 hours ago
Day 3 Walk🌞🌳☺️ Third consecutive day to go for a long sunshine filled walk in my happy, happy place. I feel so good right now, I can't wait to go again tomorrow.
Realizing 2 things. (1) the real amazing affect that nature and being outside has on me. My soul is so content. And my battle is easier.
And two. (2) I'm not working (yes, I'm pretty much broke after my final student assistant paycheck😭) but also I'm not a student anymore👩🎓 ... I feel so free. So much time to take care of me. I'm not as stressed. I'm not even sleeping in. There's nothing to avoid. I know I can't live like this - I need to be a student (grad school) and unfortunately I need to work 🙁 BUT I plan to enjoy every minute of this. And walk and nature every second of it. #thankful
2226 hours ago
Together we remember. Thank you, Mosaic Sacred Partners, for including The Leadership Studio in the reading of names of those who have perished in genocides, giving voice to the victims... generating collective action for memory, justice, and peace. The power of interfaith communities.
#Repost from @ the.holistic.psychologist with @ regram.app .
Vulnerability has become a buzz word. I’m all about it because vulnerability IS healing. It creates healing in yourself and those around you.
I knew when I came to Instagram, that I wanted to create community. A place where people felt safe to share things they might otherwise not share. There is a reason I’m vulnerable in this space: my job as a therapist didn’t allow it. Limited vulnerability means limited healing. A community willing to be vulnerable will organically create healing. #selfhealers are a testament to that.
To me, vulnerability simply means showing up. Being seen. And being heard. For most of this is terrifying, because as children we internalized the fear of showing up from adults around us. We were judged or criticized (even in a light hearted way) and our nervous system felt the hit. It recorded the memory in the subconscious. Which is why our mind races as any type of felt exposure. It’s saying ‘Don’t do that again. That isn’t safe.’ It’s really interesting when I start to work with a new client. They’ll say ‘I read your post on x’ or ‘that story you told about your sister on YouTube is like my sister.’ I would feel exposed. It took some adjustment. A lot of strangers know a lot about me. They know I’m estranged from my family. They know about my divorce. They know deeply personal things about my life.
My heart tells me this is healing #selfhealers
1327 hours ago
When I’m in the arena working with Military Vets & First Responders in the Save a Warrior cohorts (a suicide prevention & PTSD recovery program), I am the absolute best version of myself...my SOUL and my HEART are aligned on a plane of existence that is really hard to describe. But I can tell you how it feels...it feels like home. It feels like we are in the flow, the light, divine timing and GRACE. I refer to it as the ‘nous’ (defined as the mind’s eye)...it’s where we perceive that which is unseen, where we understand that which is unknown. The men and women who experience my style of equine therapy have shared with me that there’s something magical that happens in the arena with the horses...and I agree. Me too! I receive the magic from the *nous* as much as they do (maybe even more?!). Yes, I am very proud of what I have created through my work with horse & human...and I am humbled every day by what I am learning and how much room for growth I still have. My prayer is this: Creator, please guide me to remain open, curious, and indefensible so as to serve with LOVE. Aho 🙏
If your psyche was a house, what would it look like?
What is your foundation made of? What materials are you built from? What do you host within your walls? Are there rooms left unfinished or spaces abandoned? Are you renovating anything? Do you feel at ease standing within these walls?
Spend a minute imagining all the basics of your personality and what that has brought to you in terms of shelter or a “sense of home”. We live in the constructs of ourselves.. who are you?
When I’m in the arena working with Military Vets & First Responders in Save a Warrior cohorts (a suicide prevention & PTSD recovery program), I am the absolute best version of myself...my SOUL and my HEART are aligned on a plane of existence that is really hard to describe. But I can tell you how it feels...it feels like home. It feels like we are in the flow, the light, divine timing and GRACE. I refer to it as the ‘nous’ (defined as the mind’s eye)...it’s where we perceive that which is unseen, where we understand that which is unknown. The men and women who experience my style of equine therapy have shared with me that there’s something magical that happens in the arena with the horses...and I agree. Me too! I receive the magic from the *nous* as much as they do (maybe even more?!). Yes, I am very proud of what I have created through my work with horse & human...and I am humbled every day by what I am learning and how much room for growth I still have. My prayer is this: Creator, please guide me to remain open, curious, and indefensible so as to serve with LOVE. Aho 🙏
Happy Full Moon! 🌝 | The Scorpio full moon (also a blue moon known as the 'full flower moon') is a time of major growth, transformation, and awakening.⠀
Here are a few pointers to help you take advantage of the cosmic energy that is available to support your elevation over the next few days:⠀
📔Journal Prompt: Describe what makes you feel whole and complete.⠀
💎Stones: Clear Quartz, Selenite, Amethyst, Botswana Agate, Moonstone, Lapis Lazuli, Black Obsidian⠀
🦋Affirmation: I validate myself and actively listen to my inner guidance.⠀
Here's to an evening of deep reflection, acceptance, and holistic self-care.⠀
In Peace & Beauty⠀
📻P.S. Click the link in bio (@rohiniwellness) to listen to my FREE 15-minute Inner Guidance Meditation on the Yes To You Podcast or visit yestoyoupodcast.com⠀
🌕Mitra & I 🌕
Soaking in these full moon rays
Took ourselves for a midnight moon bath at la Luna’s brightest time. Soaked it all in... Frolicking around, while everyone was home hi hi hi
In complete gratitude of the many blessings & lessons mama sends my way... // my spirit called upon myself... // I & I manifested...
This is what a #lunallena is all about
Get your FREE #lunalove calendar and learn (truly.. remember..) how to work with the moon’s energetics-> link in bio 🌕 .
No catch... it’s my gift to you
Kindly credit your sister’s work... #givethanks
. . #moderndayhealing#reclaimyourpower
Happy Armed Forces Day! Thank a service member today. Ask them if they are ok, like genuinely ok. Ask them to tell you a story, bc trust me when I say we always have a story. Ask them about where they went, who they met, things they saw, experiences they had. Share their joy or heartache with them and give them some relief or just be an active listener. Learn something about different parts of this world because, though a lot of it can be traumatizing, a lot of it can also be culturally eye opening and beautiful. A lot of it can show us just how human we all are no matter where we live or the things we believe. We are all human and being in the service and seeing other countries in that way shows us we all just want love, compassion, and peace no matter what “side” you are on. So see how it shakes out for the ones you know. Don’t let the thing they did in their life, that is a HUGE accomplishment, become ordinary or mundane. To them it was their everyday life for however long they served, BUT that doesn’t mean it should be an “average” life or something we shouldn’t discuss. If they can’t talk about it bc it’s painful that’s a clear sign they should get help from someone. If they don’t want to talk about it bc they are ashamed show them your love and gratitude and make them feel understood. If they feel like it was “no big deal” tell them they are wrong it was a really really big deal. Just take some time to ask the questions and either help someone or appreciate them. 💖 👩🏻✈️In 4 days I leave for my training to come back and help more vets heal some souls and minds, and help save some lives, and it couldn’t be a better time to reminisce on my story and how big of a deal it is. 👨🏼✈️
I am a badass! 💪 #happyarmedforcesday#thankyou#grateful#vetoga#yogaeverydamnday#usnvet#IC3Raper#suicidepreventionawareness#traumarecovery#youarenotalone#veteranyoga#veteran#navyveteran#brothersandsisters#somanystories#askforhelp#offerhelp#youcanheal#beproud#unashamed#honored
4649 hours ago
It’s little things that catch my eye and soften my heart with thankfulness.... like the early morning sun as it shines on a quilt (currently covering a fugly chair in the loung room) that was gifted to me in a women’s trauma support place. Local women make these quilts and give them freely to other women who are doing it tough, or healing from abuse. They gather in fragments and odd pieces of fabric to create something functional and beautiful. For me, this quilt gives me hope in our human capacity for kindness, because it’s often small gestures like this that create mighty strides of courage in someone’s journey. #recovery#traumarecovery#livewell#courage#alifewelllived#riseabove#womenhelpingwomen#helpinghands#hope#love#myjourney
209 hours ago
Some people just get it...they may not understand but they see the effect the loss of Ethan has had on me.
As the 9 month anniversary draws near it feels as though people have already forgotten him & the impact he had on my life. He may be gone but he is still impacting my life...& in a way that I never imagined.
I’ll be honest it is still hard! Very hard! Hard to accept that he isn’t just a phone call away & that the rest of my life is not going to be the way we had planned it out to be...TOGETHER.
So I’m grateful for the ones that check in often & still send me love & light.
The ones that know that this has changed me forever.
The ones that don’t expect the old Annette from me.
The ones that are patient with me.
The ones that listen & validate my grief rather than ignore it.
The ones that get it that sometimes I just can’t & don’t want to speak.
The ones that turn up & make me feel safe.
The ones that understand that I am in physical pain.
The ones that put up with my zero patience & irrational moments 🤦🏽♀️ #sorry
To the ones that don’t assume that I have given up.
The ones that make me laugh #iloveyou
The ones that have not forgotten Ethan & have not forgotten that the grieving process is long. The ones that see it’s exhausting & frustrating as the highs & lows hit you everyday & at times in a split second! #nekminnit#laughing#nekminnit#crying
THANK YOU FOR LOVING ME & BEING PATIENT WITH ME....THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME STAND UP EVERYDAY & TO KEEP ME MOVING FORWARD....EVEN THOUGH SOMETIMES IM CRAWLING!
You know who you are & I am grateful to each of you for sticking around even though I know it’s uncomfortable & hard for you too.
x o #oneinamelon ❤️🍉 .
There are lots of definitions out there, but to me, trauma informed yoga is a way of teaching and holding space in a yoga class that supports trauma survivors in feeling safe in their bodies. It is knowing that in every class there is likely a survivor of trauma, and that my priority as a teacher is first to create a sense of safety and choice, which will benefit both survivors of trauma and students who don't have trauma.
It is a way of teaching that focuses on connecting the mind and the body, that support students in claiming ownership of their experiences, that over time *might* help reduce trauma symptoms.
There are lots of ways to do this! I do this through -making sure I introduce myself to everyone, -clearly orienting students to the space, -orienting students to time (ex: this is a 75 minute class; we'll be in savasana for a few minutes, etc),
-offering *as much choice as possible* to empower students, -offering the option of a soft gaze rather than closing the eyes,
- offering the option of movement during savasana rather than stillness,
-using language that is intentional to reduce triggering students, -emphasizing the internal felt experience of shapes (interoception) to increase mind/body connection which often gets compromised due to trauma.
-NEVER HANDS ON ASSIST WITHOUT 100% CONSENT. Or just don't assist with touch. I could do a whole post on this, but for now will leave it at that.
Trauma informed yoga is a big topic!
If you're a trauma survivor, what might help a class feel safer and more inclusive for you?
If you're a yoga teacher, how do you teach in a trauma informed way? There are so many ways to do this, I'd love to hear your thoughts!
#majordepressivedisorder was one of my earliest diagnosis.
I've been in a #majordepressiveepisode for a few weeks now, following three incredibly stressful events that began in April... 1. A major consent violation in a classroom full of massage therapists in which my No was denied over and over. It felt like #rape
I had the honor to finally meet and have breakfast with International Speaker, Author of 25 books, and Great Spiritual Teacher Brother Ishmael Tetteh @consciousfather and his daughter Josephine which completely changed my view about my believe in spirit. @davidesteel@jennyscholl@premyogimusic 💓
Dr Jacqui Winship has over twenty-three years of experience as a clinical psychologist, psychotherapist and supervisor and author.⠀
Jacqui works with adults, adolescents and couples and believes in the power of the therapy relationship to enable individuals and couples to grow, heal and thrive. She offers an integrative approach drawing from attachment theory, schema therapy and relational psychotherapy in order to assist clients to explore and understand issues that are troubling them and to develop resources and strategies to resolve, accept or overcome these issues.⠀
To book in a session with Dr Jacqui send through an email to email@example.com